I can understand how you feel. Hope you are feeling better now. I got this herpes from a guy I dated with and only a one night intimated. I was angry with him at first that he did not tell me about it. Well that was when I got Initial OB and was not educated enough about herpes. I turned to be ok after a month. I was not upset or angry at him no more as I thought it was my choice to go out and had sex with him. In the bright side, I have met many herpsters. I have made some more nice friends and this skin condition would not worry me no more while I got these ppl supporting me all along. It was my choice coming this way, it meant to be and actually it is quite a nice society with sincerely and supports.
I did a talk to a non herpes guy. It was so difficult to tell him. I did not even wanna face him while talking. So I know exactly how you feel. Chin up and keep on!
I feel like something is wrong with me and I don't want it to be it but I feel like it's it. A few weeks ago I felt tingling around my face and I kept itching my face and at the time I was so full of anxiety cause I was worried that I got something from my boyfriend. I trust him but I was withdrawing from Klonopin at the time and it was making me super paranoid. I kept itching my face and corners of my face all night. I got up the next morning and went to an appointment and came home later on that day and took a nap, when I woke up I got on my computer and went on about my day like usual. Than I looked at myself in the mirror and I saw this purple thing on the side of my mouth, I freaked out. It didn't burn or anythng but it did hurt for like a day when I ate. I felt really cheap at this point and deep down I felt like it could be something. I've asked so many people on what they think it is and they all say different things. It's still there on the side of my mouth and that was on the 8th of this month. It's purple, it's not a blister or anything but it's under my lip. Why would it be under my lip? Is this possible? I'm so scared, I don't want to have herpes but I feel like it is. Now I'm on antibiotics and some of the side effects are tingly and burning of the mouth but it happens on and off through out the day. And under my mouth feels like it's tingly too.. I'm so confused, is it the antibiotics doing this? Or do I have herpes? Why won't that purple thing on my lip go away? My eye was red a little while ago and it's clearing up a little bit but there's still some red veins there. I'm freaking out! I feel like my whole world is over. I keep telling my mother that I have something and that something is wrong with me but she keeps telling me that there's nothing wrong. I keep getting bladder infections and urinating a lot and I want it to go away and if it doesn't I could possibly have herpes 2. I want to go to the hospital and find out what's wrong. Deep down I'm worried that my parents will disown me and won't love me anymore. I'm so worried. I don't think I could live with myself if I found out I had both. I loved my boyfriend and he got rid of me. He doesn't love me anymore cause I was worried I got herpes from him cause of what I've been feeling. He told me he was married for 8 years and nothing ever happened. And his wife never had a break out. But he's the kind of guy that I don't trust. After we made love, I found out that he slept around and had many girlfriends. I always used a condom but I know that doesn't stop anything. Man I'm so stupid and naive, I hate myself. I still have a bladder infection and it hasn't cleared up any. I feel like I'm going insane. Wish I could go back in time and wish that I never met him, I feel so cheap and used. He's so cold and distant, he told me to never call him cause he thinks I gave him scabies by sleeping with someone else. Deep down I feel like he did that so he could get rid of me. Please someone help me, someone help me!
Both parties need to sit down and talk. Also being honest is helping each other get thru the problem. We agreed on to do those stuff so he was sure he had a very very tidy chance to get it. It was a peace of mind for me as well because I did not want to pass on to anyone. In my case herpes was not a reason to end the relationship but something else.
The answer to your question really depends on how long YOU want to wait. If it were me, I would end things now. It sounds like you've waited long enough. I would tell him that I like him a lot but I want to be with someone who is going to be comfortable having sex with me. And I would give him credit for being kind and for considering it, despite his fears. I would move on now because even if he changes his mind in a few weeks, I would always worry that he is worried about it, and that would ruin the sex for me. There ARE people out there who don't give a crap about hsv and I would rather be with someone like that (and am currently). Plus, no matter what you do, you can't protect him 100% from getting the virus. If he's reacting this way now, imagine how he would react if he caught the virus from you.
This is all that needs to be done, but sadly its not always the case.
My ex girlfriend made me feel guilty for using condoms, and obviously when you are blinded by emotion you tend to make stupid choices. Also she wasnt on antiviral meds, needless to say i ended the relationship a year later.