Just for some background, I was diagnosed with HSV-1 (in the genital area) about 2 years ago. I have never had an outbreak since my initial and horrific first outbreak. From what i read, many who have HSV-1 have a lower chance of outbreaks. Since then I have only had intercourse with 2 new guys. I have never been one to sleep around but it is one way we as adults express our feelings toward someone. That being said, I have recently started dating a guy the past two months. It was very new and unfortunately I let my body's wants over power what my mind was telling me. Yes, I know now it was wrong to have slept with him before discussing my herpes status and I am now having such a hard time preparing myself to tell him. I have a more important question... I do not know if he too has herpes, but oddly enough just a few days after we had intercourse I began a second outbreak. I am not sure if it is coincidence but is it possible for him to have herpes too and he also just never told me. The timing is just so odd for me to have my second outbreak ever, just days after intercourse. Please weigh in your opinions and refrain from judging the fact that I slept with him prior to explaining my situation..thanks in advance.
Clunk makes a valid point for me. Men my age don't want meaningful relationships, they only want sex. They are not going to hang around to wait and fall in love with me (and I consider myself fun, sexy, smart and beautiful). Five more years and they won't even want sex from me. What is a girl my age supposed to do?