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  1. So I regular get checked for stds but herpes is not in the routine check like you mostly know and in the U.K. you can't get checked unless you have a blister. I recently got these like white patches on my pubic area, I spoke to the doctor and they dismissed it as just decoloration. Next, I had spots show up, they are red and itchy which is why I noticed them, they appeared on my thighs, on my butt, down my legs (front and back) and up my stomach, again I phoned they doctors and they said it was a heat rash and nothing to worry about. I then had a white spot appear on my pubic area, quite big,
  2. Hi, hive mind, I was diagnosed with genital herpes Oct. 2019 (HSV 1) and have been on antivirals since. This week, I’ve had a minor weird sore on my lip line (no prodromal symptoms) and I’m wondering if I contracted oral herpes at the same time. This would be helpful to ascertain, as my husband is HSV negative and we’re trying to keep it that way. Does anyone have any thoughts about this? I am wondering the following specifically. (1) If you have multiple sites of infection, how does an outbreak work? Do you get an outbreak everywhere you’ve been infected? Or just one site? (2) I’ve
  3. I have been trying to figure out if this is gHSV. I get really sensitive especially after shaving, I get the occasional tingling in my vagina but I've never had a sore or at least known of one. Last night my vagina was hurting after shaving and then I poured aloe on it and it nearly all cleared up. I have gotten 2 swabs and am waiting on a blood test, but both other blood tests and swabs came out negative for gHSV. Also I get cold sores.... -Does this look like herpes? -I am having trouble knowing the signs and symptoms because I'm always tired from college so its hard to tell -
  4. I got my HSV diagnosis yesterday and coped spectacularly...for about 24 hours. Now I’m freaking out, alternating between moderate anxiety and despair. I don’t currently have health insurance, my right eye feels weird, and it seems possible, maybe even likely, I autoinnoculated. Does anyone have any experience with this and/or advice for me? I’m assuming I should suck up the cost and see an ophthalmologist pronto because there must be some advantage to starting treatment sooner rather than later. (Of course, I could also just be making myself crazy....) All words of wisdom welcome, and thank yo
  5. So I was diagnosed with GHSV1 about five months ago. Even though I ended up disclosing to four of my amazing friends, I was dating a guy prior to finding out that I was a carrier of HSV (he’s not the guy who I got it from) and let’s just say he didn’t take it as well as I thought. Recently, this summer some guy who I’ve crossed paths with on multiple occasions over the last couple of years have come back into my life and we fell in love really quickly. Sadly, we ended up having sex prior to me telling him about this new chapter in my life. Thankfully I did end up telling him (just telling him
  6. Please help I'm going see my doctor but yesterday's I woke with a itch but nothing was there but throughout the day I got red and well look at the pic could this be a outbreak https://ibb.co/7kGsFQX
  7. Jennifer1994

    Do I have it

    I got a 0.15 on my test should I be scared?
  8. Learningtolivewithhsv

    Advice for GHSV-1

    So I made it to month four without a visible sign of an outbreak. I had a really bad outbreak in the ending of April and was diagnosed with GHSV1. My initial outbreak took about a month to heal and left scars (a lighter pigmentation from my overall complexion on my genitals). Sadly I have been ridiculously paranoid to the point I have taken two 7 day treatments of Valtrex. More than likely it was probably just yeast infections (I get them way more than I should, even before getting hsv). I also take lysine twice a day and three times a day when I feel like an outbreak is coming on. I’ve been a
  9. Learningtolivewithhsv

    First disclosure. PRAY FOR ME

    So I am new to the herpes world. I was diagnosed with ghsv-1 on May 17th. I was dating two guys at once (one I was sexually active with and someone else). The last person I had sex with, I am pretty sure he’s the one that gave it to me. I did disclose to all of my sex partners using text free because I was too embarrassed to reveal myself. But anyway, today I disclosed to the other guy I was seeing when I found out that I was gHSV-1 positive. We have been seeing one another one to two time a week and have planned basically our whole summer out. Even though he wanted to take it slow we are most
  10. Hello everyone, so I have this issue with my girlfriend. To make a long story short we've been dating for a about 8 months now and told her I had hsv2 after we had a night of drinking and and getting physical in the sheets with out protection , something I wasn't completely thinking about or in the right state to even think about it. So about 2 weeks after I started feeling really guilty about it and told her that I have hsv2 , at first she was pissed...well for a while and I really like her a lot. Of course we are still together and use protection every time but my problem is she
  11. Learningtolivewithhsv

    Traveling with initial outbreak. HELP!!

    So I have recently been diagnosed with ghsv-1. I am traveling to Mexico soon tomorrow and my outbreak hasn’t completely healed as of yet. It’s been a week since taking the medicine and about a week and a half before noticing the outbreak. Even though it’s not painful to pass urine anymore but I’ve been pooping a lot and feel like I’m getting another outbreak inside of my anus. Are there any essentials that I should pack in order to subside the pain? Whilst home I’ve been taking epsom salt baths and adding tea tree oil to my sores.
  12. I was just recently diagnosed with HSV1 but the outbreak is on my vagina and I do not have any cold sores on my mouth. I thought it was ok to kiss the man I've been dating and give him oral since I don't have any sores on my mouth. But now both he and I are panicking that I may have passed it to him unknowingly. What exactly is the risk? What should I do? What should he do? I just started taking the medication today and we were kissing last night. I feel so stupid for not knowing it could still present a risk.
  13. TaylorNicks


    Hello! I’m new here, I found out about 8 months ago that I am living with Herpes. I have been dating my boyfriend for 10 months. I was infected last January. I was out with friends and went to an after party at a mutual friends, friends, party. I ended up getting drugged and raped. I woke up the next morning, covered in my own blood and in an unfamiliar place. Once I got home, I realized I had the worst pain in my genital area. Later to get tested and be positive for herpes. It’s one thing to have herpes, it’s another to have received them through rape. Anyway, When I found out, I didn’t
  14. I've known him for less than a month. I model &he is a young, handsome assistant photographer with whom I was in Mexico with for 5 days. I have been diagnosed with HSV2 for over a year now, but I have only had an outbreak twice within that year& I do take antiviral medication for it. He &I did not know eachother prior to Mexico, but we hit it off& as a single-mother who doesn't get out much I am guilty of making the first move by asking if it was cool to cuddle. I was actually really surprised he said yes, with that being said I do remember thinking to myself,"but I have herpes
  15. Should I send a link to the labbox testing for the guy I hooked up with? I told him I have HSV2 after the deed was done and of course promised to pay for any expenses for testing. I found the link to labbox through honey, but I’m worried if I send him the link the horrific description about hsv2 beneath the merchandise will give him a heart-attack. What should I do? I messed up and I’m trying to help without making it worse.
  16. https://imgur.com/a/Wj2dETS Hi all, about 2 days ago I started to feel intense pain on my labia majora, looked down and saw 2 rather large open sores( 1 on either side). The pus (normal looking yellow) from the sores have stopped this morning. A day later, there was a blister that formed in my pubic area. In addition to this, there is skin shedding whenever I wipe after a pee ( it doesn't hurt when I urinate, I don't have a fever). My only sexual activity has been with a virgin and it was oral (started April 27th and ended June 8th). I've never seen a cold sore on this guy's mouth so I am
  17. anon2018j

    Next Outbreak

    Hello, so I have recently just been diagnosed with herpes type 1, I had a Cold sore on my face and it also spread my genitals. I was wondering where is my next outbreak likely to be? genitals or around my mouth?
  18. Hi all. I’m so glad I have found this forum. I have just been diagnosed with genital herpes. I’m currently so damn sore and itchy. I feel ashamed and skanky. I was with my husband for 17 years. We split up 4 years ago. There was a gap I had a few sexual relationships but always used condoms. I then met my boyfriend and we’ve been together nearly 3 years. I am still friends with my previous sexual partner and contacted him and said he doesn’t have it. And has had a sexual health check in January all ok. So is it possible my current boyfriend is the carrier? He has no symptoms. Again we use cond
  19. I was diagnosed with Genital Herpes 18 months ago and it just doesn't get any easier.. I'm still just as angry/upset about this whole situation. It weighs me down that little bit more every day like a tonne of bricks on my shoulders. I don't even know who I am anymore, I have pushed the closest people away from me without even realising I just don't know what to do I need help.
  20. Hi there, Feeling very lost and worried about the constant outbreaks I’ve had since my initial diagnosis 3 months ago. My first outbreak was terrible, lasted 3 weeks, after my first round of valcyclovir I had about four clear days then immediately had another outbreak. Took another round of valcyclovir and went on suppressive therapy. Started at 500mg/day and was still having constant outbreaks, I spoke to my dr and he upped the dose to 1g/day and also tested for HIV to cover all bases (came back negative). My outbreaks are becoming increasingly mild and I hardly notice them but I ALWAYS
  21. On Halloween, I got drunk (I this isn't an excuse) and slept with this guy I've been talking to for about a month now. I now feel completely guilty I didn't tell him that I have the herpes virus (I've only been recently diagnosed only about 1.5 months ago). I don't know what to say to him, or how to bring up that I have the virus in a conversation. Need help! Has anyone done this before and have stats/information I can tell him while trying to tell him.
  22. HarrisonIs

    Spread to mouth? Please advise!

    Hi guys, Just wondering if anyone could answer some questions for me. I currently have GHSV-1, and am aware of the rarity of the virus spreading to another area, however I've developed an ulcer/sore in the back of my mouth, this happened last week also! In the exact same spot... the few red dots above the sore also are something that I'm pretty sure aren't normally there. Me and my partner do engage in a reasonable amount of oral sex however I would've thought if I was going to have it transmitted to my mouth it would've shown on my lip not in my throat/back of mouth. Has this happe
  23. Berry101


    Hi, I've been to my doctor today, expecting to be told I have a urine infection. Only to be tested for herpes and told I probably have the virus. I'm beside my self, I can't even function. How does everyone deal with this. I wish I could honestly just curl into a ball and die. I keep reading and reading, and coming to the conclusion that it's just a virus that comes and goes, gets better and worse like a cold almost. But I feel like my life is over. I just need some form or reassurance that if it is positive my life will still go on.
  24. Hey guys, I’m new here! I’m a 21 year old female, and I’m not HSV positive myself. A guy I’ve been seeing told me tonight that he is. His ex didn’t tell him that she was and they had sex without a condom. He was very respectful about it and told me before anything sexual happened, and I could tell he was expecting me to run for the hills when he told me. I didn’t run for the hills. We’ve only been on a couple of dates, but he is an absolutely incredible guy and it breaks my heart for him that someone could do this to him. After he told me, I asked where he sees this going. I don’t
  25. Hello, New here but hoping for some help. I've been really stressed for the past two days. Background - I'm with a steady partner (have been for almost a year), have previously always used condoms. After both of us had a complete sexual health check (including serology) we decided to not use condoms (just the pill). Noticed this yesterday and got it checked at the clinic. I shaved two days ago and I normally have quite dry skin (chronic dermatitis) so it's not unusual for me to get a bit of redness when I shave (irritation). But i've never seen something like this before - I've
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