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  1. I got the wonderful virus on my genitals from a guy I dated 5 years. I definitely stayed in the relationship too long because of being scared to have to disclose to someone. I finally broke up with him in 2016. I finally got up the nerve to start dating again about six months ago. In late November I met a guy who I had a lot in common with, got along with, was attracted to, etc, and I could tell he felt the same way about me. (We are both divorced and in our 40s.) So over the course of a month, we got closer and had wonderful times. I could tell he was falling for me and I was for hi
  2. To speak off my title it is no different than any relationship. Normally I chat with others, chat is down and I wanted to open this up to anyone with questions. I chat with so many people that tell me that they fear dating, disclosing and giving HSV to someone else. I don't know where to begin, I lay here unable to sleep with this wonderful man next to me sleeping so peaceful and I am so thankful for him and the love he gives me. I wondered through the kitchen checked the fridge to make sure our leftover dinner was sealed proper so he will have a good lunch tomorrow at work. I noticed he ch
  3. SOO as far as I know I’m currently negative for herpes. BUT I’ve hung out with this guy positive for hsv1 and I’m nervous about kissing and things. But I’m wondering if he were to kiss my neck would he transfer hsv1 to my neck? im trying to figure out how contagious it is. He has no signs of outbreaks or sores as far as I could see. But he did happen to peck my neck and I was just wondering if I’d get it still??
  4. Has anyone had a better experience with Valcyclrovir rather than Acyclovir?? Have been wondering which seems to suppress the virus more effectively and have been thinking about switching to Valcyclrovir as I’ve read that it combats the virus better since it had a better bioavailability? Which seems to work for y’all??
  5. Hey friends, Haven't posted in a while - but I wanted to write a quick post, I had my kinda-5-year-herpes anniversary (got it on my birthday which makes it easier to remember) - and I'm happy to say that since then I've been in 4 relationships with non-herpes people (with a few short ones in between) and it has only gotten easier for me to disclose each time. When I was first diagnosed I had a hard time coming to terms with the fact that I would have to disclose to everyone I meet some horrible secret, because after the initial shock it didn't feel horrible at all... it just felt
  6. ukunicorn98

    Newly Single with HSV1

    Hi guys, I'm new to this site but it feels comforting to know that there are other people like me out there. I was diagnosed with HSV1 two years ago when I started dating my boyfriend (now ex). When I told him about my HSV1 he was really supportive and understanding and it turns out he had it too. I think he actually knew that he had it but decided not to tell me (which is shit) but at the time I felt relieved that someone else was in the same boat as me. However, we have now broken up and I feel a bit lost and almost deflated. I'm only young and although I don't want a serious boyfriend
  7. Learningtolivewithhsv

    Advice for GHSV-1

    So I made it to month four without a visible sign of an outbreak. I had a really bad outbreak in the ending of April and was diagnosed with GHSV1. My initial outbreak took about a month to heal and left scars (a lighter pigmentation from my overall complexion on my genitals). Sadly I have been ridiculously paranoid to the point I have taken two 7 day treatments of Valtrex. More than likely it was probably just yeast infections (I get them way more than I should, even before getting hsv). I also take lysine twice a day and three times a day when I feel like an outbreak is coming on. I’ve been a
  8. Learningtolivewithhsv

    First disclosure. PRAY FOR ME

    So I am new to the herpes world. I was diagnosed with ghsv-1 on May 17th. I was dating two guys at once (one I was sexually active with and someone else). The last person I had sex with, I am pretty sure he’s the one that gave it to me. I did disclose to all of my sex partners using text free because I was too embarrassed to reveal myself. But anyway, today I disclosed to the other guy I was seeing when I found out that I was gHSV-1 positive. We have been seeing one another one to two time a week and have planned basically our whole summer out. Even though he wanted to take it slow we are most
  9. Learningtolivewithhsv

    When should I disclose?

    So I just found out that I have herpes a little over two weeks ago. I am pretty sure I know who I contracted it from, but that is neither here nor there. I was dating two people (only sexually active with one). I no longer converse with the guy who I’ve contracted this from, but kept in contact with the other guy, let’s call him PT and we’ve been hitting it off really well. Sex isn’t really on the table for us because we both said that we wanted to wait for sex until we get to know one another better because we don’t want to rush anything. I can see something more forming between the two of us
  10. Lonely she

    Mobile, Alabama

    I'm new to this group. Looking for friends, dating, support groups.
  11. lostgirll

    Meeting a New Guy

    Hey everyone, I recently got diagnosed 2 months ago with genital herpes and the guy that gave it to me is it denial about it. About a week ago, I met a new guy and we talk about having sex a lot but I feel so guilty that he does not know yet. We haven’t engaged in the act but we are going on a date this sunday and I have a feeling that he is expecting to have sex. I’m just so scared of his reaction for when I tell him. Are my odds in my favor? How likely am I to get rejected or ghosted after telling him? What are your guys’ experiences?
  12. Hello I live in the DMV/Baltimore area and was diagnosed a little over a year ago. I only have like two penpals but no one really here in area. A couple of people I've met are still on the downside of the news. I'm more so coming to terms with it and accepting it as one of my truths. This has made me happier. So... Now I'm more so looking for positive 'positives' who still enjoy life and see how they date and manage normal life changes (marriage, child-bearing, prevention and suppression). I also feel like I have a calling for outreach, so also feel free to chat with me:) Peace
  13. So I’m not sure I never really looked at my test results because I was scared... I’ve been told it could be a uti or something but I only get them when I’m stressed. I just... does any one else find dating hard?!? It’s like the guys I do tell instantly friend zone me or never talk to me ever again. I don’t what to do and was wondering if anyone else had a similar experience..?
  14. Hey, I’m a 28 year old black female and I just was diagnosed with HSV type 2! The bad part about is that the doctor can’t give me a timetable for when he thinks I could have contracted it!! I am a survivor of sexual assault twice, once when I was six and again at the age of 21!! It hurts even worse now because I don’t even know where to start!! I feel like I’m being punished for something I did in my past life or something!! How am I supposed to date or just tell my next partner what I have and risk them leaving me, talking about me, or even harming me because of what I could expose them to!!
  15. Im a 23f and I’ve been hanging out with a 31m for about a month now. We met through a mutual friend and I’ve held off on sex (I don’t just sleep with people). However the main reason is bc I had to disclose that I have Ghsv1. I found out in July of 2017 when I had a sore at the opening of my vagina. I haven’t experienced anything from it since. Negative for hsv2, but positive for hsv1. I disclosed to him yesterday by first asking if he’s ever had a coldsore, he said yes. And of course I felt immediate relief bc it’s like “awesome, he carries the same virus too so there’s no issue.”. I ex
  16. JustMe81

    I disclose right away

    I know some may judge me, but this is how I deal with disclosing. I always disclose btw. For any kind of partner. I only disclose to people that will get affected by it in some way. So only to men I am intimate with. I see no reason to tell my family or friends about it. It does not affect them in any way and honestly, while it's not really a secret, i do try to avoid having to deal with the ignorance of people. I disclose right away. To me, it is best to give the other person the chance to go away at the very beginning before I get attached and hurt. So I bring it up as soon as we start
  17. I recently got out of a relationship (from the person who gave me hsv1). How do I tell someone new that it’s not a big deal? Often times I forget I even have it because I haven’t had an outbreak since my first (over a year ago). I know I have to tell them still but how do I make them understand it’s not this horrible thing people make it out to be?
  18. TaylorNicks

    Advice

    Hello! I’m new here, I found out about 8 months ago that I am living with Herpes. I have been dating my boyfriend for 10 months. I was infected last January. I was out with friends and went to an after party at a mutual friends, friends, party. I ended up getting drugged and raped. I woke up the next morning, covered in my own blood and in an unfamiliar place. Once I got home, I realized I had the worst pain in my genital area. Later to get tested and be positive for herpes. It’s one thing to have herpes, it’s another to have received them through rape. Anyway, When I found out, I didn’t
  19. NatashaRomanoff

    Newbie here

    Just wanted to say hello, been looking for a place to talk to others who knew exactly what it’s like.
  20. Can anyone out there elaborate for me the portiental risks and stats on having sex without condoms, but on antivirals? I’m very optimistic and would like to take this step with my girlfriend who has been wanting to make love without any condoms, but the thought of acidentally transmitting anything to her kills me. I know antivirals help suppress the virus and everyone is different, but if there is anybody out there who has gone through this successfully without transmitting anything to their significant other I’d sure appreciate any insight you might have!
  21. seanriley213

    I NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO

    Can I please get someone to talk to here?????? I think I'm drowning in pains
  22. How do you strike a balance between remaining unemotional in delivering a disclosure speak and any subsequent questions and being honest about how it has affected you emotionally? For me, the emotional fallout of dealing with HSV has had a huge impact and I find it hard to rationally think about how I would deal with this and all the stress of worrying about transmission without letting on how much I am thinking about it – to not scare the other person away and make them think HSV is something to worry about. I would want to inform a partner yet enable them to think about it with as
  23. Ok so.... i was very drunk last night and I started fooling around with a boy who doesn’t have the HSV2 virus... We “dry” humped and I mean he had a Condom on and my vaginal lips are quit large so my vagina wasn’t too exposed.. and then I remember him inserting his penis in, but only once and I said “no” so he stopped but then we continued to fool around.. i just want to know what are the chances of him contacting HSV2 if there was a condom on and I didn’t have any Out Breaks etc.... Help me SOS
  24. I gave my partner oral herpes but I haven’t told him yet. I was just diagnosed 2 days ago. A little background, I’m a normal 20 something year old. I have been having sex with my partner for about 7 months now. When we first started messing around it was more so of a thing that “just happened” (protection was used) around this time he was also talking to another girl as well. We eventually just started hanging out more and we got closer. We’re together all the time, even though we never actually said we were boyfriend and girlfriend. Back in june I was raped by my boss ( he didn’t use protecti
  25. It was on the 12th of August, 2015 when I realized or had my first out break. Few days before that day (August 12th), I went to a friends birthday party, I had so much alcohol, I was happy then I met this girl, she was kinda alone and me! Feeling like a superstar wanted to cheer her up. So we talked and I gave her some alcohol, she was so much excited and we danced, hugged and even cuddled while dancing. Then she told me she was tired she needed to seat she asked if we could take a walk away from the party. Whom am I to say no, after all she is very pretty and sexy, I took her to a
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