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  1. Hey friends, Haven't posted in a while - but I wanted to write a quick post, I had my kinda-5-year-herpes anniversary (got it on my birthday which makes it easier to remember) - and I'm happy to say that since then I've been in 4 relationships with non-herpes people (with a few short ones in between) and it has only gotten easier for me to disclose each time. When I was first diagnosed I had a hard time coming to terms with the fact that I would have to disclose to everyone I meet some horrible secret, because after the initial shock it didn't feel horrible at all... it just felt
  2. I had a fiance. He was actually the first guy I ever had to disclose to after my ghsv2 diagnosis. And he accepted me and it wasn't a big deal and we ended up not using protection and pretty much had a normal sex life except when I had my minor symptoms. But there were many times in the relationship that I knew I should have left him. But especially in the beginning I admit, I was desperate and was happy to have someone love me. Looking back, all the times he yelled at me or made me cry makes me so angry. Because I know that it was the fear of having to date again with hsv that kept me there. F
  3. LemonDifficult

    A happy ending (or beginning?)

    I’ve been a frequent visitor of this site for awhile. The times when I feel down about my H+ status, I have come here to read stories of hope and happy endings, and I feel a lot better and reassured. So, I finally made and account because I wanted to share my happy story! I was diagnosed with GHSV2 about 5 years ago. While I’ve been with and disclosed to two partners about my status since then, they had already told me that they had been with women previously who had the same diagnosis, so I wasn’t nervous to disclose my status to them after finding that info out. Neither of
  4. JoJo083

    Dating sites

    So what sites are you guys considering? I've been on PS for a few months with no luck. I've also been on OKCupid and Bumble but I find myself stalling to actually meet up for fear of " the talk". What are your experiences?
  5. I have been living with Genital Herpes for over a year. I know when it’s about to come ruin my week by the tingles and itches and I know when to take my antivirals. I have been dating and sleeping with one man since October. He knows I have herpes and our sex life has been wonderful and ALWAYS safe. Condoms and occasionally I take my antivirals when I feel an outbreak coming. No sex during outbreaks. Today he found a strange cut on his penis. It’s circualr. He questioned if it looked similar to mine but it’s hard to tell. Only one. He felt zero symptoms. Nothing. No pain urinating
  6. HSV. Everyone's favorite topic! If you read my other piece, you know about my struggle with Viral Meningitis. But now I get to share with you (because it was just shared with me) how I got it. As if I wasn’t already depressed, hurt, and confused, here comes the nurse from the hospital calling to tell me that one of the possible causes of Viral Meningitis is the Herpes Simplex Virus and they tested me for it when I was there. Surprise! I have the Herpes Simplex Virus type 2, or as I like to put it, Genital Herpes. I cried almost as loud as I did the day I got the severe headache from the Mening
  7. TolkienNerd42

    Gave to Boyfriend

    Some background before I explain- I have not been formally diagnosed with herpes but I do get cold sores. It's been at least 2 years since my last one and since my life is very fast paced it's always the last thing on my mind. So when I got into my current relationship I had totally forgotten that I actually get them. My current issue is that I didn't realize I was getting a cold sore because I recently changed acne treatments and disregarded the tingling sensation as a reaction. I gave my boyfriend oral sex and that night after work saw what has now become a sore. I was up till midnight looki
  8. I’ve been talking to this guy for about a month. We are not exclusive, by we hangout regularly. Two weeks ago, we went out and got really drunk. Like, I was in and out of sleep drunk by the time we got to his house. He ate me out 2 times, we fell asleep then he took me home. When I wokeup the next morning, I felt really bad. I try to disclose before sex, but I was too drunk that night. I still haven’t told him. We haven’t done anything since then. I don’t know how to backtrack and disclose. I normally tell before clothes come off. He keeps saying that there’s something I’m hiding b
  9. Arianamiller

    Casual sex with hsv1?

    Everytime i read stories on here about disclosing to partners they have herpes they seem to be potentional boyfriends, so i was just curious if anyone on here has casual sex or random hook ups and how they handle that situation and some stories??? Especially young people because we all know it's almost impossible knowadays for young men to want anything serious.... (i have hsv1 genital) i'd like too hear some positive stories cause i feel like if i don't get back into having casual sex i might stay abstinent and alone for many many years lol thanks in advance!
  10. Hello everyone! Just wondering if there is anyone else on here from Ireland? Struggling to find any Facebook groups or anything for people here, probably because there’s such a huge stigma around it here!
  11. How hard was it to find love after being diagnosed with herpes? I have hsv-2.
  12. Amg17

    First Disclosure

    So I have not dated or anything since my HSV2 diagnoses... mainly for the fact that I didn't want to have to tell someone about my little problem. Well in the course of events over the past 3 months, I stumbled upon the most amazing guy I've ever met... literally just my luck that he comes along AFTER my diagnosis. I wasn't looking for anyone, I wasn't hoping to find someone I could potentially fall in love with but here we are & I am worrying myself into a tizzy thinking about how in the world I'm going to tell this person I care about that I have herpes & then what is his reaction go
  13. Hey, I’m new here, diagnosed in 2013 with HSV I get both oral and genital outbreaks (I think I have HSV1, I have oral outbreaks more than genital). I’ve been on Valacyclovir for the past two years. Haven’t really had any long term serious sexual relationships since my partner who gave it to me. After being mostly single for 2 years, I’m dating someone who could possibly be something long term. I’ve already disclosed, he was supportive and did some of his own research afterward. Now that we’ve started having sex I’ve been so anxious about passing it to him. I’m on anti-virals, but I keep g
  14. Hey all. It's been a while since I have been on here.. I have been having an outbreak, first in over a year and it has me extremely depressed and disgusted with life.. The man who gave me it is actually going to trial this month for vandalising my car a few months ago. LSTS, I got it from my first sexual partner ever. I still haven't gotten myself to move on in fear of having to tell someone about this. It's a painful disease and it's not something I would think most people would want to risk when there are millions of other women out there without it. I hope I don't offend anyone, I have the
  15. vitacoco

    Monsters In the Closet

    Hi everyone! Since my diagnosis my boyfriend has been pretty supportive, but I feel like I'm alone in the relationship sometimes. I thinks I'm treating him like a "monster" since he is the one who gave me herpes. I really don't mean to be, but deep down it's almost like I want to punish him for it. I know he didn't even know he was infected, and I love him very much, but I can't help but resent him for what he's putting me through. Any thoughts or replies would be greatly appreciated
  16. davidis

    Successful disclosure

    Hello friends, I haven't been on in a while as I've been busy with work and music and pursuing a career, but from what I've been reading - which seems to be stemming from a lot of fear and anxiety - I feel like it would help to tell my story, and that is one of complete transparency between me and friends, as well as sexual partners. When I first contracted ghsv2, I - like many of you - thought my sex life was over. The first year was difficult, feeling like I would only be able to meet people online for the rest of my life. After a lot of thought, however, I began to realise that I co
  17. I'm smart, creative, beautiful and had an awesome future ahead of me. I'm only 21 but always am in a constant search for a boyfriend, to feel loved. By immature men. Through my search for love I contracted hsv-2 by a guy who never wanted to commit. My current bf of two months just ended and I think it might be because of the herpes. This virus is really hard on my self-worth. I've always wanted to get married, I don't want to be alone. I'm looking for empowerment, or similar stories. Life is beautiful, we all deserve peace.
  18. chainondoor

    New relationship confusion

    Hi all, I am a bit confused about a few things in my new 'potential' relationship, and I would really appreciate some advice. I met this guy a month and a half ago, on tinder, which maybe doesn't sound promising, but he seems like a genuine guy and has shown a lot of interest in me. He has pursued me a lot and wants us to be open and talk to each other about everything. I feel I can trust him. (though I could be wrong) I contracted gHSV1 last year this time. It was very traumatic. I already had a fear of stds, and after that I thought I'd be better off alone. I always tol
  19. Antoinette63

    How soon should I disclose?

    I've been dating a guy for about three weeks. I really like him. We've gone on three dates, & we talk almost every day. The last time we were together, things got physical & we made out. So now I'm wondering when I should tell him I have HSV-2. The last guy I told threw it back in my face & said I was "lucky" he was even having sex with me. I don't want that experience again. How soon is too soon to tell this new guy? I know I definitely want to be honest and upfront and tell him before clothes come off. I need advice!
  20. Jack Blakeway

    UK TV Documentary

    Hello all, My name is Jack and I work for a TV company called Blakeway North based in Manchester. We create factual programming for all the major UK broadcasters but specialise in access documentaries, where we have worked with an array of institutions, companies and charities to produce critically acclaimed, popular, and award-winning content. We're currently working on a documentary for a major UK channel about dating with herpes and wondered if anyone who is single and currently dating would want to share their story with us? I'd love to hear from people who would like to ta
  21. For those who choose to date with herpes and are in fear of someone coming back saying they gave them herpes, maybe a contract would be a good idea. The contract should require the person to get tested for herpes prior to sexual involvement, even kissing. (If that person has been with someone in the past 3 months, wait another 3 months and get retested to be sure). The person should also provide a copy of the results (don't just take their word for it). The person should acknowledge they are aware that you have herpes and you have full disclosed your status The person should a
  22. Not married but I do have a boyfriend, With KNOWN ghsv1 & ohsv + status, who is seeing another woman. This woman knows that we are together. Neither of them know that I know they are seeing each other at the moment, as his cell phone answers many of my questions since I found out what they are up to. I've been on this since the beginning stages of there encounters (it's been about a month now) He is the one who infected me an now he's up to no good. I want to tell her only because it will give me some evilish satisfaction, me being the one to tell her but MOSLTY be
  23. I have HSV2 and am currently taking 500mgs of Valacyclovir daily. My partner does not have Herpes. He is aware of my status and we have always had sex using condoms. I recently went to a new ob/gyn and when discussing my current birth control she told me it was pretty safe for me and my partner not to use condoms if I am using daily suppressive therapy. Is this true? I feel like it would be so great for him to not have to use condoms, but I also want to keep him safe. Is the risk of him contracting it so low as to be negligible?
  24. So after many years of single after divorce, kids are grown and i am lonely. Met an awesome girl. Not easy for me to do. Hit it off...but just told me she is hsv-2, diagnosed 3 years ago, never an outbreak she knew of. Strangely enough, I did not have the urge to run the other way......so this must mean something. I have spent hours reading info online...much of it confusing and contradictory. I am not hsv2 pos. and I'm ready to move forward with the relationship, I just don't know the rules. Obviously no vag/anal intercourse during outbreaks. But she has never had one she knew about.
  25. My Story of HSV2, and why I need help now; Or at least some good advice :: I was diagnosed in 2010, with IGG test, I believe - some mail-order or blood sample test, if I remember right (probably administered by LabCore), and I'm near Chicago, if it makes a difference. I was in denial, because of the shock of it, and because I'd never had any symptoms, outside of a little itching and discomfort. Plus after numerous visits to public health clinics, and Doctors alike, All seemed to agree, I did not have herpes. Having a partner, I wanted to stay safe, and get on me
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