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  1. BPKU

    Rochester NY area

    Hi everybody! I am new to this site. I'm just posting here for friends in the Rochester ny area. I am a 24 year old female. Idk I just figured it would be nice to connect with ppl and hang :) I like to draw, paint, picnic, go clubbing with friends, I just want to have fun :) . Also sharing our stories and experience with herpes of course but also just enjoying life :)
  2. I've known him for less than a month. I model &he is a young, handsome assistant photographer with whom I was in Mexico with for 5 days. I have been diagnosed with HSV2 for over a year now, but I have only had an outbreak twice within that year& I do take antiviral medication for it. He &I did not know eachother prior to Mexico, but we hit it off& as a single-mother who doesn't get out much I am guilty of making the first move by asking if it was cool to cuddle. I was actually really surprised he said yes, with that being said I do remember thinking to myself,"but I have herpes... okay, we will just cuddle, if he wants more, I will stop it, if I can't stop it I will just give him head." &though that may seem like a naive thought, I am 22 years old& he is the first guy I've ever "hooked-up" with. I've never had sex outside a relationship or several dates, before him. To add, I also do had a friend that I cuddled with, without sex, but I should have noted that I'm not attracted to that friend which is why that probably worked with him. So we did the deed, I didn't stop it, I let it happen because I selfishly wanted it so badly. I even forgot about my herpes for a good couple days after the act. When I looked in my cabinet to get something& saw my prescribed antiviral medication,I realized what I had done. I told him today, it's been 16days since the act. I was calm& explained to him that because he used a condom&I do take my antiviral medication there is only a 1-2% chance he could have gotten it from me. He didn't seem too upset,& he said he will get back to me after he gets tested &does some research. I promised to pay for the testing &anything else he is troubled with from this incident&at the end of the call he thanked me for telling him. I don't know if I should just back off for now to see how it goes, or if I should be checking-in on him often &sending him links to help him find accurate information on HSV2. I will be working with him again this Wednesday, for a collab photoshoot, but since I'm the one that hired him, I told him I understand if he decides to call it off, he said he won't let this affect his work. Only time can tell, but if there is anything else that you think I can do to ease whatever he may be going through at this time please be gentle with your suggestions. I know what I did was very wrong and I will never do it again, but it doesn't change what happened, I can't take that night back. Honestly, the sex was amazing, one of the best I ever had, and afterward we decided to start-off again as friends and I was okay with that. I felt normal for a moment, and I was extremely happy, but now I remember that I am not normal, and am extremely guilty for putting him at risk without his consent. I don't know if we can continue to be friends, but I do need advice on what I should do next. He said he will get tested next week and that he will also still do the photoshoot, but he also said he doesn't know how he feels about all this new information because he hasn't done the research on it. I know he will do the research, but with all the stigma I'm afraid his friends will only freak him out if he goes to them for advice, or that he may type the wording wrong in google to get negative results. I told him the facts, that it's common, that he has nothing to worry, but he should get tested, that it's less likely for women to transmit it to men, and even more unlikely with the medication and protection involved.... but what if he gets tested and it is positive? I asked him if he has hooked-up before, he is 24, and he said yes he has a few times.... so in reality, the thing is that he could have had herpes prior to meeting me, and not even had known it, but I didn't bring that up at all.... I'm not a promiscous person, but my relationship before this hook-up was with a promiscous man, which how I got this... I remember how I felt after finding out, I felt extremely betrayed because I trusted him and even after I knew 100% how I got and asked him about it, he still pretended he was clean.. He is not a good man, but this young man I hooked-up with for one night is a wonderful person, I can tell even if I hadn't known him the year I've known the other. I feel truly awful for what had happened, but I'm worried I may have played it too cool when I called and he may think I have no remorse for what I'd done, but I'm also worried if I text him now with a follow-up apology it will freak him out about the situation... What is my best option now?
  3. Looking for someone who lives close that I can actually hang out with and talk to about everything, sucks going at this alone, you know? I have one friend who knows but she doesn't get it. Hope to hear from you! Have a good night folks ♥️
  4. Piyush


    Hii is there someone who is from mumbai.. looking for friendship
  5. Hi!, I am just wanting to make some friends on here. I live in New Mexico. If you're from here or near by state that would be awesome.
  6. I'm reasonably new to this forum and wondered if anyone has actually met up with other members to talk about what's going on in their lives. I know it's hard feeling like you having no one to talk to and I still to this point have only told my partner about what's been going on with me, I'm from Manchester in England and wondered if there is anyone else from our community here? Or elsewhere for that matter!
  7. Jan292007

    Hello from NM

    Hello everyone, I am new to this site but not new to the diagnosis. I have been diagnosed since 2008. I have had some up and downs but for the most part I have been okay. Medication never really worked for me so I always try to look for natural remedies. I am a college student and I enjoy nature. I guess you can say I'm a pretty friendly person I love making people smile and laugh. I mainly joined so I can have support. Feel free to add me or message me, I love making friends. I am still trying to figure out this site and pictures. Nice to meet you! I hope to hear from you soon! *hugs*
  8. Since my diagnosis in 2003 I have been mostly abstinent (only one sexual relationship-he had HSV-1). Consequently, it wasn't something I really thought about until I had an outbreak. I take Valtrex so my outbreaks are seldom. Two years ago I began cultivating an romantic connection with a long time friend. We live in separate cities so our communication was via texting and phone calls. It was lovely. We could tell each other anything. He wooed me with poetry, songs, and stimulating conversation. We were becoming best friends. When we decided he would visit me I knew I had to tell him my secret. And I did. He visited, we had a wonderful visit. But, things did change. No more poetry. No more songs. Communication wasn't as frequent. I asked him if his feelings for me had changed and he said, "no, you're just being sensitive because of your status." After the disclosure he came to my city. We were intimate but did not have sexual intercourse. We saw each other 2 additional times because of our mutual ministry endeavors. Within that time, although we still talked it was less and less and not as romantic. He said because of my status, in order to us to be in a romantic relationship he would have to make a life time commitment, and he wasn't ready to do that. His concern was if we broke up, and he became infected, it wouldn't be fair for him to carry it into another relationship. I understood. However, I was already emotionally connected to him. He wanted to be friends, but our conversations in many instances was more than friends. It was difficult l for me to go back to seeing him as only a friend. One day, I discovered he was developing an intimate relationship with another woman. I let him know it was hard for me to see that and continue to be his friend. I needed time to get over my romantic feelings for him. He asked about communicating with me. I told him, "call me when you want me." I ceased communication with him and eventually for my emotional well being, unfriended him on Facebook. I called him and left message (he was no longer answering my calls) that I wasn't trying to be mean. I just needed separation in order to get over my romantic feelings for him. He was very angry. Finally, yesterday after 4 months-we had a conversation. I am grieving the loss of his attention and the romance. I am angry that he wasn't more understanding.
  9. Hi everyone, I just found out yesterday that I have type 2 herpes. I've been in monogamous relationships, with the most recent one being 3 years. I had a drunken night (first time since the breakup) and had unprotected sex. Symptoms showed up immediately after and here we are now. One night, one mistake, changed my whole life. I cried at the doctors office and have been feeling ashamed, sad, and depressed. Thank god i have a close group of friends and family who have been extremely supportive. However, no matter how many times they try to tell me "it's going to be alright", I can't somehow be convinced. Can some of you guys tell me some experiences with living with herpes? I'm finally happy from my breakup and ready to be in the casual dating scene, but this happened. I've read up on some facts of herpes and that it is manageable and livable. However, I don't believe i can ever go back into the dating scene because this changes everything...no more passionate flings, no more causal dating and now i have to disclose to my future love interests something i don't think I will even have the guts to do. I also have anxiety (take daily medication for it) and have a stressful job, and I know that stress is the number one trigger for an outbreak. I'm also torn with telling the guy I had sex with that he gave it to me. I'm just scared he will deny it and tell everyone this secret. Any advice, stories, suggestions would greatly help. I've been so depressed and sad, I would love to hear stories and advice from people going through the same thing as me.
  10. Hello all, I'm new here. Female. 26. I'm not 100% sure but I think I may be having a genital herpes outbreak. I am going to the doctor tomorrow to confirm. Here's my story: I've been celibate for about 5 months now (personal choice, not herpes related). About a month ago I had a sore on my vulva. The doctor said it looked like herpes, swabbed it, and it came back negative for herpes and positive for staph. I did a round of antibiotics to treat the staph, the sore went away. About a week ago (a week before my period) my vulva became very red and itchy. I figured it was a yeast infection due to the antibiotics so I did a Monistat treatment. The treatment has helped but not made the redness and itching go away; my lymph nodes down there are swollen. My throat is sore. So I'm going to the doctor to figure out what's going on. I know everyone's symptoms are different and the pictures Google gives you are extreme, so I'm wondering: what were the first signs/symptoms that you had? Were you sexually active at the time? How long was it after your last sexual encounter? I will not be shocked if I have herpes--I've had sex, so I can't rule the possiblity out. However, if I find out that I do in fact have genital herpes, is there anyone willing to be sort of like "herpes pen pals"? I know it sounds silly and I know I'm going to be okay in the long run, but I could use support. It'd be great to talk to other people who also happen to have genital herpes. I know this is a part of us, but it doesn't define us. Thanks for reading
  11. anyone from malaysia? i just caught herpes well atlease i think and im freaked out. i feel so lone and i think itll be nice to come together or meet new friends with same problems. anyone up for meet ups?
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