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  1. Hey, I’m a 28 year old black female and I just was diagnosed with HSV type 2! The bad part about is that the doctor can’t give me a timetable for when he thinks I could have contracted it!! I am a survivor of sexual assault twice, once when I was six and again at the age of 21!! It hurts even worse now because I don’t even know where to start!! I feel like I’m being punished for something I did in my past life or something!! How am I supposed to date or just tell my next partner what I have and risk them leaving me, talking about me, or even harming me because of what I could expose them to!! I really haven’t had a big breakout or anything yet, so can someone please just tell me what I should expect in the near future!! Will I be ok because right now depression is winning!! They have me on 500mg of Valtrex daily for suppression and it works really well!!
  2. Mountainsplease

    Herpes and Constipation

    I have noticed that I now have chronic constipation after my primary outbreak. Scientists have found a link to it. Has anyone else had this issue? Treatments?
  3. Hi everyone! Earlier this week I saw my doctor as I was experiencing some discomfort in my genital area... long story short I had unprotected sex, my doctor or did a physical examination and believed it is herpes. I received a call today advising that my blood came back negative for all STD’s and the sexual contact was made over 10 days ago. Rash is sores are still fresh. From what I’ve read false negatives do occur but that’s usually if the rash isn’t active... He put me on Valaciclovir on Monday (it’s now Thursday) and it appears to be getting worse. I am sceptical that I do have herpes even with a negative blood test, he wants me to have another test done in a month to be sure however what else could this be? Sorry for the graphic image too..
  4. silentsuffering

    Newly diagnosed & heartbroken

    Hi, I’m new here just like my diagnosis with herpes. I got it off someone who I’ve known for 10 years... we always had something between us but it was always bad timing and we were just children. Everything was amazing until I found out. I know it was him who’d given it to me as I had been tested before we had sex. Telling him was also the hardest thing I had to face apart from knowing I have to live with this condition. My doctor believes he’s asymptomatic which means I’m the lucky one who’s caught this and has to feel these sores. And fuck sakes this is so painful. I’m just looking for some support.. I have no one I can talk to... this is really psychologically messing with me
  5. I´m adding to pics : one from wednesday Dec 5th and today Monday Dec 10th. Went to consultation and doctor gave me a prescription right away : with local aciclovir and valtrax . I haven´t get my blood lab or swab test yet. I´m still confused the way internet explain how herpes symptomps are, and all of these does not applied to me. this appear a day after having sex with my boydriend and that night we didnt even practice oral sex. 2 days before I shave with an old razor and the hair still short. I know it could be herpes and I´m accepting it but there´s many pics and symptoms out there on the pages that make me feel confused. Thanks for reading
  6. Shaved with old clippers 3 weeks ago not sure if this is infected hair follicles or a herpes ob it only becomes irrated some after masturbation plz help I’m a male btw
  7. Teacup27

    Not sure if it’s herpes...?

    Hi guys, I joined late 2014 when I had an outbreak of what was diagnosed clinically as herpes but tests came back negative. I had a horrendous fever for two week with huge painful ulcerated craters in my vagina. The first doctor told me I had syphilis! Then I went to a sexual health clinic where she said it was incredibly bad herpes. The whole thing was awful and nothing relieved the symptoms until the ulcers cleared up completely which took around a month. As I said the tests came back negative. Now four years later, almost exactly to the day weirdly enough I’ve noticed a white head looking lump (like a pea) inside my labia. This is how it appeared before but there were more of them and then they turned into huge craters. Basically I just want to know is a four year gap between outbreaks typical and do the symptoms sound like herpes? I tried to keep it brief so it wasn’t too boring to read ha! thanks guys
  8. I haven't check out all of this site; however I cannot see how reducing stigma over herpes infection should involve denial. It states on their website people shouldn't be scared for rare circumstances but fails to admit that this virus can be transmitted via objects in some circumstances. https://herpes.org.uk/towels-not-problem/ PLEASE IF YOU HAVE A LESS THAN USUAL EXPERIENCE LET THESE PEOPLE KNOW THEY DO NOT REPRESENT YOU. MOST PROFESSIONALS DOESN'T MEAN ALL.
  9. anom1990

    Well… here I am.

    Hi everyone. I’m still trying to process this but I am a gay male in my late 20’s that was recently diagnosed with HSV-2 in October 2018. I haven’t been sexually active since 2015 and have only engaged in sexual activity with four people in my life. I’m feeling a lot of emotions because of this; sad, angry, confused, violated, ect. Thoughts like who would’ve thought someone like little ole me, compared to all of the VERY promiscuous people in the world, would end up with Genital Herpes ESPECIALLY when I’ve been abstinent and just focusing on myself for years. That was a gunshot to my soul. It’s crazy that I’ve ALWAYS done regular STD testing, thinking I was negative for everything only to find out that Herpes was never included in my testing because I never knew you had to literally ask for that until this year. The CDC and medical industry is so fucked up and wrong for that. I’ve always used protection, except with my first boyfriend but that was back in 2009-2010 and a condom broke with a sexual encounter I had back in 2011 and I remember immediately putting a new one on him. Unfortunately, all of the men I’ve dealt with sexually are questionable. Half of me wants to know who gave this to me but the other half is like what’s the point. I only have access to contact three of them (I don’t know where the other guy is) but I haven’t spoken to two of them in years, one of them in a whole decade and it would be pretty awkward for me years later to write them a message about herpes. My first boyfriend and I are cordial but he’s still immature so it would be very awkward with him. Anyways, as I’ve been thinking and backtracking my life, I would think I caught this back in 2011 because I remember my anus itching so badly but I thought it was just my hair growing back because I do recall shaving before having sex so I guess that was my first outbreak. Other times I would just get a minor itch in and on my buttocks but I never would’ve thought herpes. I’ve never got outbreaks on my penile area. This is all still confusing and baffling to me. I’m still sad and feeling like my future love life was taken from me. I feel like part of my confidence was taken from me. I don’t even feel comfortable flirting and finding people attractive right now. I’m just releasing my thoughts about my situation but I do have questions. My results also came back saying I had extremely low Vitamin D deficiency; does HSV-2 have something to do with that? Is there a test I could take to tell me exactly when I contracted this virus? This question may be TMI but I masturbate and I notice that a lot of sperm doesn’t cum out sometimes, does HSV-2 have something to do with that?
  10. It's been three months since possible exposure. Last night a shooting pain inside my vagina woke me up. I feel the constant urge to urinate and have thigh and butt pain on and off. Today I kept having pain in one spot inside my labia and now it's all red and I see a tiny red spot. It doesnt hurt to touch but there is red and pain along the inside of my vagina. I go to the doctors tomorrow to get retested. I feel like no doctor wants to help me and don't really listen. It's so scary and frustrating.
  11. _josafeen_

    Brooklyn support

    Wondering if anyone in Brooklyn is interested in chatting? Meeting up? Or just share info about OB management, lifestyle tips, support groups etc. I'm brand new to this & looking for some connections to help me (& others like me) not feel so alone.
  12. Hey, I have been effective by herpes simplex virus for 21 days. And l still have the pain and lesion. I went to the doctor 2 weeks ago, she said that ”is getting better, there is no lesion in the area. ” and l had sex with my boyfriend while using a condom. After that l got the pain and lesions again. Last night l checked and l didn't see any lesions and didn't feel any pain and we thought it's gone. We had sex and now l have the pain again. My question is when l get rid of this pain and lesions? Is it bad to have sex before lesions still in there even l barely see them? Also, my period started today. Do you think it will get worse?
  13. Hi guys I am worried if I got herpes. I have gone to the doctor and they have all said I am fine, I recently had Oral sex from a girl I met. I had it done two times. The first time I was fine and the next time, I felt pain in my urine. Uti tests and stds tests expect for Herpes was done and I was good. The pain went away but I have these red sores and I am confused if they are anything? The doctor said they are normal but I just want some feedback. Thank you guys please comment. My pictures are there https://ibb.co/mV8jbp https://ibb.co/jqnubp https://ibb.co/fGze99 https://ibb.co/dP6gNU https://ibb.co/m9Sz99 https://ibb.co/jcfK99 https://ibb.co/nbg4bp https://ibb.co/kxv82U https://ibb.co/enKCU9
  14. Fernholly

    Shocked by gHSV1 diagnosis

    A few weeks ago I thought I felt a yeast infection coming on. It made sense because I had a throat infection ( which appeared to be strep but tested but negative — could this be related?) a few weeks prior and started but didn’t finish amoxicillin since the strep came back negative. So I was in a ton of pain, 3 days of Monistat and nothing, so I call my primary care to get something and she says “could it be herpes?” I said no way, there are no bumps, just discharge, and itching, pain around the clitoris, plus I’m just thinking of how long I’ve been with my BF. So she prescribed me something and I hope to get better. The next day I felt a small sore on my lip near my anus, and had my boyfriend check it out. He said it just looked like a little cut but my heart sank because I remembered the doctor suggested herpes. I scheduled an apt with my OBGYN. By this time I had multiple small sores and she told me I had herpes. She swabbed the sores around my clitoris that had been causing me so much pain, it felt like sandpaper and I just cried and cried and wanted to die. I told her I had been with my boyfriend for 3 years, it didn’t make any sense. He never had visible cold sores anywhere. I was worried he cheated on me. She explained the shedding and suggested he likely passed it on during oral sex if he’s had cold sores in the past. My test came back positive for HSV1 a few days later. Its been almost a week since I’ve had any visible sores but I’m still in shock. I can’t enotionally process this still. My boyfriend acts like since it’s “only HSV1” I won’t have many OB’s and that I’m lucky. I’ve been having lots of nerve pain even after the sores have cleared up, I worry it will bother me not only during OBs but all the time, just not as intensely. But I can’t help but still be angry that he gave this to me, and never even bothered to tell me he had cold sores in the past. I never imagined this happening to me because I thought I found my person forever and would never have to worry about catching an sti. I’m just so concerned since stress is a major trigger and I am going to medical school next year, so I will have many many years of stress ahead and I’m not quite sure I can balance the stress, and the pain and emotional toll of an OB. Can anyone with gHSV1 talk to me? I’m feeling pretty alone.
  15. I just found out I have both HSV 1 and HSV 2. I am completely in shock! I wanna say I’ve had symptoms but they were on my genitals and only appeared to be razor bumps to me because they weren’t painful just slight uncomfortable. I would also get cysts down there only after shaving and they would only last a couple days. Here is what I know. The test was IgG and tested for both separate I believe. On the index Herpes 1 is >5.00 and Herpes 2 is 1.27. I’m so confused because I’ve never had obvious symptoms and tested positive for BOTH. Do you believe these tests are accurate. This was a blood test and idk what to do or even think I can’t eat and have just been in bed all day.
  16. I just got diagnosed with genital herpes (idk which type) this August-september ish. I’ve been on Valacyclovir for almost 2 months now, but i still experience itching, & weird discharge, which i think may be caused by an outbreak. Any suggestions on what i can do?
  17. Hello, im new here & ive been diagnosed with herpes 1 on my genitals today. For about 4 days the symptoms were getting worse to the point where i knew i had it. Swollen vagina, lesions that were wet looking & oozing yellow watery fluid. I could hardly walk & still cant. The pain is horrendous. Anyway, to my question. Im very confused, & i know there is no way i can tell who i got it off. After my 4 year relationship, i was saddened & i wanted to do anything to get my mind off him. Less then a year later, i began seeing a guy in march this year. We had a sexual relationship, we had sex, gave each other oral, kissed. ( sorry for the details but its relevant) i only saw him about 6 times in the 3 months we were seeing each other. Anyway, after that ended, i did end up with thrush & bacterial vaginosis. & on and off the opening around my vagina was red and irritatable. I was tested over and over again during the year nothing came up. I began seeing a new guy, who i like very much. So i thought id test myself again to be sure before starting a relationship. 2 weeks ago, My doctor did a swab & a urine test to cancel out herpes. It came back negative. I was beyond happy. Now, this is where it gets confusing. Seeing this guy, both having feelings for each other we had sex with protection & 2 days later i gave him oral sex . & that is all we have done. Protected sex, he fingered me, i gave him oral sex & we have kissed alot. Now, a week later after that, that is when i began getting those symtoms & it was getting worse everyday. Today i found out that i do indeed have hsv 1 & i am petrified telling my new boy. It is early & i dont know how he will react either. + he knows everyone in my area so if it ever gets out i dont know how i will live with myself knowing people know i have this. Its not something to be ashamed about, but the whole social stigma about it makes me worry. Im really upset about it & crying while im writing this. My doctor didnt really tell me any info even after i asked. But because i have hsv1 on my genitals does that mean its not on my mouth & im fine to kiss? I was thinking continuing to see him for a few weeks & if its something special i will tell him... but im just wondering if kissing is okay.. + could i have got this of him? Any info or opinions would be grately appreciated. Thank you
  18. Hi All, New here and was recently diagnosed with ghsv-1 six weeks ago. Sort of coping, good days and bad days as expected and going through the motions as everyone does. Did anyone experience health anxiety when they got the news? I'm barely sleeping knowing that my body can't fight this off and worrying that I will catch an additional or more serious illness in the future I'm getting the oddest sensations all over my body too and the anxiety makes it worse. I caught this with low chances (with a condom and the guy was on suppressive meds) so I guess I'm feeling 'unlucky' in that sense. If you guys have any thoughts, suggestions or experiences I'd be grateful to hear
  19. Has anyone had a better experience with Valcyclrovir rather than Acyclovir?? Have been wondering which seems to suppress the virus more effectively and have been thinking about switching to Valcyclrovir as I’ve read that it combats the virus better since it had a better bioavailability? Which seems to work for y’all??
  20. I recently noticed a red rash inside the opening of my vagina. It painful to the touch and I see a small flesh colored bump all of sudden. I'm freaking out since I can't get to the doctor til Tuesday. I also have white gray discharge. What kind of symptoms did you have during first ob?
  21. Sorry in advance for the long post. In September I had sex and we used a condom but we stopped the condom broke. He was rough and I ended up having a small tear. We also had unprotected oral before. I went to the doctor and planned parenthood cause in was freaking out. I got early hiv tested and urine tested two days later all negative. They said I needed to see my gyno about the tear. At the doctor as soon as she saw the tear said it could be herpes and swabbed it. I started crying of course. I also got full panel of blood tests. It took forever to get my results but she said they were all negative. I'm worried that I tested too early for an accurate test since I tested 5 days after possible exposure. I continue to have symptoms. I was having itching redness and a lot of white discharge with inner thigh pain. My doctor took samples for bacteria and thought it was bv and gave me medication. That came back negative for bacteria. She keeps saying it's not a std but won't test me again till 3 months. I saw another doctor for a second opinion since I was getting shooting pains in vagina and anus and burning pain in crease of thighs. She said it was a yeast infection which it's not at all. I am now experiencing shooting pains vaginally,in my anus, my legs, and under my armpits. I don't see any sores only very small pimples that are red but don't have white in them. They keep disappearing and coming back. Doctors think they are razor bumps but haven't been shaving only trimming. I even had a transvaginal ultrasound to see if anything was abnormal it came back normal. But after the ultrasound i had pelvic pain and brownish discharge for over a week. I have also been experiencing itchy eyes with white discharge and bumps on the sides of my throat and small red bumps on my tongue that have white around them. I have been so anxious that I have been to so many doctors. I've been to the eye doctors 3 times and they just think I have an infection . I went to 4 doctors about my throat and one said it was a virus and have me a z pack. The other one said it was allergies and postnasal drip and to use Zyrtec which I now take everyday. The third said they didn't see anything. The fourth finally swabbed it and waiting to hear back. I saw the dentist about my mouth sores and they said it's just canker sores and build up of bacteria on my tongue. I even went to the dermatologist twice since I have been getting white heads on face and small red bumps on chest and arms with itching. They just think it's fungal and eczema. I keep googling which I know is bad. My anxiety is causing me to lose sleep. I have started starting vitamins to increase my immune system like lysine and b12 and zinc. I'm sorry for the long post again I'm just so scared.
  22. NrsA

    New here

    Hi all I’m a 29 year old nurse. I recently found out I have hsv1 genital from oral sex. This was with a long time male friend. Who may or may not have know ... but he has ignored every message and call since this happened so he has no idea that he has given this t my breakout is just clearing up from Valtrex. I feel gross I feel like my sec life and love life is over and it was something I enjoyed. I’m young I travel the world and I feel like now my chances of meeting the love of my life are over. I’ve been crying in and off even at work lately. Idk how to cope. Does anyone with hsv1 via genitals have advice.. I was so confused at first that hsv 2 came back negative because I thought hsv 2 was strictly genital and vice versa. Any advice, comfort or anything anyone could give me would be so appreciated, I’m very much alone and scared. Thank you ❤️
  23. flowerblossom245

    I need help.

    I was recently diagnosed with HSV 1 a week ago and the emotional strain has been horrible. I’m the type of person who hates the unknown, so I’m trying to figure out if I have it genitally or orally. I had sex with someone who has been tested for herpes, but he doesn’t remember which strain he has. He hasn’t had an outbreak in years and has taken medicine, so my doctor initially said the chance was extremely low that he gave it to me (especially because it was only for about 1 min and that was it.) I get mouth ulcers regularly and I also get what I believe is a cold sore right in the corner of my mouth (which I’ve read isn’t a real cold sore?) so I’m wondering if that’s why I tested positive. We had sex a month and a half ago, and the symptoms started about a week and a half ago. Burning while peeing, and the occasional itching. When my doctor looked (she also did a Pap smear) she said she saw no lesions which I took as a good sign. I’ve been taking Valtrex for 5 days now but my symptoms haven’t improved at all. I just need people to talk to who know how I’m feeling. Thank you all
  24. Hello, I'm new here. I just recently got results but can't speak to a doctor until next week. Can someone help me with my results? I'm freaking out... 1gG 44.50 H (0.00-0.90 index) 2gG <0.91 (0.00-0.90 index)
  25. seanriley213


    Can I please get someone to talk to here?????? I think I'm drowning in pains
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