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  1. Hi everyone! Earlier this week I saw my doctor as I was experiencing some discomfort in my genital area... long story short I had unprotected sex, my doctor or did a physical examination and believed it is herpes. I received a call today advising that my blood came back negative for all STD’s and the sexual contact was made over 10 days ago. Rash is sores are still fresh. From what I’ve read false negatives do occur but that’s usually if the rash isn’t active... He put me on Valaciclovir on Monday (it’s now Thursday) and it appears to be getting worse. I am sceptical that I do have herpes even with a negative blood test, he wants me to have another test done in a month to be sure however what else could this be? Sorry for the graphic image too..
  2. Hi everyone. I am still waiting on bloodwork, but the doc immediately told her nurse "this is definitely herpes" during my extremely painful examination. I do not yet know which type, but it is inside of my labia and inside my buttcrack below my anus. I went in because I thought I had a few veginal tears and an ingrown hair after a bit of rough sex. The man I believe to have contacted it but from has said he hasn't ever had any sores or reason to believe he has HSV, but my symptoms began 7 days after our first (of 4 total) nights of sex. He had since gone to the doctor who is skeptical of him having the virus and is also waiting on bloodwork results. I have only begun to consider the emotional toll this diagnosis will take on my life (and his-of course), however, this is not my primary concern right now. I AM IN SO MUCH PAIN and am utterly terrified. I have begun a 7 day regimen of Valacyclovir. Should I ask for an extension? The doc told me to take Valtrex 1 GM once/day for 10 days, but was given Valacyclovir 1GM every 8 hours for 7 days. Furthermore, this outbreak is INCREDIBLY painful. I have had to slather coconut oil on my genitals to allow the lessons to slide past each other, because the pain was/is so great that I could not move. I have called out of work all week for to pain and can feel the lessons pressing on each other or skin when I walk. I was unable to each or sleep much at all from the Saturday until Wednesday due to the pain in my genitals and hugely swollen tonsils filled with Exodus worse than any picture I could find on Google. Since taking the Z-pak and 5 huge horse pills of Valacyclovir, the swelling of my tonsils has decreased enough to eat 2 a small meal and the Exodus is slowly diminishing. But... Back to my genitals. This morning, I woke up from a 2 hour nap having to urinate urgently. I ran to the toilet and leaned as far forward as I could so the urine would touch and burn as little as possible. I had been very gentle but thourough with wiping previously, but this time... The moment the toilet paper touched the urine between my labia, I felt the worst stab of pain of my life. As I let out a muffled scream and it slowly became tolerable, I looked at the toilet paper and found yello pus. I hadn't even know the blisters formed yet and I popped a cluster... In the heat of the moment, I folded the toilet paper and did the other side of my labia-same feeling. I repeated the process in sections almost down to my perineum before I was afraid I would pass out from the pain. I was careful to get the pus on the toilet paper and not spread it around, then immediately hopped in the shower to rinse my body. So now I have another question- did I screw myself over? I did most of the blisters I immediately felt without pressing to hard. Just now, 12 hours later, I just took an unscented baby wipe to clear the nasty green discharge slowly. I felt the same pain and again as pus came on to the moist wipe. I carefully did the same thing again and this time folded it up and stuck it between my cheeks, where I felt more pain as some pus leaked from my anal lessons. Again, is this a terrible thing to do? Even more, I was snipped by the nail tech a few weeks ago on my cuticle of my left-middle finger, and it became swollen with a dark red spot and filled with pus around Monday- 2 days before I found out I had herpes. This is when I would slather my hands in coconut oil for my vagina (then immediately wash them). I had been picking at it. Turns out, it is termed "herpetic Whitlow". Well, as I showered this morning after my painful toilet paper-pus encounter #1, my skin soaked up all the water and my fingers became pruny. I barely picked at it when the entire blood clot came out. I have now covered it in coconut oil and a bandaid, but it left a dry crater in my finger below my nail. I do not understand how I am supposed to keep the lesions dry if that means they burst from skin shearing and keep my hygeine if I cannot touch my vaj with toilet paper. I have a fatty vagina and large buttocks, so every movement produces extreme amounts of pain from the force of my weight. I cannot sit or lay without shifting a billion times and producing pain. It has been exactly one week since I have left the house with exception of my doctor's appointments. I have experienced no pain ever in my life as bad as this outbreal, even while my body entered septic shock during a terrible kidney infection I had before Christmas. I could care less about stigma or my romantic future right now because of the immense pain. I should have a delivery of lysine and oregano oil by tomorrow to treat future outbreaks, but this is a pain I don't know if I can ever deal with again. I am also worried that I've only pooped once in this week early on. I am TERRIFIED of having to get a deuce out with these sores and the pain of wiping and cleaning afterward. I know this is a lot, but nothing else I've found online describes a case as bad and painful as mine. Please help in any way you can think of. Thank you all for reading, J
  3. seanriley213

    I NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO

    Can I please get someone to talk to here?????? I think I'm drowning in pains
  4. Hey all, Some people have posted about Tenofovir before - I found an article today that confirms a reduction in transmission with use of the gel. Medical Article: http://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMc1511338?af=R&rss=currentIssue Other articles giving a succinct report: http://www.capahc.com/en/tenofovir-gel-for-the-prevention-of-herpes-simplex-virus-type-2-infection/ http://www.medicaldaily.com/tenofovir-gel-may-lower-risk-herpes-simplex-virus-type-2-women-voice-results-308099 Due to the nature of the product, I thought it better to put this post under the "Prevention" thread. Cheers!
  5. Any one has Tried Ayurudevic medicine , Had a Word Doc Told their is a functional cure on long term ? Anyone tried or aware specially from India
  6. It was on the 12th of August, 2015 when I realized or had my first out break. Few days before that day (August 12th), I went to a friends birthday party, I had so much alcohol, I was happy then I met this girl, she was kinda alone and me! Feeling like a superstar wanted to cheer her up. So we talked and I gave her some alcohol, she was so much excited and we danced, hugged and even cuddled while dancing. Then she told me she was tired she needed to seat she asked if we could take a walk away from the party. Whom am I to say no, after all she is very pretty and sexy, I took her to a nearby uncompleted building, she asked if she could smoke? I said yes sure feel free. She smoked we had some more drinks, then it happened. We had unprotected sex in that building, although I deed the withdrawal method, hoping and feeling everything is ok. To cut short the story, I started noticing some bumps like objects on and around my penis. To be honest, I was so scared there was nothing that didn't Cross my mind including HIV. I browsed the net for clues or similar symptoms, I became all the more confused. The out break and symptoms lingered for weeks, on the 4th of October I summoned the courage to see a doctor, he examined me and suggested a couple of test. I ran the tests and it was confirmed, I had been infected with Herpes Virus. He then prescribed some drugs for me, which I bought and took according to the prescription. 1 and 1/2 weeks later the symptoms cleared and the itching stopped, I took the complete dose just to be sure and it seems like all was ok. By the end of November I noticed a fresh out break again, I went back the doctor he asked me to buy the same and continue the medication, he added that that's herpes for you, just when you think they are gone, they reappear. While taking the drugs the doctor adviced me to avoid alcohol and other substance that may weaken my immune system, it then means I was also suffering from weak or low immune system because as at when I did the test, my white blood cell count was 5700 it was a bit low. This means I had to take my drugs regularly to keep the out break away. To sum up my story, I travelled to the village on the 23rd of December for a burial arrangement. In the course of the event I was discussing with my uncle then I opened up to him and shared my experience. That was when he mentioned moringa leaf and seeds to me, he went into his house brought out a small plastic can filled with moringa seeds, he said I should eat about 4 to 5 seeds three times a day, then take about 3 ounces of dried moringa leave add to a kettle and boil, after boiling I should just drink it like a normal green tea. I spent my remaing days of the festive season in the village, while taking my moringa seeds and tea. I returned to the city with a hand full of seeds and leaves and continued my moringa therapy for the next 3 months. On the first week of April 2016 I decided to take another test, the test result came out and this time my white blood cell count was 8600, although the HSV is still there but I haven't noticed or had any out breaks since I started taking the moringa seeds and leaf. Today is the 27th of July, 2018 and I am glad to say that I have noticed any out breaks since then and I have not been taking any HSV drugs as well. more so, I am proud to say that I am a father to a lovely beautiful baby girl. Although at first I was scared if my girl friend had been infected because I didn't have the nerves to tell her and she was begining to get upset of my frequent use of condoms. So I stopped using the condoms and we had intercourse, and the result is a lovely beautiful baby girl, while we were at the hospital I requested that a test be carried out on her, LO and BEHOLD she was and is still HSV negetive. So my dear lovely people, please don't beat yourself over this, it is most certainly not the end of anything in your life, all you guys need to do is boost your immune system naturally to fight the virus from the inside. Anywhere you find yourselves, please kindly look for moringa seeds and leaf, chew at least 4-5 seeds a day and if you can get the leaf, take two cups of the tea in the morning and two cups in the evening and all will be well with you. Thank you all, remain bless hendrick.laama@gmail.com
  7. Hi All Has anyone tried Ayrudevic medicine to suppress & got any results pls update or Share ur experience
  8. Hey all, I am just so tired of being constantly anxious. I had a vaginal birth with no transmission and my child is now almost two but every time I even see the smallest spot (wether bug bite or allergic reaction etc.) on their skin I go into full intense and shaking panic mode. I just don’t know how to calm down and it’s doing nothing for my stress levels and eating habits. Almost every month I have complete breakdowns in fear of transmission. But logically, there’s no chance my child could contract it. I’m always covered, washing hands throughly after washroom use, no skin to skin contact with my effected areas ever and only one outbreak this year. Any advice or words of support would be awfully nice right now. Thank-you.
  9. All Seems to be ok , Only every time I pee their is burning sensation which settle after some time , anyone having similar probs , pls share remedies if any
  10. I am on Monolaurin & Shilajit , Not sure about homepathy, Is any one here on Homepathy, Pls suggest , Taking Hyperisince from Biogentica not sure it work or not , Pls Advice , Burning sensation on penis in the day , By evening it feels ok , Next morning same , Guys pls help
  11. SmithM

    Not sure how to proceed....

    I found out about a month ago that my new husband has "Genital Herpes" (he doesn't know if its type 1 or 2). He didn't disclose .... despite me asking point-blank 3 times .... and we have been having unprotected sex for 13 months. After learning of his diagnosis, I read everything I could to try to learn. I read that the risk of transmission was lessened if my husband wore condoms and took antivirals. But we had already had unprotected sex for over a year ... so if I already had it, no point in all that. I went to my doctor to be tested and he knew less than I did ... even said that there was no test for herpes. I asked for a IgG antibody test for 1 and 2. The results are in a screenshot below. Type 2 was definitely negative but type 1 was 1.09 ... which says Equivocal. Does this mean that I have it or not?? I'm thinking that he has type 1 of the genitals because he says he's had it over 30 years and only has a mild outbreak once every year or two. He was married twice prior to me (once for 13 years and once for 5 years) and didn't tell either of his previous wives. He says that they never developed symptoms. My husband wants to resume our sex life. I want to avoid genital herpes if possible. I think my husband should be tested to see if he has type 1 or 2. If its 2, he should then take antivirals and wear condoms to lessen risk of transmission to me. Right?
  12. Hey everyone, so I have a relative (no names obviously) and about 4 days ago, I shared a drink from the same bottle with this relative of mine, however my relative didn't disclose to me that he/she has herpes and possibly HIV until recently, this relative also has herpes zoster (blisters) on the thighs, I might be over-reacting but I have a little itchy sensation around my body (just a little) and a little sore on my tongue. Could I have contracted herpes by any chance? also what measures can I take now to be sure that I don't have this condition? do I take a test? are the vitamins / supplement I should take for the time being? I might be over-reacting but I would appreciate some suggestions.
  13. Although I disagree with some of this article regarding it not being a big deal, it’s good someone like VICE wrote about it since they have a pretty large audience. Herpes: Welcome to the Disease You Probably Have “ A common STI check up covers a lot, but not herpes. When I asked why herpes wasn't included in the STI check, I was advised basically to not poke a sleeping bear. If I requested a blood test to look for antibodies to HSV1 or HSV2, it would burden me with disclosure even if the virus was only present due to coldsores. My doctor was essentially telling me to preserve my plausible deniability.” https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/j5q3gy/herpes-welcome-to-the-disease-you-probably-have
  14. I have spoken to many on here before mostly via chat. For anyone not familiar with me, I will give my brief introduction: My BF has HSV2 and I Negative. He fully disclosed to me before we had sex. I feel that brought us closer if anything, we can talk about anything and opened up the lines of communication for an honest relationship. We have been together for over a year. Many people share the same opinion that most Doctor's that diagnose, don't know what they are talking about. I was told after a few months into my relationship when I requested blood testing that I was HSV+(Jan 2017) and to go ahead and "bareback" my boyfriend from a medical professional. I knew we were being safe, safe as we could and knew the risk, so wasn't impossible that I could have contracted. I pretty much went into acceptance and put off telling my boyfriend because I knew it was going to tear him more than I was if he passed it to me. I found this site and the chat room, met some very cool people who asked about my testing. My IMG was Positive both my IGG were negative. I have had Chicken Pox so not a huge surprise on my IMG I learned from the people at HC. With encouragement who I met virtually here, I got a second opinion and indeed I didn't formally have HSV 1 or 2. It was suggested that I retest a few months later because IMG can detect also early infection SOMETIMES, I retested IMG (because I didn't have a choice and both IGG again. All my levels were negative. (june 2017) I understand that there is a risk in dating someone with HSV2, I feel the risk is lower than dating Joe Jerk who has no idea he has a form of HSV or doesn't care that he has it and doesn't want to disclose for whatever reason. With the high percentage of people that have HSV, most not even knowing they do, I feel secure that my boyfriend disclosed, that means he is aware, he is taking care of it and he isn't like Joe Jerk. In the US, HSV testing isn't part of routine STD testing, you have to request it. The CDC doesn't recommend testing for it due to basically the hysteria it can cause. Some insurance won't even cover the cost of the test. That brings into the stigma, I have met many through here who suffer so much pain but that is not the majority. The majority of people take care and know. Their worse side effect is the stigma. I like to think or hope we are an advanced culture in larger cities in the US, but media, movies, peers still make herpes jokes that feed into the stigma that oh, you must have done something bad to get herpes. Sure, mainly HSV2 is sex related HSV1 is different sometimes but....oh sex..what a terrible thing. The people who make the jokes have sex too. Granted HSV is not something easy but it is a virus, have you ever heard someone say "what a !*@* that person is for getting chicken pox" or "OMG she got the flu what a skank" Both are viruses, HSV does not define who a person is regardless of their past, it is a virus...we can all get a virus. We are only human, having HSV doesn't make you a bad person or undateable. As I mentioned I am still HSV-. I get my risk and won't be shocked if I do indeed contract it one day. I was given the choice to take the risk like most were not. What we do is he takes daily anti virals to reduce having and OB and shedding. I take Lysine, there is nothing saying that Lysine is a help in preventing non HSV, but hell an immune booster won't kill me. We use condoms, I can send anyone a great link on Amazon to but good ones in bulk. Sure we have got lost in the heat of the moment and not used a condom, it is not a regular occurrence but we are sexual beings that are lucky enough to be in love. We don't proactively try to not use a condom, but if in a healthy long term relationship...it happens. Just don't make a habit. Since my BF has HSV2 the chance to spread it oral is slim to known. He doesn't have HSV1 so oral sex with each other is a non-issue. HSV is rarely ever even spoken about now between us, sex can be good with a condom..we can agree to disagree on that. I love this man with all my heart and soul. HSV is not going to keep from happiness nor is it letting him. We are your normal couple who can't figure out what to eat for dinner if the house is too cold or too hot. My end point is that entering into something with someone HSV- can be scary, most are so afraid of spreading. With education, communication and being proactive the chances are greatly brought down. If anyone ever feels down and out....reach out to me. I get I am not in most the peoples the same situation in regards to being HSV+. I can't understand your trek, but I can tell you how it is to support someone on the trek. All my love, Silver
  15. Today I've been doing a little digging through scientific studies and papers and came across something VERY interesting. I'm pretty sure you'd all like to have a read of this: http://jeffreydachmd.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/Efficacy-of-antiVZV-antiHSV3-vaccine-HSV1-HSV2-recurrent-herpes-simplex-Jacqueline-Le-Goaster-2012.pdf Basically it seems the Anti-VZV (shingles Vaccine) has been working against both HSV1 and HSV2! Of all the people who took part in the study all patients exhibited no further outbreaks! I'm definitely going to be having a word with my doctor regarding this and see about trying to get hold of the vaccine. Anyone on here already tried this approach? H
  16. Hi all, Last night @SupermansJustice stood up and fought for all of us, I thought you all should see this chain of tweets (pictures attached - you can also go on Twitter to view the full thread). This is the reason we need more people standing up and helping us fight. A specialist of infectious diseases spoke out against the tweets being posted about routine testing. I will say that again - a specialist of infectious diseases said that there is no need for routine testing. At one point even asking how you would test people who don't show symptoms. @SupermansJustice went into a debate with this doctor and was able to point out the facts, showcase studies and eventually led the doctor to change his thinking and the doctor saying "It's important and underscores a lot of uncertainty we have." The uncertainty is clear, if even a doctor that specializes in diseases doesn't know the facts - how are we ever going to see a change in our lifetime? By changing one persons mind at a time, by reaching out to as many people as possible, by stating facts with logical and reasonable communication, we can make a serious difference. We need more research, better testing, and routine testing! Stand up with us - we (people with HSV) are being placed on the back burner. I know of no other disease where I'm being told that what's happening to me isn't a big deal, and it doesn't matter. It's because it's constantly being swept under the rug and we are being ignored. Sign up - create an anon account on Twitter and help spread the word!! Follow @TheHopeIsNear he is fighting for all of us. @OhFuckMyDickHurts @Lisajd @Hansje @Owningit @GlitterDx @Rational Vaxxer
  17. Hi, I am a 22 year old male from West Virginia, recently I've been going under a lot of stress and anxiety because of cancer tests. All test came back well and now I think I might have herpes. A month ago I had oral sex with a girl then 3-4 weeks later (while I was undergoing stress and anxiety for the cancer) I noticed my lips and mouth burning. The burning stopped after afew days, I also have had a on and off burning tingling sensation in my hand and sometimes I can get it throughout my body like legs, arms, hands, feet, mouth, tounge. NOTE(1): I have NOT experienced any sores or any of the other symptoms of herpes besides the tingling, but I've felt the tingling throughout my body before (Hands, feet, arms, legs and other parts of my body like my mouth). Could this be oral Herpes from oral sex or am I just blowing it out of proportion because I've had 2 doctors look at my lips and mouth and both said all they could see if Fordyce Spots on my top lip and I shouldn't be worried about any STD in my mouth/ lips. Also one of the doctors looked at penis and scrotum and said he could not see anything there. Could these just be symptoms of a overly stressed and anxious body/ mind or herpes please help I am very scared. The more opinions the better.
  18. So recently I took a trip to the doctor to treat my horrible bv. Also months after telling my bf for the second time I tested positive for herpes 2.( Previously I've been positive then equivocal and back to positive). Well anyway Saturday after we had unprotected sex as we always have, he asked me did I take another test. I explained to him I didn't but I did speak with a new doctor she wasn't sold on me having herpes and thought I was being "too worried," recommended i see a dermatologist. Well he then continues to say if i really have it, he just wants to know. He said he didn't care but I'm not sure in what context he meant that cos he just said it out if nowhere. He even corrected himself after saying how having it was embarrassing but I guess he thought about how that made me feel then said it wasn't embarrassing it was just a lot. I told him I really didn't know i don't understand all what's happening being told different things but I think we should assume I do and hence the positive result and I wanted to start using protection( which I've told him before). Since then we've yet to wear a condom. I asked him if he had been experiencing symptoms because before when I've brought this up he'd get extremely irate and start saying some pretty fucked up shit -which I understood- but now he seemed to have a softer spot like he wanted to understand. He doesn't have any sores or anything but he has been complaining about his nose being stuffy and congestion which I believe are just allergies since he works outdoors. He was tested a month ago and remains negative. Once we ended the conversation he goes "well I just want you to tell me what's going on because I don't want to hear anything in the end when you get mad about something". I asked him what did he mean, like I would yell out in a argument "that's why I have herpes!" because I could have done that years ago since we've been dating. I want to bring the conversation up with him again but he made it clear he didn't want to discuss this anymore, but I don't understand if he's not having any symptoms why does he keep asking me about something we've discussed. I don't believe he's gonna leave me I mean when I first told him he flipped out but he never left me he even kept having sex with me unprotected even when I told him we shouldn't. I'm just so confused about what I should do. I've been backing away from sex with him because I sense that he's worried but he's in a hard place. He obviously loves me to deal with this but I know he doesn't want to have to really deal with this. I've read the statistics and how he's more likely to get me pregnant than I am to give him herpes. Which I assume is try since he's negative and I just gave birth January and now I'm pregnant again (haven't told him yet). I don't want to make him angry but I do think we may need to have another conversation about this. I told him I was making another doctors appointment and i would have the doctor speak with him about herpes and all my results if that'll ease him, but he's declined. What do y'all thibk? Am I handling this appropriately? How do I bring this conversation up again? I hate having this responsibility, this shit is so hard to talk about. I'm constantly worried about his health about our babies health. Any conversation would be much appreciated right now. background: *Had a hookup with cousins bff used protection.. *Didn't pee or bath had to be up for work early.. *Woke up late about 6 am vagina felt like I had discharge gushing out. Got home looked in mirror vagina looked cloudy. Gooogled some home rememides used tea tree oil drunk buttermilk before ultimately using Monistat... Woke up to piss burned like a mfer. * Diagnosed visually the next day... Initially test showed bv got tested again a year later had a low positive result treated with rocephin shot and doxycycline. *After receiving positive result I attempted to kill myself ex bf found me unresponsive took me to hospital, thrown onto psych floor once I was released from the icu. * at that time I had lesions on me which I noticed literally shriveled up and disappear. The dead skin from the lesions literally feel off. I assumed the meds worked and it must have been something else * tested months later after being released from psych ward and had a equivocal result doctor assured me if I tested again id be negative. *well my dumbass slept with the guy who started all this itchiness in my jungle and once again I had lesions on me (this would be a new year) *tested positive again January 17'
  19. So recently I took a trip to the doctor to treat my horrible bv. Also months after telling my bf for the second time I tested positive for herpes 2.( Previously I've been positive then equivocal and back to positive). Well anyway Saturday after we had unprotected sex as we always have, he asked me did I take another test. I explained to him I didn't but I did speak with a new doctor she wasn't sold on me having herpes and thought I was being "too worried," recommended i see a dermatologist. Well he then continues to say if i really have it, he just wants to know. He said he didn't care but I'm not sure in what context he meant that cos he just said it out if nowhere. He even corrected himself after saying how having it was embarrassing but I guess he thought about how that made me feel then said it wasn't embarrassing it was just a lot. I told him I really didn't know i don't understand all what's happening being told different things but I think we should assume I do and hence the positive result and I wanted to start using protection( which I've told him before). Since then we've yet to wear a condom. I asked him if he had been experiencing symptoms because before when I've brought this up he'd get extremely irate and start saying some pretty fucked up shit -which I understood- but now he seemed to have a softer spot like he wanted to understand. He doesn't have any sores or anything but he has been complaining about his nose being stuffy and congestion which I believe are just allergies since he works outdoors. He was tested a month ago and remains negative. Once we ended the conversation he goes "well I just want you to tell me what's going on because I don't want to hear anything in the end when you get mad about something". I asked him what did he mean, like I would yell out in a argument "that's why I have herpes!" because I could have done that years ago since we've been dating. I want to bring the conversation up with him again but he made it clear he didn't want to discuss this anymore, but I don't understand if he's not having any symptoms why does he keep asking me about something we've discussed. I don't believe he's gonna leave me I mean when I first told him he flipped out but he never left me he even kept having sex with me unprotected even when I told him we shouldn't. I'm just so confused about what I should do. I've been backing away from sex with him because I sense that he's worried but he's in a hard place. He obviously loves me to deal with this but I know he doesn't want to have to really deal with this. I've read the statistics and how he's more likely to get me pregnant than I am to give him herpes. Which I assume is try since he's negative and I just gave birth January and now I'm pregnant again (haven't told him yet). I don't want to make him angry but I do think we may need to have another conversation about this. I told him I was making another doctors appointment and i would have the doctor speak with him about herpes and all my results if that'll ease him, but he's declined. What do y'all thibk? Am I handling this appropriately? How do I bring this conversation up again? I hate having this responsibility, this shit is so hard to talk about. I'm constantly worried about his health about our babies health. Any conversation would be much appreciated right now. background: *Had a hookup with cousins bff used protection.. *Didn't pee or bath had to be up for work early.. *Woke up late about 6 am vagina felt like I had discharge gushing out. Got home looked in mirror vagina looked cloudy. Gooogled some home rememides used tea tree oil drunk buttermilk before ultimately using Monistat... Woke up to piss burned like a mfer. * Diagnosed visually the next day... Initially test showed bv got tested again a year later had a low positive result treated with rocephin shot and doxycycline. *After receiving positive result I attempted to kill myself ex bf found me unresponsive took me to hospital, thrown onto psych floor once I was released from the icu. * at that time I had lesions on me which I noticed literally shriveled up and disappear. The dead skin from the lesions literally feel off. I assumed the meds worked and it must have been something else * tested months later after being released from psych ward and had a equivocal result doctor assured me if I tested again id be negative. *well my dumbass slept with the guy who started all this itchiness in my jungle and once again I had lesions on me (this would be a new year) *tested positive again January 17'
  20. I'm currently taking reishi,cordyceps,and chaga together. Its by host defense . Before this I was taking just reishi and cordyceps. By host defense Has anyone tried this. I have read that reishi is good for the immune system
  21. Hi all, need some advice here.. 2 doctors that I've spoken to said there's no real need for my husband to take oral med to further reduce risk of transmitting genital herpes to me as long as we use condoms properly on normal days and not engage in intercourse when he as outbreaks.. is this true? I'm a bit concerned because I see so many people here taking oral meds along with condom use but I don't know is it because your countries are more liberal with prescribing meds while mine is not (I'm living in Asia).. A quick background is this: My husband has genital herpes type 2 for some years before we met and we've engaged in intercourse a number of times (both with and without condoms) before he told me about it (!@$#@% ok.. i forgive him).. and I got pregnant, thankfully baby is born last year all safe and healthy and I'm not infected.. but since my pregnancy and since my husband told me about his condition, he has been guilt-ridden and we've not engaged in intercourse in over a year. He actually intended to not ever 'touch' me again (we haven't even kissed for over a year) but I feel that I don't want this to come in between my marriage life like this and I haven't been very sexually active before marriage so I really don't want my sex life to be over before it has even begun properly! Therefore I hope to be able to take precautions (I understand the risks involved) as far as possible and would really appreciate getting some advice and suggestions from members here who have successfully continued with their sex life without infecting their partners..
  22. Anyone else find it hard to initiate sex once you know about your HSV 2 diagnosis? Even though we've decided to stay together, I am so apprehensive about approaching him for a little "sexy time". Weve been dating for about 8 months, having the unprotected sex for 6. He's never caught it but now it's like he's scared of me. Even though I'm on suppresive therapy, taking Lysine AND we're using barrier methods, I feel like such a dirtbag sometimes. I most often was the one that would get it started but now I'm too self--conscious and I freeze. And then when we do it, we have this barrier between us and it doesn't feel the same anymore. I don't want to expose him but my heart breaks every time we can't be together like we used to be. Any advice?
  23. Okay, so i was diagnosed about 3 weeks ago. So far, I've accepted it but i had a few concerns about sex and transmission. I was prescribed Valacyclovir for 10 days, taking 1000 mg twice daily for my initial outbreak. I haven't followed up with an ob/gyn yet but how do i keep my sex like spontaneous with boyfriend? I feel like i will always have to take precautions, and we may lose some excitement. I want oral sex, as well as penetration, but condoms cause friction, and dental dams aren't the sexiest or best feeling, I would imagine! So how safe is oral and vaginal sex with meds?
  24. Hello. So I'm not sure how to answer questions when it comes to spreading Hsv2 to my partner. I know that if I have a break out then I can get it through skin to skin contact. Is that if any part of his body touches my genitals? What about oral as Well? If he goes down is it when I have a break out that it'll spread. Feel free to give me any information on how it spreads.
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