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  1. TheKittiesTitties

    Advice for an experiment needed!

    Hello all! Feels good to be back and to be alive! So, since I've been on this last, life has taken a drastic turn. Mostly for the better. My outbreak count has diminished greatly, although when they do happen, the little bastards make up for lost time. My mental health has improved alot. I've been sober for over 2 years and I have a feeling that has help tremendously in my physical and mental outlook. And lastly, I've got a girlfriend. We've been together for almost 3 years and we are looking ever so forward to our future. However.... She dosen't know. We've restrained
  2. My girlfriend and me, are HSV 2. 6 months I have been positive. My girlfriend 8 months. We both have IGG positive hsv 2 and have a month of relationship. My only symptoms are itching attacks every 3-4 weeks, I donthave sores, vesicles, or ulcers. She has itching attacks and sometimes mild discharge every month. Our question is, having sex without a condom can make the virus get stronger by mixing genetic material in each contact. Or can it make the tables worse? What is symptomatic? Thanks
  3. So, I found some one who was willing to have sex with me .( He doesn't have HSV2 or 1. ) I hadn' t had sex for over 7 months. I am really disappointed. It did not go well. The condoms didn't make it any safer. They kept falling off or slipping down, Its just not safe sex at all. Plus, He couldn't stay erect. He couldn't feel anything. I couldn't feel anything... Maybe from the lubrication I had to use so I wasn't rubbed raw to cause an outbreak. So we had to stop every time. We tried for 4 days. It just wouldn't work. The last day he thought it was Ok to have anal unprotected and j
  4. JustMe81

    I disclose right away

    I know some may judge me, but this is how I deal with disclosing. I always disclose btw. For any kind of partner. I only disclose to people that will get affected by it in some way. So only to men I am intimate with. I see no reason to tell my family or friends about it. It does not affect them in any way and honestly, while it's not really a secret, i do try to avoid having to deal with the ignorance of people. I disclose right away. To me, it is best to give the other person the chance to go away at the very beginning before I get attached and hurt. So I bring it up as soon as we start
  5. Hi I’m new to this website, it’s been a year since I found out I have HSV 2. My question is, how likely can genital herpes be spread during sex if the condom tore the skin of the vagina area and it was bleeding a tiny bit? I was intimite with a man recently and we used a condom, it ended up pulling and tearing a small cut on my vagina, towards the end he took the condom off and I didn’t know until afterwards... I am on a suppressive treatment. I take Valtrex once a day but I forget to take it sometimes. what are the chances of him getting it?
  6. I've known him for less than a month. I model &he is a young, handsome assistant photographer with whom I was in Mexico with for 5 days. I have been diagnosed with HSV2 for over a year now, but I have only had an outbreak twice within that year& I do take antiviral medication for it. He &I did not know eachother prior to Mexico, but we hit it off& as a single-mother who doesn't get out much I am guilty of making the first move by asking if it was cool to cuddle. I was actually really surprised he said yes, with that being said I do remember thinking to myself,"but I have herpes
  7. Dee22

    Sex after ob

    Hi, i have seen some posts on this. But thought i would ask. I think i may be having an ob. I started the anti virals. I have hsv 2. If i am ,how long is it safe for my body to wait to have sex. ?And to have it less contagious for the guy im seeing. There isnt anything that visable when i get an ob but its very sore so i know its happening. Should i wait two weeks ? Or if i feel better its ok? Let me know your thoughts please.
  8. Editorial source: http://www.healio.com/infectious-disease/stds/news/online/%7B31ed8b2f-7ebc-493d-861f-94056e5a294f%7D/risk-for-hsv-2-transmission-using-condoms-associated-with-gender Scientific Journal Source: Magaret AS, et al. Clin Infect Dis. 2015;doi:10.1093/cid/civ908. ^^^^^ Found that use of condoms for 911 couples over the course of 1000 sex acts (however they measured this) was 1.3 transmissions aka: 96% Reduction. Surely this is a larger percentage than what we have previously been led to believe? Thats an incredibly low percentage of transmission, in a contr
  9. Hi new friends, I was just diagnosed with GHSV-1 4 days ago and my sores have completely healed. In fact, my vagina is almost completely back to normal and I'm at 2 weeks from the initial symptoms (I'm terrified another outbreak is coming). BUT my lymph nodes on the left side of my groin are the size of ping-pong balls and are incredibly painful, it feels like someone is having a campfire inside my lymph node. I look like a freaking idiot when I walk on campus because I have a slight limp in my step. Does anyone have any advice on how to reduce this pain? I've tried ice and I'm popping ib
  10. I found a new about condom that covers almost all genital area and it can be used to protect partner its like you wear boxer and condom but this looks better than wearing a boxer. Link: https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a19520563/scroguard/
  11. Curious1998


    So I have been diagnosed with Ghsv 1 and I was wondering far as sex goes should I use condoms for now on ? I know I shouldn’t have sex during any breakout of course. But after everything heals (far as breakouts) will I still need a condom ? Can I still receive oral or what? I tried looking up things online far as Ghsv 1 goes but didn’t get the answers I was looking for.
  12. kay_n

    Casual sex?

    So still getting used to all this and just was wondering if any of you still have like casual sex... like one night stands and things like that. Is that even a possibility anymore? And if so do you tell every person u hook up with even if u use protection? Or tell each person but do they still agree to wanting to hook up or do they get too freaked out? Just been wondering these things so if u have any info or experience id love to hear.
  13. I was diagnosed with genital HSV1 in September of 2016, and started taking valtrex daily, and ever since I have not had any kind of sex drive. I have a wonderful, loving, accepting boyfriend who does not judge or have a problem with having sex, despite my diagnosis. However, while I used to have a great sex drive, it is not low, or non-existent. I have started seeing a sex therapist but nothing has really changed. I even stopped valtrex last month to see if that could have been. Unfortunately, now I think I might be having a second outbreak so am likely going to get back on it... Am
  14. LalaJade

    Outbreak EVERY time I have sex

    I am at wits end. Everytime i have sex I get a ghsv1 ob the following day. I have been Valacyclovir 1g for over four months and still this is happening. I have graves disease (a type of hyperthyroidism) and after having my thyroid destroyed it stopped for about a month but now they are back weekly like clockwork. I have tried to cut down on stress, exercise, taking lysine daily. My Dr says there's nothing else I can do apart from live with it. Any ideas?
  15. Valstic

    First time

    I’ve been diagnosed for a month now and I take daily suppressive therapy. I haven’t had sex since finding out , but when I do decide to after notifying a partner how do I go about not transmitting it ?
  16. First off I’m sorry for the quality of the photos, it wasn’t easy to get a clear enough picture. I have this spot near my perineum. Don’t know how long it’s been there.. If I had to describe it I’d say it feels like a hard small lump. When I stretch the skin around it, it goes shiny and u can barely see it. Does anyone know what it is? I’m having a few issues down there just now as ive been diagnosed with Vulvodynia. I was in pain last week after sex and I don’t know if it was too much friction that’s caused it. I don’t know if it’s related. It doesn’t hurt or itch and I didn’t know it
  17. Okay I was just recently diagnosed wit ghsv1.. so I went through my firstborn OB about 2 weeks ago and wasn't even that bad. It's all cleared up now and has been for a week. I just had sex with someone 4 days ago, we started out with a condom then took it off in the middle of sex. Could I have possibly infected him though I'm having no symptoms at all? No.. I didn't tell him about my diagnosis Ik that's terrible.. but we've been hooking up for like 2 years now so I didn't think it was that important.. also I'd like to know how many OBs I should be expecting and possibly how often? I've used go
  18. "Is there sex after herpes or human papillomavirus? I wish that the culture didn’t do what it does with these things because I want you to know HPV and herpes are not nearly as big a deal as you’ve been led to believe they are. I’ve had countless young women and also men in my office who felt as though they had a big scarlet letter on their head when they were diagnosed with herpes." Dr. Northrup (even though I'm not sure about some of her other ideas) For the younger people...A “scarlet letter” is a stigma someone bears for a misdeed he or she has committed. The term often refers to an
  19. So I have been dating this guy for 1 1/2 years and he has HSV2. Prior to us being together I did not (or at least to my knowledge) have Hsv2. He was very brave and disclosed to me before we did anything sexual and I thought that was very brave and decided to give him a chance! We have sex regularly but I have not yet had an outbreak or anything. Does that most likely mean that I have it and if so can I spread it? Basically we've come to what I assume is the ending point of our relationship. I just want to know if it's safe for me to have sex with other people if we were to break up and not
  20. On Halloween, I got drunk (I this isn't an excuse) and slept with this guy I've been talking to for about a month now. I now feel completely guilty I didn't tell him that I have the herpes virus (I've only been recently diagnosed only about 1.5 months ago). I don't know what to say to him, or how to bring up that I have the virus in a conversation. Need help! Has anyone done this before and have stats/information I can tell him while trying to tell him.
  21. I am a female who was diagnosed with HSV 2 in October. I had abstained from sex until then as I was not seeing anyone consistently and wanted to stay on the safe side. I was getting quite of few outbreaks in November (not on suppressive meds), but I would only take valtrex at the first sign of an outbreak -for three days as it was prescribed to me. Luckily, December I did not get any and over the weekend I had went out. I was taking valtrex 500 mg 2x a day off and on during the week leading up to Fri. Long story short, Friday I went out drinking and ended up having sex. At first, I
  22. Arianamiller

    Casual sex with hsv1?

    Everytime i read stories on here about disclosing to partners they have herpes they seem to be potentional boyfriends, so i was just curious if anyone on here has casual sex or random hook ups and how they handle that situation and some stories??? Especially young people because we all know it's almost impossible knowadays for young men to want anything serious.... (i have hsv1 genital) i'd like too hear some positive stories cause i feel like if i don't get back into having casual sex i might stay abstinent and alone for many many years lol thanks in advance!
  23. So been having itching sensation in my pubic and scrotum area for over 3 months, I have had sex with the same girl for over a year, Just recently about a month ago i started to have warm feelings in my thigh area with still constant itching in my scrotum area and pubic hair area. I also have lower back pain. I have been tested for HSV Lgg 1 and 2. HSV1 came out positive 5.00 ( I have had cold sores on my lip since I was a kid). HSV-2 came out negative 0.67.. I have been tested for all STD's and all came back negative. I remember a while back when we started to have sex. I noticed very small
  24. Hey so don't know if I post this here but whatever. I have had genital h for a some years now, take my meds, been monogamous with my now husband and he has never contracted it. He is 1 of 2 ppl I had to disclose this personal diagnosis to, the other person decided not to see me anymore...which of course hurt me, but just getting to the point, while I'm young, is there any chance of having a no strings attached threesome after disclosing this diagnosis to prospective attractive lovers or am I being unrealistic? I can't shake the shame I felt after telling guy #2...
  25. Hey guys, I’m new here! I’m a 21 year old female, and I’m not HSV positive myself. A guy I’ve been seeing told me tonight that he is. His ex didn’t tell him that she was and they had sex without a condom. He was very respectful about it and told me before anything sexual happened, and I could tell he was expecting me to run for the hills when he told me. I didn’t run for the hills. We’ve only been on a couple of dates, but he is an absolutely incredible guy and it breaks my heart for him that someone could do this to him. After he told me, I asked where he sees this going. I don’t
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