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Hi...Talk about being confused and overwhelmed...I have been single for more than 4 yrs and have not had any relationship, finally..I find the one, and after a few months of dating he has an outbreak (his 1st), His initally blood work came back Neg..but his DR wanted to check him again in a few months (time to get in the blood???) he suggested i get tested, so I did immediately and it comes back I am positive for Type 1, I dont ever remember having an OB, I had no clue it could be me. I have never had any sores like the photos i have looked at. I have no clue, The DR. said not to worry, but What do I do Now

I have so many questions, I dont know where to begin.

I wanted to end the relationship, But the Boyfriend is so supportive and said we will get through this together.Where do I begin

confused and sad

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Herpes is not a reason to end the relationship. Would you end your relationship if your boyfried got diagnosed with terminal cancer ? I hope not. And the good news is nobody dies from cancer. You just have to make some adjustments to make transmission to your uninfected partner less likely. If your partner also has herpes, then you do not even have to take any precautions.

It should be no surprise to you that you had no symptoms because most herpes carriers are asymptomatic and not aware that they have it. It is possible that you will stay asymptomatic all your life and if so - I am happy for you...

Let us know if you have any questions,,

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Hi and welcome! I'm glad you found us. This is a great place for support.:)

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