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HI again

Does anyone know what the odds are for spreading Herpes when wearing a condom? I've read that a woman transferring to a man is a lot less likely than a man to a woman. Any thoughts?

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To be honest ... who cares about those stats... Theres a very high chance in both men and women, I've read 90% that if a person is exposed to an open herpes blister outside the area of protection (condom) that person will get infected by the herpes virus... Skin to Skin contact... If there herpes blisters are in an area that is covered by a condom, theres a low chance of catching the virus... Exact stats.... I dunno....

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hmmm

I guess I wasn't clear. I meant, if the person was not having an outbreak, and wearing a condom.

And obviously I care, which is why I asked.

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grrrrrrrrr

So, if I'm not outbreaking, and using a condom, there is no chance of the other person catching it? Is this correct, Richard?

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So' date=' if I'm not outbreaking, and using a condom, there is no chance of the other person catching it? Is this correct, Richard?[/quote']

yea pretty much, but sometimes you can't tell if your sheding or not...

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Very common... Most ppl dont even know they have HSV-2, but continue to shed the virus... As far as how do you know... I dunno... I don't think you can tell though, sorry...

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Not at all... Just know your body... If your feeling tingling of any sort down there, dont have sex, use common sense... Most ppl who shed the virus un-knowingly do so without having any visible outbreaks... If your outbreaking, theres a good chance you arn't shedding the other way... I'm pretty sure... Have sex, just be smart bout it man, know your body...

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that's the problem

Since my initial outbreak, which was so bad, the dr. thought I had menangitis, I've had nothing.

Too bad there wasn't a home self-test you could do right before sex...just to make sure you're not shedding.

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suppressive therapy can reduce shedding and transmission

If you are afraid to give it someone when you don't have an outbreak, I would try taking Valtrex on a daily basis to reduce shedding and the transmission of the virus (huge reduction). Not only will it reduce the transmission, it will also reduce the occurance of your outbreaks.

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Re: thanks!

I'll ask my dr. about that!!

DO so - I've been on Valtrex daily - only had a couple of OBs in well over a year - can explain both - extreme stress & missed pills. But works for me - see what works for you.

I have also had unprotected sex (not that I recommend it) with my BF when I'm feeling great - no sex if I'm not - he has not contracted the virus. He is well aware of the risks, and was his decision to not wear a condom. My ob's are on the outside - could transfer with a condom due to location - so he told me he'd rather not - provided I was honest about how I was feeling. The rule: undies stay on if I'm not feeling great - he doesn't try anything in the area - doesn't ask - and we find ways around the "area"...

Talk to your doc - you may feel better...

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My doctor told me that taking Valtrex daily significantly reduces shedding the virus and outbreaks. Although, women are more likely to contract than men. If you don't have symptoms (and you need to know the symptoms well), taking Valtrex, and wearing a condom it is highly unlikely you will spread the virus. I haven't had an outbreak in over 2 years, had protected/unprotected sex with 2 partners and they never caught it.

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i am very new to all of this and not sure what i can and cant do in the bedroom anymore. i live in canada and we dont have all the same drugs available ( to my understanding at least) . we dont have the daily preventative ones. all i got was a perscription for famvir for when i feel it comming on. i think this sucks. i dont know what type i have yet, 1 or 2, the tests are still being done. i haven't heard of too many cites in canada for chats, only american ones. i cant tell anyone right now and feel very alone. and the guy who gave it to me didn't know he had it. i called to tell him andsaid i would call him back with the results and now i can't get a hold of him. hmmm a little suspicious, i don;t know what to think, did he know or not, it was only a fling. i was in a very long relationship with someone (with whom i still have a close relationship with-obviously not sexual at the moment, or ever, who knows now) and this was the first person i have been with, we used condoms, but i guess that didn't matter, he must have been 'shedding'. Now i don't know how to tell him that i slept with someone and i have this forever now. i feel so stupid! :cry: sorry i am rambling this is the first time i have talked about it to anyone!

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daily treatment

what about the cost of daily treatment? is it super expensive? is this something insurance will cover? i know just a five day course is about fifty bucks. obviously, i would be all over the daily treatment, but i can.t afford paying for it on my own.

and feelinalone...

your entry makes me so sad. i know it must feel like this is the worst thing in the world...but just like everyone on here, it makes you sort some things out about yourself and you learn to live with it. you learn about your body, about how you feel about people you are intimate with and how they feel about you. think of a friend you trust and just tell them, you need someone you can talk to about it.

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Thanx for your response.

It has been a couple weeks now since i got it, it is finally almost healed. It is funny that i just got this reply today because my mom just found outi have it from some stuff she saw on our computer. i was really hesitant to tell her and had decided not to. But when she told me she had seen this come up on the computer we just started talking and she was great!!

she was very supportive and even let me know about something that she had, (not H) and she said that she would be there and knows what i am going through. i am sooooo glad i can talk to her now. she even said to really look into the kinds of treatments and that we would do whatever we feasibly could to get the best to treat it that we can. IT feels so much betterto have someone who i can talk to in person.

Thank you for writing. :D

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hey there...

i.m so glad you are feeling better. i am terrified of my mom finding out...she.s also kind of a snoop and wouldn.t be surprised if she knew already. only my sister knows and she has been great. i am just super unsure of how anyone else will react....mainly because of the stigma attached. but reading what people write on here has been the best support i have encountered so far. knowing i am not alone and that people have lived though relationsips with this disease. anyway...thanks for writing back. keep writing with what goes on...it helps to share the journey.

cheers.

3t

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