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i was dx 5 yrs ago and my 1st episode was extremely mild. And i have never had a recurrences. My first husband cheated on my me and thats how i got it, now i am remarried and have never told my new husband, mainly because it has never been a problem for me. Now I am feeling guilty, but i am scared that it will change our relationship.

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boy sweetie, don't know what to say... maybe tell him your x just told you.... maybe that you never got diagnosed... hate to say lie - but is a little truth better than none at all? I don't know... does your husband have symptoms?

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Not so Sweet!

Let me understand this. You have known that you have had Herpes for 5 years. You met who I suspect is a nice guy, and didn't tell him before you slept (endangered) with him. Not only did you endanger him once, but you continued to endanger him over and over. You didn't stop there, did you. You married this "nice guy" and still haven't told him????????????? You haven't told him and continue to keep endangering him over and over just because it suits your selfish needs???

Stop this BS. It's time to quit being so self absorbed and tell him immediately. How dare you take this reckless attitude with someone you are suppose to love. This isn't about "you", it's about him. You must stop thinking "me" "me" "me" - start thinking about how this impacts "him" 'him" "HIM!!!"

Just tell him now and get it over with. YOu don't need advice, you need to look in the mirror and see yourself for who you really are. You need to quit being so selfish about how this will affect "you".

When I read about people that blatently risk infecting others, it turns my insides. I truly hope there are criminal laws in the works to deal with people like you.

You might think my post is harsh, but I don't think it's harsh enough.

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well i told my husband and he was great, he said if this is the worst thing we go through then we are doing good. He also stated that it hasnt affected us yet in 3 yrs and he isnt worried about it if it ever does. Luckily there are really good people in this world. Oh and thanks for the support 'unbelievable' ..you sound like a real gem. You want to talk about my morals but try this one on for size. I was a virgin when i got married the first time and my current husband is only the 2nd person i have ever been with, so this can effect anyone and be hard to deal with, so you just need to get off your soap box and chill

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Sweetie ain't so sweet when put in the corner huh? aren't we all.... as I agree with you sweetie - and proud of you for getting through the telling... love to your husband for understanding. But I have to say, unbelievable was posting his/her feelings just as the rest o us. It was hard to read that you never told him, but what's done is done, and you were trying to do the right thing. Some people don't understand the fear associated with love - how the thought of losing it is paralysing.... that post was hard to read, but so wasn't yours. I would never judge you for what you did, just commend you for what your heart has brought you through.... thank you for sharing that with us, that alone I know was difficult as well.

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