I have read posts on another sg of many women who get painful first obs. Others have reported obs around their periods. The key is a healthy immune system. It is only thru time u will know how your body will manage the virus by whether you have an ob or not.. some with severe first obs go on meds for a year.
That might be true, but with over 30% of AA men and 50% of women, there's a lot of people to talk through the issue. I'm Australian and there is no disclosure or discussion of HSV-2 here. It is just an outcome of being a sexual human. I feel that is the same thankfully in the AA community. The stigma has been largely generated for the benefit of drug companies selling their antivirals to American princesses who are wrongly told that the odd irregular sore on their 'gin gin' is unclean! All women are beautiful, especially my lovely partner regardless of whether she's having an outbreak or not!
Medication is one step to reduce risk. For a female its like 1% if meds and condoms are used. Remember viral shedding occurs less frequently after 6 months and if you have no obs you shed less. @thebarrier The dr wont swab if there is no lesions i would expect.
Hi Ethyl, you have come to the right place. The more you know about what you have the better you will feel. The first outbreak is always the worst and some people never get another one.
Had you ever been tested in the past? Chances are you already had hsv1 and have had it most of your life. 90% of all adults have hsv1 oral and most got it as a child from a kiss from a relative.
I know one of the fears you have is that no one will ever want you, but while you might get rejected every once in a while, there are a lot of people out there who won't care. This website has a great section called "The Secret to My Success" and has hundreds of posts from people who thought that and then found someone who did not care. Personally, I have given the 'talk' a dozen times and have NEVER been rejected.
Meeting other Herpsters also helps. Seeing other, normal people who had it helped me a lot. You can probably find people near you on Facebook in one of the secret Herpster groups. You can't find these groups on your own because they are secret groups. I can help you get into the biggest one called Swirls which has almost 5000 members in it. Swirls has a list of all the other groups which number over 300 most based on geography, so I bet there is one near you.
Come to chat, there you will find many nice fellow Herpsters who can offer you their support.