Jump to content
World's Largest Herpes Support Group
Sign in to follow this  

neg partner wants to have sex with a type 2 genital

Recommended Posts


ok i met this one guy, we hit it off we get along great and he knowsd aboutmy situation, i have type 2 ,he has been there for me with the ups and downs of this virus, he has been very supportive, well now it appears he wants more in this relationship and he has mentioned about having sex.. i told him i dont know since this is all new for me and it need to get used to my body and to see how this will all effect me...ive only had 1 ob so far and im done with it, but ocassionally i feel itchy, doesnt last long, so i never know if im on the verge of another one or if its just my body getting used to the virus? i told him i dont trust myself to know yet when its safe to or not? he says well as long as we use a condom it should be ok? ( i do take valtrex and lysine everyday) i said that helps but thier is no 100% guarentee, in some ways it would be nice, but i get so worried about him catching it,,he is just a sweetheart, ive given him this sight, but i dont think he has read up on it,,he says he trusts me to keep him informed?? i dont think its up to me to always keep him informed? i figure he should be responsibke for his own health and judgment as well.. i know it sounds like i dont care, i do, but why is the responsibility left all up to me? he is a grown man, he should be doing his own research and come to a descion on his own? i just dont want to be responsible in case he was to get it even if we try to be careful,, i have told him as much as i know, and since he is negative thats alot of pressure on me, where does it not become my responsibility ? i would feel terrible if he got it.. just give up on anyone that doesnt have it? and i have tried the dating sights for herpes,,well apparently thier isnt anyone from my area??? closest is 4 hrs away, and with gas prices the way they are, im not too keen on a long distant realtionship. also he aso wants to do oral?? i told him i cant, he may get it.. what do i do? he has never had a cold sore or anything..

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Well make sure he understands that HSV's is a lifelong commitment unlike most relationships or marriages "of course til the finally figure out a vaccine". And if you dont feel comfortable having sex with him I dont blame you. You should probraly have him wait.

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

If your not confortable with having sex then dont! Dont feel pressured, jsut becasue he said its ok and he doesnt mind. If he doesnt understand that you need more time then he knows where the door it. Even if you didnt have herpes, people should be able to accept when someone is not willing to or not ready to have sex and wait until they are. Or go find someone else! If they do that, then clearly they werent that if to you in the first place.

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
Sign in to follow this  

  • The Hive is Thriving!

    • Total Topics
    • Total Posts
  • Posts

    • Skrillah80
      So ur saying the herbalife was the key?? Olive leaf extract and pro biotic are good? How many mgs of Lysine did you take a day? 
    • that1youngguy
      hello all, update... so the white ulcer inside started around january 4... and today it is still there... no burning while i pee, just a constant mild irritation feel, no other symptoms i went back to get retested 2/12 so 2.5 months after exposure... including HSV, HIV, gon, chlam, everything came back negative... the doctor thinks it's some form of chlamydia, he gave my doxy for 10 days is it too soon to tell if i have HSV? is it possible to have an ulcer inside the urethra and be fungal or bacterial?
    • MikeHerp
      Probably not many.  I'm going to change my twitter symbol to the copper ribbon at least.  
    • nope1234
      okay! I guess I will just start at the basic dosage of vitamin C and go up every week little ? I take 1500 mg of super lysine like the bottle says and it still gives me gas and diarrhea. hoping it will pass if not I'll drop down to 2 a day! I really appreciate the advice! i know we would all.do ANYTNING to not have OB  at the moment idc about stigmas od boyfriends or dating or sex....I just care about FEELING healthy in my own skin. this is my one and only life 
    • Lulupazoola
      That sounds like a good place to begin.  The lysine worked really well for me for about a year and a half.  Then things got steadily worse for me and nothing worked until vitamin C.  My immune system is not that great even tho i take care of myself, so u may have good luck if u have a decent one.  With the vitamin c, u must 1) take it at intervals throughout the day, not all at once 2) dont increase the amount u r taking too fast 3) it will give u gas at higher doses and even diarrhea if u go crazy with it. These r signs to lower your dose!  If u can just control your OB's with vitamin c and lysine or anything else, maybe a cure will finally become available.  

Important Information

We have placed cookies on your device to help make this website better. You can adjust your cookie settings, otherwise we'll assume you're okay to continue.