OK you wise herpes gurus on here, I had this thought and I want your "expert" opinions.
I'm OBSESSED with the fear of transmitting. I know not to have sex during OB. I plan on ALWAYS using condoms and I am on daily Valtrex. I know there is still a 2% chance of spreading. I want to decrease the odds even more.
So... I thought about this skin barrier spray. If I spray it over the boxer short area before sex, I'll wonder if it would keep asymptomatic shedding virus to myself and away from my partner. Thoughts???
What is the difference between Herpes IGG and Herpes Immuniblot tests? Any difference in accuracy? I've had both come back negative at 10 & 16 weeks respectively but had/having all symptoms and keep reading about people that test negative through blood but positive swab even years later......?
We agree there is an overblown stigma because ignorant people think herpes is only derived from promiscuity. But stigma doesn't make the symptoms and likelihood of transmission disappear. No matter what, you're faced with telling someone you want to be with that the most intimate part of your relationship will be extremely risky and they may end up dealing with the terrible pains also. Please, be a little more realistic about it instead of lying to yourself and pretending that squashing the stigma would cure the disease and solve all the problems w/dating. I think there is nothing wrong with preparing to deal with it ahead of time. You prepare yourself for everything else in life, don't you? In this case, if you turn up positive then you're more prepared to handle it. If you're negative then you just won the lottery. Don't deny the facts in order to cater to your emotions...you're kicking the can and it will only make things more difficult later. As far as not being diagnosed yet, some of us are dealing with poorly educated doctors who rely on outdated information to make their decisions. So we're left with diagnosing ourselves and struggling to find help. I don't think I need an official diagnosis to know that herpes antiviral medication relieving me of herpes symptoms after sex with someone who knowingly had herpes, means I have herpes. Denying that would be stupid. And even though these posts may offend others who are still sensitive about it, they help me cope knowing others share the same feelings and situations.
Anyway, my goal either way would be to always remember the pain it put me through, to count my blessings and be more grateful for things, more responsible, and more compassionate toward others dealing with any illness/depression. Suffering is constructive in many ways. It just takes time to realize it.
@SomethingsUp have you read any of the success stories? Might help.
Don't worry there is help on here and lots of people who you can talk to and the chat room is always a good place to ask for support. I'm afraid I don't know much about PCR blood tests. Perhaps it's because I am in the UK and we tend to use igG testing.
I can understand your frustration but there will be an answer to this and getting a blood test will help shed some light.