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southern

Well, I am a only 21 and its only been roughly about seven months that I have had this little surprise. My ex had it and passed it on to me and as you can tell we are no longer together for his own fault, but, I love him hard and when he told me that he had herpes it was in the beginning of our relationship and he was honest with me about it and I accepted him for it. Later on down the road it got passed on to me but, we were very serious and I was thinking that we were going to have a future together and now I have it with no ring and no man. I do not hate him, nor do I blame him it was consent. He lead me to beleive we were going to have a future and a family. I wan in on the de-nile river for a long time with him and I beleive he was with other women behind my back as well. I broke it off in December of last yr and he didn't like that. He threated me and called my cell phone cussing me and just wanting me dead. Sorry to say it like that but, that is his words not mine. So, I wish that there were some way that everybody that has this in us could be cured but, how would pill companys make there money...? But, trust i know the power of love and my will for it is not broken but, the heart is locked away tight.

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sally

Hey Southern!

So sorry to hear about your situation, and that he turned out to be such a nasty fellow. People do and say strange things when they are hurt.

Whether we realise it or not, life has many many chapters, and there's always room for new beginnings. Thank goodness for that! :)

Two years ago I was engaged to someone I thought was a wonderful man, till I found some undies under the bed that were not mine :shock: ....and wouldn't you know it, a few weeks later our little friend herpes appeared! I promptly made my exit from that relationship, though he didn't take it well (but, hey that's his problem, not mine!)... Although I could do without the herpes I feel like it kinda 'saved' me and set me on a healthier life path.

Fast forward two years, I've made a new life for myself (moved to a new country and am teaching english!) and through good diet/sleep/exercise/stress management I've managed to keep my OBs to a minimum. It takes a little time, but be patient with yourself and get to know your body and what triggers your obs. This will make you feel a little more power over the situation, it does for me anyways... I play an active role in not having outbreaks. :lol:

So, take good care of yourself and hang in there! You are still an extraordinary person with tons to offer... chin up!

Best wishes,

sally

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sad2bhere

Yeah I have to chime in here also - got herpes from husband (then fiance). I would say in retrospect I probably went ahead and married him in order to not deal with the trying to find a bf while having herpes. :? Well that marriage lasted almost 9 yrs but should have been over in 5, he chased skirts from the time we married. No prize at all in the betrothal dept, that man. :roll:

I am so glad :D to be free of him and (almost) single now that once we separated, my number of OB's dropped in a big way. So it's been kind of a benchmark for me how happy I am. Unhappy = too much drama in the life, and getting OB's frequently. And oh yeah he also was a jealous and possessive turkey, I just think he couldn't handle that I finally rejected him, after all the lies, deceipt, unsuccessful therapy, and little surprises (like the last lady who found undies under her bed. Yikes. :shock: ) He never threatened to kill me, but his ardor in winning me back seemed more like a contest for him than a declaration of love. Go figure. :?:

Babe just go on and make the rest of your life as happy as you can. You already know how refreshing it is to be free of him, a much better, NOURISHING relationship is out there waiting for you. God Bless!! :D

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