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I am male 40, got it from a girl some time 7 years before.Initially severe attack occured.After that every year one attack come. I am married 8 months before ,no issues,my worry is that my innocent wife might have been infected. The recent one occured one month before. It lasted 15 days. My wife saw it. I told some lies.Please tell me how to disclose it my partner without breaking the relationship.!!!

Next two months she will be with me( she is working 1000 kms away). I am taking Acyclovir tab 200mgX3 per day from 23 mar 04.Concurrently taking Viagra generic for ED.(50mg)

Any way to vanish the scar of previous attack? It is very thin sometimes getting pain during intercourse.


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You need to tell your wife - if you have to tell her you were just recently diagnosed - but she needs to be checked too - don't make her suffer unknowingly - you are exposing her everytime you have sex - she deserves to know.

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first, you need to be open and honest if you want to salvage your marrage. you cant have a solid marrage based on not telling, just aint gonna happen.

secondly if its painful during sex, there is something not right... you really shouldnt be having sex if there is pain.. thats a little warning sign. get that checked out before you resume activities. as far as the scar goes.. never had a scar from any OB.. so i wouldnt be able to advise you on that. but a topical healing ointment may help. again ask your doc before using anything about possible drug interactions.

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if there is pain.. thats a little warning sign.

HUGE sign.

topical healing ointment
I have used "mederma" for scars - wrks great - but I don't have scars from OBs... if you leave them alone to heal, they don't leave scars typically

ask your doc before using anything about possible drug interactions
nice disclaimer KF!! :wink::o I do agree - always check with the 'ol docaru....
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  • 3 weeks later...

I understand completely how you feel...

I really understand how you feel. After my marriage ended where my husband also had it, I did not know how to ever tell anyone..and so I never did and constantly worried and used condoms..etc etc.

First..there are statistics out there that 1 out of 4 have genital herpes. That is huge even if slightly incorrect. That does not help though if your wife does not already have it.

I am remarried again and somehow could not tell my present boyfriend, now husband either. I was embarrased and thought he would leave me, etc etc. I went a couple years making up excuses why we could not have sex...and slowly breaking him into the idea that maybe I "have something" because something hurts or burns..etc.. Well finally I told him the whole truth. I was scared but it felt so good to finally get it out. We never used condoms by the way after awhile..but I would never do anything if I thought I was getting it. I tried telling him..what If I have something and I give it to you...he said the only thing that would ever scar him was HIV. ..anyway..back to the point.. He was not angry at me, even for lying. He understood actually. ..or so he said he did. We are still together and having a 2nd child. I actually told him while pregnant with the first...did not know how I could hide it anymore.

When someone really loves you...they will understand..if not immediately...they will come around. Just have faith and know you are not alone....my x-husband still has not and can not tell any of his girlfriends...when I see how it torments him...I am grateful I told the truth.

The truth heals. You are also lucky you never get it much.

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Just wanted to say that I know it is scary to tell your wife but you must tell her as Las mom says you risk her getting it unknowingly~I got HSV2 from my ex husband he had got it from his previous wife~He knew he had it~rarely had a breakout~I got it from him two years into our marriage~We ended up splitting up not just because of this but because of other trust issues~you need to be honest with your wife~if she really loves you she will accept you for who you are~I have the greatest husband in the world now~I told him two weeks after I met him granted he wanted to leave me( people think the worst of herpes)~~I loved him so much I pleaded for him to stay~he did~ we have been together six years now~he accepts me for who I am~and I think if you are honest with your wife she will accept you for who you are too! Good luck ~

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One more thing I forgot to say I agree with the other gal ~you are so lucky you don't get it much I don't see how anyone who got it often could lie to their partner~I have a BO at least every four months~There is no way I could've hid this from my husband~

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