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I feel disgusted...I hate myself

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Hi all,

When I came back from my business trip, I've noticed that something was not right with my body. I thought that I've contracted an STD, because I was engaged in unprotected sex during my trip with an old girlfriend. Nothing happened a week later, and I decided to "write it off". Then suddenly, I noticed a cluster of tiny blisters on my penis. I got scared and started doing research on the internet...These blisters began to grow bigger, and I decided it was time to visit the doctor. A week later, I was diagnosed with HVS 2. I use to be a cheerful, happy young man. I have a B.S. Degree in Information Systems, just started my career, bought a new car, new condo, and was enjoying life at its fullest. I really had a lot going for my self in terms of my career. Now, Im depressed, quiet, and always deep in thoughts. My family and coworkers keeps on asking me what's gotten into me, but Im too embarrassed to tell or talk about it with them. Alot is expected of me, especially from my family. I use to love to go out, socialize, and meet new people. Now, i just want to stay home and not want to talk to anyone. I just cant believe stupid I was to have unprotected sex and contract something. I feel like I've cheated my body, infected myself with something so disgusting and not curable. I feel like i've let my parents down. They've been doing such a great job rasing me, teaching me, lecturing me, showing me whats right and whats wrong. My mom always told me to take care of my self, because my health and my happiness is very important to her. She doesnt care if im successful, rich, or smart...all that matters to her is that im happy and healthy. I dont know what to do anymore...i feel like i've thrown my whole life away, my career, my future. How am i going to lead a normal life, have wife and kids, without worrying about infected them? I hate myself for not thinking straight, I hate myself for infecting my body with this disgusting disease, and I hate myself for letting my parents down, I hate myself for ruining my future, I HATE MYSELF!

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I HATE MYSELF!

Well, I love you.

I love you for sharing that.

I love you for reminding me that it was not so long ago I felt exactly the same way - and boy how far I've come.

I love you for respecting your mom and remembering what is most important to her - YOU - I am a mom, and I will tell you - she will love you no matter what you have, have done, have said - unconditionally - comes with the job!

You are the same person now that you were before. Don't forget that. You are the same son, friend, coworker you were - you just have a bump in the road - 25% of Americans have this - probably more. Confide in some people you trust - your mom maybe? I did and found out my sister and her husband, two of my cousins, some friends, coworkers and - yes - MY MOM - have HSV - how bout that? (I did not contract this, nor did my sister from her)

If you choose to keep it to yourself, well thats a fine decision - just make sure you have an outlet with someone you trust - here, another site, a friend - but don't hide it from yourself. Your decision making and sexual behavior is the only thing affected - and thats good.

As for a wife and children - sounds to me you will make a great husband - that is the immportant thing - HSV is just a screening mechanism for a wife that will love you unconditionally. And kids - well - that is a non-issue. My sister and brother-in-law have 3, I have 1 - all happy - healthy and obnoxious! Be careful what you wish for...

You are going to be great. Give yourself some time to absorb this, get informed, and live happily ever after - and when you need help from time to time - someone is always here.

Good luck Fles!

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