@gonnakillher that sounds so much like my experience, it's crazy. I have less symptoms - but the occasional swollen (2x in the left groin for me) lymph nodes, the lower body nerve pains, the lower back pain (worst right after encounter), the arm shocking. I have no itching skin symptoms (just some sensitivity sometimes) but have some ear ringing, muscle twitches.... And the thing is, I really want to believe I don't have it.
I cling to the fact that she had HSV-2 for eight years, confirmed, and never knowingly passed it. I cling to the fact that I remember some minor back pains when I was sick a few weeks before the encounter, and that never totally went away. I cling to the fact that I'm a long time vegan and could have B12 deficiency (tough I took superdoses of B12 since April almost daily). I REALLY cling to the fact that I had a left eye twitch before the encounter, even if it got worse.
I really really want to believe it's not herpes. I want to believe that getting intimate with a woman I really liked who was HSV positive after only a month and a half of dating was not an awful mistake. I try to convince myself that maybe I've had swollen lymph nodes in my groin before but never touched it enough to know. I do, after all, have swollen lymph nodes in my neck that I notice. I've even written off several potential lesions as cystic acne (which I get regularly, and know exactly how it looks and feels). I say all of that to say that I get frustrated when people say "why do you want to believe it's herpes?" just because I'm curious after a negative test 14+ weeks out. I really, really don't want it to be herpes. I have the tendency to try to believe I'm OK.
But all of these brand new sensations. The nerve pains all over my body, the lymph nodes, the leg muscle twitches - all started four days after exposure. The fact that the initial sensations were different and closer to my groin than the subsequent ones. That's scary to me. And it's so close to what you describe @gonnakillher.
Just really hoping the stretches occasional minor eye twitches, along with the very short stretch of heart papiltations that I got a month or two before exposure developed into something and this is all a series of coincidences that came mysteriously tumbling down only days after having sex. I don't know when I'll have closure.
The sad part is, I'm terrified of the stigma. Dating. These symptoms are not life altering in the slightest. I'm 30 and know a few women I'm interested in. They're interested in me. I don't know how to proceed.
The first 6 to 12 months is higher possibility of transmission hence why hes ended up with it. Some transmit and some dont but he did make the choice. I have seen other situations such as this and the guys do end up.struggling with it...but hey we all do.
@Hester anti virals and condoms reduce risk but also its about you understanding your body and symptoms