I read on another support group site a woman who has been in the trial in San Diego and he said it reduced to viral shedding by 40%. she said the next period will be across two years so she won't have any other data until then so obviously there seems to be progress which is good for you guys
Given that you have hsv1 you are less likely to have a lot of outbreaks and the symptoms will be quite mild if you do. HSV 1 is lower risk but if you are having outbreaks and you will also be viral shedding and the first 6 to 12 months is high risk. I understand your fear of disclosing but put it this way did you have a choice when you were infected. Think about the fact that trust and honesty is an important in a relationship and you should tell this guy because one he deserves to be able to make the choice and two if you do start a relationship and he gets infected he will feel deceived more than likely.
I'm still distraught when I first find out but HSV 1 is not the worst of them and there is no reason that you should feel disgusted it is just a virus and a lot of people have it. If that's how you feel about yourself you're going to reflect that to this guy anyway so for your own peace of mind and happiness don't beat yourself up so much about having herpes.
Just remember that you can still lead a normal life with herpes many people do
The reason I asked was twofold:
- to get a sense of how long you had the infection as antivirals are more effective and 'necessary' in the first year of infection
- to check that you do know whether you have HSV-1 or HSV-2 genitally.
Swabs are not typed half or more of the time. Worthwhile checking absolutely that it was typed and not assumed to be HSV-2. Have a blood test if you are not 100% convinced.
I'm sorry to hear you are suffering. I want to tell you that I contracted Genital Herpes when I was 18. After a while the frequency and the severity lessened quite a bit. Now I only get an outbreak about once or year or less, and I don't experience much pain, if any. My spouse married me knowing I had herpes. We have children. Its been 30 years since I contracted it. I tell you all this hoping that you may see that in my opinion, a normal life lies ahead of you. Please don't despair for the future.
Your doctor is right on the basis of sheer probability. A women who is infected genitally with HSV-1 will in most every case be thoroughly aware of it. It is no trifling issue but luckily a once off.
If you haven't been forced to seek medical help for sores on your genitals then it is exceptionally unlikely you have genital HSV-1.
About 50% of the population are infected with HSV-1 before age 3! This is why people often suddenly get a positive blood test in their 30s, 40s plus and wonder where it came from. It is because they have no memory of the infection and the issues they probably had as a very young child. They would have abated after a few months never to return (or very rarely).
Thanks praying for peace. I will try the OTC Hydrocortisone. As for flaky rather than gritty, I don't know if this would have removed the grittiness and turned it flaky, but the GP sprayed me with liquid nitrogren.
I can relate - I have genital HSV1, but I was diagnosed June last year. Tell me about your symptoms. You are right about ob being a lot more mild second time. My second ob was slight pink skin, no real bumps or pain... lymph node enlargement and slight tingling (nerve sensations) but that's it. You can "shed" the virus between ob's, however it is a lot more likely that you will transmit with actual sores. It is possible to transmit between ob's. You are not an awful human being and I can tell you personally I felt a lot of the same things you are in the beginning. Sometimes, I still struggle with "the talk" but have found that honesty and saving sex for commitment is the way to go. Otherwise, you will feel guilty about possible transmission. If he is the man of your dreams, he will still love you anyway. Have you asked if he has ever had cold sores?
When I have had "the talk" with people in the past, it was after we made out, before sex... and usually just asked when last time they were tested was. They tell me and usually ask in return... and that's how the conversation opens. I have told 4 guys, and have never been rejected for it. You just have to act cool and collected. Say that you tested positive for HSV1, which is the same virus that causes cold sores... See what he says and take it from there. Just be real.
Let me know how it goes.