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I just got the word from the doctor today that i have type2. I am totally freaked out. I feel awful an alone. I havent told anyone I know yet cause I am afraid of what they will think and say. But worst of all I have to tell my boyfriend of 1 month that i have it. I cant stop crying about it im scared that our relationship is'nt strong enough to handle this and I care about him so much. I dont want to lose him. I just hate my life right now I feel dirty and ugly. I dont know what to do, how to tell him, how to get on with my life, how to tell anyone. I almost feel like I am still in denial. I dont know im rambling right now. If there is anyone out there who can shed any light my way i could definetly use it right now.

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I can't tell you how your boyfriend will react but telling him is the right thing. Hopefully he will understand! I know how you feel and wish you the best!

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I know i need to tell him i want to tell him i just dont want to lose him! We hit it off so well i feel like he could be the one. I just dont know how to help him understand. Im afraid he will think im dirty and not want to talk to me anymore. But I guess if he does that he must not be the one right cause if he was he would understand right?!?!?

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I was in the same situation and my bf was great about it - mainly because I did no tknowingly expose him - I did not know I had it.

Everyone is different - he may run, he may stay, he may need time to think - hell, he may have it...

Tell him - be honest - trust me - no matter the outcome you will be relieved for telling.

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Just curious - did you just have your first outbreak and if so were you with him prior? If so, is it possible you got it from him? Or are you asymptomatic and it just showed up on a blood test? All these things factor in so you might write a bit more about yourself so people can help : ) Breathe deep, take care of yourself, it'll be ok.

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I understand exactly what you're feeling right now. Reading your words sent me back to my 'beginning'. I've always found that 'knowledge is power'...trite but true. It's easier to talk to someone you're involved with when you have all the facts and a list of resources they can access themselves. I've also found that, when possible, sharing the information as calmly and 'matter-of-factly' as possible generally results in a more positive outcome. Do some research. It puts things in perspective when you toss the statistics out there. Have a few avenues of research to offer the person so they can do it on their own if they prefer. Finally, if the person 'opts out,' thank them for their honesty and encourage them to proactively research the STD data out there so they can feel more comfortable addressing the situation in any future relationships. Encourage them to ask the right questions EVERY single time because, unfortunately, there are plenty of people out there who keep it to themselves. Learning more about all of this will not only help you talk to others about it but it will help you realize you are not alone, you are not dirty, and you are still a beautiful person who has a heck of a lot to offer. Never doubt that. Good luck!

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