My story and frustrations! part 2

[summertime2004]

My frustrations come from my friends who have hsv 1 orally. Some of their comments over the past few years have me wondering.

A said to me when I told her that if someone told her that she would think oh icky. She gets sunblisters but they are not contagious. Wrong! She also told me one day that she had a hypothetical conversation with her boyfriend but did not tell him that is was me she was talking about because she felt he would think less of me. I left work and went to the beach and floated on my air mattress and cried and cried.

D has made comments lately like She thinks all guys will run when I tell them. I told her one day when I was waiting for the last guy to call that I was so paranoid about it. And she said understandly so when you get bit by a dog so many times you learn. But you seem to want to keep trying so maybe you should where more padding or taller boots. I'm not going to be alone forever so what choice do I have.

B kisses her boyfriend all the time when she has them. Doesn't care if she passes it on.

So why don't people with hsv1 orally have to tell when getting into a new relationship?? Why do people freak when you say it is below the waiste??

I'm so thankful for this site and being able to talk to people who can relate.

I just hope that some day I meet someone as caring as others on here have.

[dncrck]

hsv orally-to summertime2004

Hey,

I'm a 24-year old female with hsv-1 orally, not a trace otherwise...it took me 20 years to come to grips with having this, and when I did finally accept that I have this nasty illness I realized, to my horror, that I'd put my gf at risk. All because I was in that big river in Egypt, de-nile. I immediately told her, and said that if she would feel better she should get tested. My point is that people who *just* have HSV orally should absolutely tell their partners...as you know hsv orally is painful, embarrassing, lifelong, and stigmitizing. It's no fun and it alters the way you live the rest of your life. I don't know what it's like to have hsv genitally, but i still know what it's like to have an std, and it's no picnic. never agaion would i put anybody at risk.

Take care,

Chris

[summertime2004]

Thanks for the reply. It helps to know someone out there who only has it orally relates. I guess maybe my friends are in denial also.

I have just decided to not talk to them about my relationships because their respones are not healthy for me. I feel bad enough on my own I don't need my friends telling me no one will understand.

TC and GB

Summer

[chaos]

it's weird. I acctually noticed several time people who had hsv1 talk about people with herpes in such a horrible way, saying things like oh my god I heard that girl has herpes. And spreading gossip about people who have it and I just wanted to say "hey what the hell do you think that thing on you lip is dumbass?" Why is hsv1 acceptable and hsv2 is the the worst thing ever?