ok, owwwww...... please help....

[cheated81]

hi all, i believe i may have herpes.... my husband did a bad bad thing... he cheated on me... we are working on that. he received oral sex from a girl that had a cold sore... well, about a month after he did this, he got a blister, it lasted about a week, we did have sex during that time, before we noticed the bump, and now, almost a month since his blister, i have what i THOUGHT was a yeast infection, only it is on the outside, like on the inside of the lips but outside of the vaginia. It is RED, and REALLY painful, i have tried vagisil, it only burns more with that, it hurts REALLY bad when i pee. And I have had a fever of about 101.1 for the last 2 days, feeling tired and yucky....

the only relief i have found is using my daughters balmex (diaper rash cream) on it, and it only helps a little. I will of course not use that tube of cream on her anymore, i will open a new one.

Does this sound like herpes? And if it does, what remedies have you found for the pain? this is almost making me cry when i try to walk.

Also, we do not have insurance at this time, hopefully in about a moth we will, until then, i can only do over the counter

thanks in advance!!

[brittany]

Maybe you could go to a clinic like planned parenthood - they will work with you a lot w/ no insurance - it could be yeast, i was told that over the counter yeast stuff can actually casue some women to have a bad reaction making it worse. But w/ the possibility you were exposed - and the fever and aches - go to a clinic while the symptoms are present. I am no doc but ive read that a coldsore is most likely hsv1 and it is uncomman, not impossible, to spread it to your genitals - but if you do have hsv1 on your genitals there is a good chance of few, if any more outbreaks. Ive read here that advil on a regular basis can help a lot w/ pain, but it still could be yeast. Do some research, but be careful which websites you read - and read richards "sticky" article in the mean time. Hang around here, it helps a lot. Take care and try to stay positive.

[Lasmom]

if you used a short term yeast cure - 1-3 days, it could be burning from that. Try a 7 day kind - it is more mild - clear water baths, etc. keep the area dry. If it continues see the doc.

My worry is the fever - indicative of an infection. You probably need antibiotics if the fever continues. If this is the case - skip the first paragraph and see a doc before you get any sicker.

[dncrck]

no insurance-advice

If you don't have insurance but you have a fever, you still need to see a doctor. Go to the county ER, tell them you don't have insurance, the county will pick up the tab (they have to take care of every case that walks thru the door, no matter what!) and then apply for Medicare or whatever state insurance your state has until you get your own... Also, Planned Parenthood will treat you for free or for a low fee (on a sliding scale) if you call and tell them you can't afford to pay.

Hope this helps! Good luck, and let us know how things work out. I hope the pain subsides one way or another.

-Chris