Hello, you have support here through this forum. We all are going through this. I'm new only a couple weeks adjusting, but I find it amazing to hear other people's story's and advice. I've only told my mother and father and one close friend. But my partner is in the same position as you, and I suggest speaking here first get comfortable with this and then maybe if necessary you can speak to someone personal you know, but your not alone were are evidence of that.
To be honest a lot of people don't find it to be that huge a deal so maybe he just doesn't care? If you guys want you can have him blood tested to be sure, but you can have it for years and never have symptoms.
Sorry you're having to go through this
: ( pregnancy is hard enough without adding this stress to it. Do you suspect he's known he had it? Or maybe he's trying to cover up guilt? I can't imagine why he wouldn't at least be surprised by this.
But just finding out or getting it so late in my pregnancy I'll have to get a c-section for birth and that was definitely not part of my birth plan.
My partner just keeps trying to avoid the conversation and blowing me off when I bring it up yet I just got diagnosed yesterday and it's all new to us I was expecting more support from him knowing it's his fault I have it in the first place
That is a mess! I'm sorry that happened. Everyone keeps telling me urgent care isn't really reliable which is who I went to because it was the weekend. I actually just got off of the phone with my GYN and she's convinced that I have absolutely nothing. I'm just trying to figure out why my swab from urgent care came positive for ghsv 1. It's been an up and down battle for me and I just want to finally know. If I have it, fine. I came to terms. If I don't then I'll be delighted.
Although I am a bit different because I had an actual lesion (Not swabbed but guessing hsv1) I think it is obvious there is a group of people whom experience similar symptoms such as widespread nerve pain and other neurological complications and also test negative for HSV. From my understanding in reading many of these forums, there seems to be more documented nerve problems from those who test negative than those with a positive diagnosis. Even in asking my practitioners (4 of them.. one Sexual Health expert whose own daughter has H2, two functional med doctors, endocrinologist), "Have any of your patients who have herpes followed my own prognosis?" all I have received is no. They all willingly admit that they have many patients with herpes, but none seem to endure the pain we all describe. This is interesting on several levels.
Are we really in such a minority group that we have extreme atypical symptoms AND test negative?
Is there something common about our biology, history, ancestry that puts us in this minority?
If we can discount hsv2 as a culprit (97% accuracy *cough cough*), then why is the immune reaction to hsv1 infection the DRG so much more pronounced?
I hate spending time on these forums because it means I am wasting time during the prime of my life. I have learned more and read more anecdotes than I could ever have imagined. Where are the stories of people who continually test negative and go on to infect future partners? Who owns the responsibility for that?
Truth be told I would not discount the possibility of our infections being either foreign strains of HSV that don't cause the body to produce the same ABs, or a completely different virus altogether. I doubt a bacterial cause simply because of the recurrent neurological complications.
I started this journey in February, and now I am back at school for my senior year and I might as well be writing a thesis on the under/misdiagnosis of HSV. Im a Comp Sci/Math major. Lol. Each day gets better and we will all carve our own paths and find happiness.
Hi. I had similar situation. i had an ob. Swabbed by primary dr said positive for H 2. went to gyno she took blood igg @12 wks. she calls leaves message I dont have H2, test came back I have H1 orally. I call bck wtf was the swab she back peddles and says I have H1 genitals. I say swab says H2. She says primarydr didn't request test properly. I call primary to discuss with her I tell her calmly what gyno said about the test she did on swab shes a bit defensive and says what does it matter its on genitals whether 1 or 2. I do another blood igg @ 19 wks same thing positive only for H1. so I have appt with new gyno and an infectious disease dr in sept. Trying to determine what it is 1 or 2. i know i have something always a bit of discomfort for 5 mos. Hopefully these drs better than the primary or gyno.