given herpes purposely

[secret1]

Hello everyone. I am a 19 year old female college student who has had genital herpes for a little under a year and a half. It truly touched my heart when I read your article, and my heart goes out to you. When I was infected with the disease, my boyfriend at the present time gave it to me purposely. I didn't know I was having an outbreak at the time that I'd gotten tested, I just knew that something wasn't right. The guy was in the exam room with me when I went to a clinic. When the nurse said that it was genital herpes, I let out a scream of terror, and felt like the world had crashed down on me. When I looked at him, I swear I thought I saw the devil himself in this young mans eyes. At first he tried convincing me that I had given it to him, which I knew was an ultimate lie. Days later, he told me that I was now stuck with him for the rest of my life, and that hed given it to me intentionally because he knew that I was leaving him. I broke up with him immediately, because although I had a virus I couldn't get rid of, it was not the end of the world, and I didn't have to be with him if I didn't want to, that was something that he COULD NOT force upon me. Shortly afterwards, he broke into my apartment with a secret key I knew nothing of, stole valuable things, and attacked me. He went to jail for a few months, and I now have a restraining order on him, but am scared for my life because although I haven't seen him in a year, we live in the same city. I dont even go anywhere at all for fear he will seek revenge for the jail time. I am now 2 months pregnant, and try to maintain a happy normal life. My question to you is " Can you give me some advice, tips, and input on how to prevent most outbreaks from occuring?" I've only had it a short time, but have already experienced at least 7 outbreaks. I would gladly appreciate your response, please take your time if needed, and respond to me whenever you get time. thank you kindly.

[Lasmom]

Get on supression therapy as soon as possible - talk to your doc - your hormones are probably making it worse.

I'm sorry all of that happened to you. God, why do people do that? I can't even respond it makes me so angry - I'm sorry.

I hope you are in a stable relationship now - and I hope something hard finds that bastards skull really soon... SOB - you know it's against the law to knowingly pass this on? He sould be in jaol for that too - how many others ....

Well - you take care of yourself and that baby -

LM

[secret1]

thanks for responding

Thank you for responding to my post. My question to you is, exactly wht is supression therapy? I am going to look into it myself, but what appreciate your input. Thanks for your sympathy, and the good words for my unborn child.

[Lasmom]

I'm not sure which is best... I'm on valtrex daily - not guaranteed to stop all OBs but reduces occurences and length of outbreaks. There are other meds that may be better for prenatal use. Iwould just call your doc, say you have HSV, are pregnant, and want advice on suppression therapy. You DO NOT want to have a vaginal birth with an OB - covered under the parenting forum... c-section is the way to go - unless your doc tells you otherwise... me - I wouldn't risk it. The stress of pregnancy can surely increase your OBs - so see if you can get them in check so you can "enjoy" this time as much as possible!!!

Hows the morning sickness? Mine was 24 hours a day for about 4 months... ugh!!!

[secret1]

thanks for responding

well, luckily I haven't had any morning sickness at all, not even throwing up! I have told my doctor about my pregnancy and outbreaks. He told me to only take valtrex when I have an outbreak coming, he didn't prescribe a daily dose...hmmmmm.....So in the meantime, Im wondering how to prevent them? Honestly though, I'll bet that mines comes from stress. Sometimes it is so hard for me to feel human, because I can't just let it all out, you know? It is so bad with me to the point where if I get upset over something and cry, I have an outbreak immediately. And you know that when your pregnant, your so emotonal. When I cry sometimes, I know an outbreak will come, but it is hard to hold back tears. I am a Cancer, which doesn't make it any better, because we are super sensitive. I'll have to toughen up and suck it up though, and try not to let things bother me so much, for the sake of me and my babys health. Hey, did you have a natural delivery, or a c section? Please fill me in with some details. I love this website, do you?

[Lasmom]

I hate it here!.... no....

I'm a scorpio - that should tell you something - get on supressive therapy - just tell your doc - get a script -

C-section - got to 9 cm and stopped... I was not diagnosed then or I would have had a sceduled c-section. Who the hell wants to push anyway?

[secret1]

Thanks for responding

So do you think it would be on the safe side to get a c- section even if Im not having an outbreak? I was wondering what are the chances of me not even knowing Im having an outbreak during delivery. Like what if one was coming but the blisters weren't visible? I know that's something I'll have to talk about wth my doc.

[Lasmom]

Re: Thanks for responding

So do you think it would be on the safe side to get a c- section even if Im not having an outbreak? I was wondering what are the chances of me not even knowing Im having an outbreak during delivery. Like what if one was coming but the blisters weren't visible? I know that's something I'll have to talk about wth my doc.

Exactly - i think you answered your own question - read Black Orchids story,

http://www.herpes-coldsores.com/messageforum/viewtopic.php?t=1328

MY PERSONAL OPINION: C-Section only - take no chances.

[sleepy]

I'm a scorpio

best sign there is.

[Lasmom]

best sign there is.

Hey-ya!!!!

Funny - so many here - "Pilot" who is MIA - has the same birthday I do - we should have a dance or something - bunch of crazy people!!!

[chaos]

most woman who give bith with h have natural deliveries. most doctors will only do cesarean if sores are present. Cesarean deliveries are potentially dangerous and the possiblity of something going wrong during one is more likely that the chances of your baby being born naturlly and contracting h. Talk to your doctor and do your research.

I also got H from a "herpetrator" he intentionally gave it to me to keep me with him. a sick and evil form of abuse and control. I'd rather be alone thanks very much. As bad as this seems, as bad as it gets, at least I'm not like him.

[livesWithIt2]

Purposefully?

If this 'man' (and I use the term loosely) actually gave you this disease purposfully, you may have legal recourse against him.

In some (most) states it is Illegal to Knowingly and Purposefully pass on an STD to someone else. The crime is punishable by jail time and other punitive punishments determined by a judge.

While there is no way you can prove he gave it to you purposefully, I strongly suggest you call the department of health and discuss it with them. They would be able to tell you if you have a case and suggest a legal way to address it. If you put him in jail for his retalitory actions in breaking into your apartment, you can use that as evidence of his intent to cause you harm. Your patient records and the timing of your infection will also be useful in determining 'when and where' you contracted the disease if yours was a monogamous relationship with him (at least from your side - his is something else entirely).

There are some extremely SICK people out there, he sounds like he needs to be removed from society as a menace the the health and safety to women in particular. Its people like him that help spread this disease and others. When he contracts AIDS, will he 'trap' some other unsuspecting woman by giving it to her 'purposefully' to make her his property forever?

Check it out... you could save the lives of countless others by prosecuting him for his narcissistic and malicious act.

Annie

[rolandeerice]

I did not realize there were so many people out there that spread this diease purposely!!!!!!! My ex boyfriend did the exact same thing to me. He gave me the diease thinking I would feel trapped and stay with him. I broke up with him immediately. I would much rather be alone FOREVER than be with a man who lies and puts my own health in danger just to hold on to me. I currently have a new boyfriend who loves me eventhough I have this diease and it hurts me so much to think that one day I might give HSV to him, but its something that we have to deal with.

Having any diease is not a bad, disgusting, or nasty thing. It's the people that spread the diease knowingly, don't bother to tell their partner, and don't care are the disgusting ones.