since i am the new one here and also very new with genital herpes. what i believe is very important is your own confidence and mental health. evrything starts within us. so telling about herpes to your partner majorly depends on you itself. the more panic way u will tell your partner, more they will get insecure about it. its just the matter of timing and the way u deliver the message to your partner.
i suppose herpes is generally a type of cold/flu which we usually get when the season changes and the person with low immune gets infected with it and is over within a week. same is herpes. herpes has no deadly effect on the person. the OB comes when u r mentally stressed or your immune system is not functioning properly so u experience an OB which also lasts for about a week. u just need to be pretty sure when u experience outbreak and also shedding part(itching,burning,tingling), u need to take precaution at that time when u experience such problems and abstain from sexual activity. in this way u will never infect your partner with herpes and u both can enjoy normal sex life
. and if ur partner by chance catches it, then there is no worries, the first time will be little painful but not for long period and can educate him or her with this info. and tell them to keep immunity strong and u will never experience outbreak. i repeat its just same as cold/flu. it is contagious with normal contact or by air particles we breathe and herpes can only be transmitted with sexual contact. its just a normal skin infection which come and go depending on your health only. i hope this message help anyone.
since right now i am single. so as to protect other also i have decided not to date anyone or have any sexual activity with anyone for about 1 year. since u told me it is more contagious in first year and i have been recently diagnosed with it. so is it really less chnce if i dnt have any sexual contact for next two years and is less chnce of transmitting it.
thnkyou so much for sharing your views. i just want to know what herbal remedies u take. and i would like to ask one more thing that for lifetime u cannot take antivirals evryday or use condom evrytime u have sex. sometimes in the process of making love u end up having unprotected sex. so for that i want to be sure that it doesn't pass to my partner. in that case what to do? and also either u have outbreak or shedding part? is there nowhere in between where u dnt have both the things and u r completely normal? in that case if i end up having unprotected sex than how much is the risk of passong it?
I have had the same type of weird prodrome like sensations nearly daily for 2.5 years. It's very frustrating and I have been taking 1 gram of Valtrex for suppression for about 12 years now.
I had not had an actual OB in years but just last month then again this month had OBs in the same spot. I can say now that the real prodromes before those OBs were different than these 'fake' ones. The real ones were much more localized to the area where the OB occurred and pretty unrelenting.
I think part of your issue could be due to stress. Having a baby is a major stressor not just physically but mentally too. I spoke to my doctor yesterday about my recent back to back OBs despite medication and the first thing he mentioned was stress and what a huge role it plays in recurrences. Of course it's also the hardest thing to resolve for most of us.
In this whole world there must be something why is there nothing why won't anyone help clear this virus. Why can't people get treated. This isn't right we pay into Heath service and when I need treatment I can't. People deceive others and lie and we contract this I never would do anything to hurt others. Made the mistake of trusting but safe sex and now this. I will never live with this. I can't I won't it's horrible my life is over. I want it to stop now as I'm useless and horrible and tainted and feel disgusting in myself. Why has nothing been done in all these years everyone talks of Halford but nothing in terms of a cure. I can't go on, I want this to stop now. I can't go on. My life is finished. I've got nothing
I can't have this please someone help me
there must be someone to get this out of my body
i can't live with it
i want someone to cure me there must be something all this time no thing
please God please my life is over I'm at the point of suicide now I'm not living with this
BeWell....did he test positive for trich, and did you test positive for it as well? Trich is only transmitted through direct genital contact and men's infection resides in their urethra, so if he has it and it is untreated, then, yes...he DID cheat, and, he absolutely must get treated so that you don't get reinfected. Not trying to add to your worries, but if you have reliable test data on trich for BOTH of you, then you would, i think, have definitive proof that he cheated.
Family is there to help and comfort you, so use them if you need to. Don't make herpes out to be this big secret because it's not a big deal. The more secretive we keep it, the more the stigma grows.
If you are really thinking about self harm, then please reach out to your family or someone close. If that means going home to your support network, then do that but you should not be alone trying to fight this if you are in that sort of headspace.
You are not and will not be the failure in your family. Maybe you can talk to just one person in your family for some support? You don't have to tell them all, and/or you can try getting on chat here. It is really helpful. Your life isn't over, I promise you. You must feel very scared and alone being abroad, so talk with your friends, who may be somewhat uninformed, but they seem sympathetic. Share information with them as you learn more. Others here will ask about what tests you've had, and it will be helpful to know exactly what you have. Did you get any medications to treat yourself? The first OB is usually the worst, but it will get better. Check out the treatments section. Read what others have posted and you will see good stories, and hopeful messages. You are not alone and unfortunately, your emotions and thoughts are very similar to most every newly diagnosed person. You CAN live with this, and have a relationship, and not have it ruin your life. Try to take care of yourself - eat, sleep, be with people who care about you, and come here for support. I'll be thinking of you.