Online Dating and H

[cserb1]

A couple months ago, I met an amazing woman on line. We email each other a lot and talk on the phone every night. It has been going so well, I decided to fly out to see her in two weeks. After some dicussion, I found out from her that she has genital herpes. She got from her former fiance, whom she had dated for three years. According to her , she has no outbreaks or lesions and the h has been dormat for over three years. She takes medication. Since I found out, I dicuss with a close friend and retired doctor about her and the situation. His advice is as follows the chance of me getting H are quite minimal if we use protection and she stays on her medication but he stressed there are some slight risk and not jump in anything. If we are going to make this realtionship work, we should not jump in anything or each other.

Here is my problem. Recently,I working trying to slow down this relationship. I try not to talk about sex focus on other things such as

Get to know her and little romance. She is have problems with new cool jets approach. She believes due to her problem and that do not think good of her is reason that do not want to have sex with right away.

what do I do? Is my doctor friend right about minimal risk?

[ebear]

If I was you I would just explain to her that you want to get to know her better and not jump into anything. Because nothing is guaranteed to last forever and whatever decision you make the decision you do have to live with forever. She should understand. It's not like you're running away from her. Besides, what's so bad about getting to know a person better BEFORE having sex? That's the mistake we all make...we want to jump into things. If there's one thing this has taught me it's to be more careful and to take the time to get to know a person. I just wish it didn't take this for that to happen. Anyways, it's not fair for her to push you into anything. You're a nice enough guy to stick around and give it a chance. Good luck.

[Lasmom]

You need to assure her that yes, you may be slowing things down - but it's for a good reason - I'm sure she doesn't want to expose you either, so if you talk about your reasons, and really let her know you want to focus on the relationship first - because of your feelings for her - thats got to be good... but - keep in mind that we are physical, sexual beings - find a way to fulfill her physical needs also - massage, touching, etc... sometimes a little goes a long way - and she doesn't want to feel rejected - and that's how I feel when the man I'm dating isn't physical - I can't help to think it's the HSV - even though he may be exausted, sick - nervous about something totally unrelated - keep that in mind...

good luck.