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buttercup3721

I kind of just want to cry right now...

i know this is going to sound stupid, but i need to vent.

i visit psc a lot. there is a thread on there about herpes. the person that started it is the person that sent me here. i've told my story on there more than once and it has been a great place to vent. but sometimes stupid people just make me want to cry. there are people on there that just keep saying "its just a coldsore...thats not herpes."

no matter how many times they are told it is. and other stupid idiots believe them and say things along the lines of "oh, good, then i don't have it" and i just want to scream!

why is everyone listening to the person that has no clue what they are talking about and telling me and the other person on the board that we are just freaking everyone out? why would someone do that? i just dont' get it anymore. i know that people don't want to think it is the same thing. because one is HSV1 and one is HSV2 to them they are just very different and if you have a coldsore it is really nothing and you don't have herpes...

it makes me just want to cry and hit my computer...:mad:

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HomoHominiLupus

I understand, unfortunately I gave it to my X-boyfriend...or rather, I'm pretty sure I did, but he refuses to get tested, saying that he just assumes he does. However, he lives like he doesn't, having unprotected sex with women sometimes. I feel almost worse about giving it to someone who will respond so irresponsibly with it than getting it myself.

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catiesmom

The thread on PSC is difficult to be sure. There are lots of people there who state, matter of factly, that oral and genital herpes are not the same, and they've even said that it can't "change" into the other. This is the problem with education in our country - it doesn't seem like anyone gets it, or wants to hear it, or is open to any contrary idea! All we can hope is that there are a few people on that board who are touched enough to get tested and find out, or at least research herpes a little more.

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buttercup3721

thank you for posting after me on psc. i think i'm not going to be getting on there for a while because at this point it has brought me to tears. this is my big secret and why i started going there...so i may just stick to here for a while...

some of the people there are really nice. but some of the people remind you that most everyone will believe and generally accepted assumption rather than getting facts.

again, thanks.

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lifesstillgood

Unfortunately, many people who have cold sores dont clasify it as hsv1. While it is caused by the herpes virus alot of people dont experience that horrible initial outbreak and just deal with an ugly looking sore. When people have an oral hsv1 outbreak they dont say ugh Im having a herpes outbreak, they say I have a cold sore. True oral herpes can cause genital herpes, we on here all know that but I think in general people who have oral herpes deal with it much better emotionally and I think that is a good thing. I know eons of people who experience cold sores and they hate the way they look but deal with it just fine. Kind of how I deal with hsv2. Its really no big deal but when I get an annoying itch yeah it is annoying.

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