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primo71

hi this is my first post so here we go

im trying to find a way to cope with cold sore, i inherited it from my parents and their is basically nothing i can do about it, i have break outs ever so often but it really bothers me. when i have an outbreak i fall into my own little world, i becime depressed and i dont want to go out, im still young, i hang out with my friends everyday still after work. but when i have an outbreak i disapere till theirs nothing left, but it bothers me when people..MY FREINDS make stupid comments about herpes and cold sores and shit, i cant stand it, it just makes me feel out of place,

now the one that really bothers me is i met this girl the other day and she was gonna come over to my place today, but last night i found a little bump on my lip and turns out htis moring its a small cold sore, im pissed/depressed, i dunno how to explain this to her. the thought of having to explain to sumone there is nothing i could have done to prevent it since i inherited it pisses me off. i just want her to accept it that we cant do anything for a few days. basically its just a fear of rejection,:sad:

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happy girl

I know!!!

Try not to take it too bad. Stress makes them much worse. I've suffered for years with cold sore and I too avoid contact with everyone. I literally do not leave my house until my cold sore is gone.

The best advice I can give is as soon as you feel that tingle or burn, apply what cold sore medicines you use. Avoid your trigger foods and try to stay calm about it. I know it's hard.

As far as your friend is concerned remember, we all have our little taboo type ideas in our heads, but it really isn't that bad...I recently told my boyfriend I get HSV1 from chocolate and so I avoid chocolate. How it can about that I told him was he was pressuring me to tell him why I won't eat chocolate. He had made some negative comments about herpes before, but he cares a lot for me and he felt REALLY bad that he had made those comments after I told him I occassionally suffer from this ailment.

No one likes them, but many of us do suffer from them (the majority of the population), she may even have an occassional cold sore herself.

Good Luck!

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regret

well thier is no reason to expalinuit to her?she is just coming over to visit right??? unless this becomes a relationship and you plan on having sex, thier is no reason to tell her anyhitng,,if she asks about it..sure tell her youve had it since birth? maybe from kissing a relative, but thier is no need to tell anyone you dont want to unless you paln on having sex with them.. dont shelter yourself so much during an outbreak..its no big deal,even though i know that is easier said than done...do you take lysine, vit c? take anyhitng to help reduce the longevitiy of the outbreaks? your friends are being immature and i wish thier was a way to put them in thier place,,i would say shut up or ill give it to you!!..lol but i know its tough when your younger with this..im sorry... maybe finsd new friends if they give you a hard time ..dont worry im sure one of them will get it sooner or later,,and then they will be able to relate better..

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primo71

yeah she isnt just coming over to visit, she has every intention of things happening, which is why its bugging me so much having this cold sore

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