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BallrmDancer1

Hi there, this is my first post to these forumns. Last week I had a few blisters and my boyfriend right away thought "you have herpes"---I think I was in denial a bit however I did make an appointment to the Doc the very next morning. I felt terrible and they were so painful. The Doc was just like "oh, yeah...it could be Herpes but I've never seen only three on the same side of your va-jay-j#$, we'll run the test and call you". I was thinking, oh great- glad this is really your priority. He acted like it was just nothing. Then prescribes me Valtrex. I didnt want to take it at first but this weekend I had a few more show up and started taking 2 pills (1gm each) a day. It's been very uncomfortable and while on a business trip yesterday with my boss, I received the "you're positive for HSV-2". The nurse called and just said, yeah you have it- call if it gets worse.

So...now here I am...the Valtrex seemed to work, I'm close to healing and feeling better physically but yesterday evening had a melt-down when I got home and confirmed with my boyfriend that yes I did have this. He is more supportive that I ever thought someone could be. He's basically fine with the fact that if he doesn't have it now he will someday (we plan to always be together). He just keeps reassuring me that it is "no big deal" and that I have nothing to be that upset about. My problem is, however, that I'm emotional and need to cry sometimes. Today was better but now I'm to the point where I'm scared about someday having kids, and also how our relationship will be if/when he gets this as well. He encourages me by reminding me that if this is the toughest thing we have to go through in our life together, then this isn't that bad. He's so good at looking at the big picture and I'm just this helpless emotional nut!!!

Look forward to learning more about this lifelong "thing" from the rest of you.

Thanks for listening.

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littlered14

Count your blessings that you have such a supportive boyfriends. As to having children. I was diagnosed 8 yrs ago. 6 months after I found out I was pregnant. The last 4 months of my pregnancy I took preventive meds but we went ahead and scheduled a c-section just in case I had an outbreak when I went into labor. Well, I had some leasions on my cerivix and we did the c-section. My daughter was fine when she was born. Just something positive for you to look forward to.

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gotitsowhat

Your guy is right...

It's really no big deal. You have someone who is being reasonable about it and who is going to be with you from now on. And he is right, if this is the worst thing you ever have to face together, you will have a charmed life indeed. Lots of people who have this have children, you just have to let the doctor know ahead of time so that it can be managed properly and then you won't pass it on to your kid.

I envy you having such a good guy in your life. Everything will be all right if you just relax and take care of yourself.

I use Dynamaclear on outbreaks to shorten their duration and to help prevent future outbreaks. I also use powdered ester-C (vitamin C), lysine (liquid drop form), ginseng capsules and generally taking care of myself. Meditation can help stress (which is a herpes trigger).

This kind of diagnosis shakes us up at first but herpes is, after all, a minor virus, not that big a deal and it can be managed. The hardest thing for most of us is the thought of falling for someone and then not having that person accept us due to herpes. You already have that one, the worst herpes problem for most of us, taken care of.

So don't worry, be happy. Everything is going to be OK.

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Morning

Hey BallrmDancer1,

Glad your boyfriend is being so supportive and that you have also found this site for support. Has he been tested? I ask because he could already have it even though he hasn't had symptoms. That is the case for many people. And you are entitled to feel sadness and grief the loss of an HSV-free life. But over time you'll feel better because while this is a life long condition, it is quite manageable.

Morning

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