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browneyedgirl20

i am ok, but confused on something.

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browneyedgirl20

I just got diagnosed with herpes not even 24 hours ago. the doctor looked at it and didn't even need a test to know what it was.(she did do a test though) and i have been reading a doing my research on it all day. It seems like i already went through all the anger,denial, and acceptance stages in less than one day. Is this normal? i figure life goes on and i am going to have to deal with it, so i might as well not make myself even more miserable and be happy i am not HIV positive or something even worse. i am 20 years old (almost 21) and have a beautiful 13 month old son. So i am grateful that this will not kill me, just annoy the S**T out of me.lol. and i can continue being a good mom, and not let it bother me.

The man i believe i got it from claims he has no idea that he had it, and has not went and got the test done yet. the reason i knew something was wrong is because on the same day both of us noticed small bumps on/around or genital areas (mine was on) (his was under his belly button and on his pelvic area). But before that day we had been having sex for a week and never noticed any open sores or bumps on either of us. So how does that happen at the same time? does that mean he had an outbreak and i just caught it and it affected us at the same time? or what? i am so confused. I am not mad at him. I do not blame him, and i know he feels horrible about it. But i do not understand how neither of us had bumps or lesions ever on either of us, and the same exact day after one week of sexual intercourse (this is a friday to the next friday, sex on 4 different days) both get it at the same time.

Keep in mind, mine was a regular outbreak, and was bad enough to diagnose just by looking at it by a doctor. and his was just little dots under his belly button and on his pelvic area, and a couple on his hands.

To the people who know more about this than i do, and have more experience than I do, what do you think happened? because i am very confused.

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Morning

So how does that happen at the same time? does that mean he had an outbreak and i just caught it and it affected us at the same time? or what? i am so confused. I am not mad at him. I do not blame him, and i know he feels horrible about it. But i do not understand how neither of us had bumps or lesions ever on either of us, and the same exact day after one week of sexual intercourse (this is a friday to the next friday, sex on 4 different days) both get it at the same time.

I understand your confusion because of the curious timing of the outbreaks. We could do some guess work and draw some reasonable conclusions but there is no way to no for sure. So to reduce the confusion, the both of you should have blood test done to learn how long you have had it and the type you both have. This can help narrow down the possible explanations. Bear in mind the friction from sex is a possible trigger to an outbreak. So by the 4th time you both had sex (genital skin likely more and more sensitive with tiny cuts from the friction) You may have both been more suspectible to an outbreak. Wait till you get the test results to draw conclusions. Glad you found this site for support.

Morning

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CAP86

My boyfriend had a "sypmathy outbreak" when I had my 1st bad outbreak. Maybe that guy had a "guilt outbreak."

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buckeyegirl222

holy crap, your situation sounds just like mine. kind of lol. im 20, about to be 21, just found out yesterday, the doc said she could tell it was herpes just by looking at it, the person said they didnt think they had it, but i dont have a child.

thats crazy but i guess its really not that uncommon

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lifesstillgood

If I had bumps by my belly button or pelvic area I would never think it was herpes. I think thats why so many people get herpes because so many people dont have classic signs of herpes. Come to think of it, I have had hives many times over the years that could have been confused with herpes. What an odd virus.

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I Like Cake

I just got diagnosed today. I had allready accepted it by the time I went to the doctors. I figured that it was herpes.

The doctor knew it was herpes just by looking at it, as well.

My bf of 2.5 years (the only person I have had sex with) with out a doubt gave it to me and he didn't know he had it. He had never had symptoms. I don't know when I got it, I haven't had unprotected sex with him in a really long time. The doctor told me that you can still pass it on even with condoms.

I didn't realize the test could tell you the approximate time you got the virus. I guess it depends the ammount of antibodies you have in your system.

It has kind of changed my perspective on things. I used to think that I could never get something like this... It only happens to people who sleep around alot etc.

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