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buckeyegirl222

ok so in order to not completely freak myself out about finding out I have herpes, ive been trying to find the upside in this whole situation... so far ive come up with:

- you find out which people truly care/love you despite your flaws

- I finally have motivation to actually start a healthy diet and exercise routine

anyone else have stuff to add?

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memyselfI

hmm

I honestly can't think of anymore... which isn't very encouraging and then I realized the two you have listed are

HUGE!

To ween out the lost cause relationships before they even become, "relastionships" and heath.... eating better and ESPECIALLY exercise with give you more self respect, a brighter outlook on life, and you will hopefully attract more spiritually fit mature relationships! It really is a big deal.

I think this is the greatest post/thread I've read in sometime. ...looking for the solution (the positives) rather than dwelling on the things we have no control over!

Best of luck! Much love,

meme

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;

courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;

Enjoying one moment at a time;

Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;

Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it;

Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will;

That I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him

Forever in the next. Amen.

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Morning
ok so in order to not completely freak myself out about finding out I have herpes, ive been trying to find the upside in this whole situation... so far ive come up with:

- you find out which people truly care/love you despite your flaws

- I finally have motivation to actually start a healthy diet and exercise routine

anyone else have stuff to add?

Kudos to you for actively looking for a bright side. And for coming up with two great ones. Well how about learning more about your ability to overcome adversity. And learning to accept yourself despite your flaws (because before we worry about someone else accepting us, we have to accept ourselves). Also, whenever you choose to talk with someone about HSV (be it a friend, prospective lover, family) you are educating yet another person about this condition. This in turn helps to reduce the stigma attached to it and increases their compassion for someone who has it. That's all I got and these are things I truly believe.

Morning

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buckeyegirl222

oh and i just thought about this one, you now have the opportunity to get to know someone else with the virus that you might have just blown off in the past not realizing that this person could be good for you...

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