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Hi Im new...I've had GH since 2002 when I found my boyfriend cheated on me and gave it to me. At the time I forgave him since I felt like no one else would want me ...well you know...Then we broke up a year later. After that I wasnt promiscuous..but I did have partners..heres the horrible part...I didn't tell them about it. I was too afraid of rejection. I did take oral therapy and use condoms...still not the best i know. Last year I started dating someone I really saw myself w/...we've been on and off all year...and i never told him...i just told him last week when we finally agreed to be together. he seemed ok at first then a couple of days later...i guess he reconsidered. i asked him if it was b/c i hadnt told him or if it was b/c i had it.. he said both. I know i cant be mad at him for being upset b/c i never told him and put him at risk...but it hurts soooo much that he doesnt seem to want anything w/ me b/c i have this virus that wasnt even my fault! Is it always like this? Does anyone have experience w/ this? This is the first person I've ever told so I guess it was just shock b/c the virus doesn't affect my daily life...I hardly ever have outbreaks anymore cause ive had it so long...how do you learn to deal w/ this rejection. Thanks:-|

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Hi Im new...I've had GH since 2002 when I found my boyfriend cheated on me and gave it to me. At the time I forgave him since I felt like no one else would want me ...well you know...Then we broke up a year later. After that I wasnt promiscuous..but I did have partners..heres the horrible part...I didn't tell them about it. I was too afraid of rejection.

It's a curious thing when we do the very thing to someone that was done to us. You got HSV from someone who was dishonest with you (cheating) and thus it wasn't your fault. Now you have put others at risk so if they get HSV it would be due to someone (you) being dishonest and it wouldn't be their fault. Curious thing. Btw, these men, including your recent ex, could have HSV and just not have symptoms. You wouldn't know unless they were specifically tested for HSV.

Nonetheless I hope you find this site helpful. I give you credit for putting these discretions right on the table. I'm glad you are giving thought to proceeding differently with prospective lovers. They deserve a choice.

I have told 3 boyfriends before intimacy. They were all accepting and supportive. Yes the prospect of rejection is quite nerve racking but it is the responsibility that we unwittingly inherited once the doctor says those 3 words- "You have herpes." So I am scared of rejection each time I have 'the talk' and it takes me about a month or so to have it, but I have it before anyone is put at risk. You'll here different stories on here, some good some not. But no matter the outcome, people deserve a choice about their health. Using meds and condoms help but you know that it is no guarantee. Be well my friend, in body and spirit.

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Hi Im new...I've had GH since 2002 when I found my boyfriend cheated on me and gave it to me. At the time I forgave him since I felt like no one else would want me ...well you know...Then we broke up a year later. After that I wasnt promiscuous..but I did have partners..heres the horrible part...I didn't tell them about it. I was too afraid of rejection. I did take oral therapy and use condoms...still not the best i know. Last year I started dating someone I really saw myself w/...we've been on and off all year...and i never told him...i just told him last week when we finally agreed to be together. he seemed ok at first then a couple of days later...i guess he reconsidered. i asked him if it was b/c i hadnt told him or if it was b/c i had it.. he said both. I know i cant be mad at him for being upset b/c i never told him and put him at risk...but it hurts soooo much that he doesnt seem to want anything w/ me b/c i have this virus that wasnt even my fault! Is it always like this? Does anyone have experience w/ this? This is the first person I've ever told so I guess it was just shock b/c the virus doesn't affect my daily life...I hardly ever have outbreaks anymore cause ive had it so long...how do you learn to deal w/ this rejection. Thanks:-|

To be honest, I would have a hard time with it as well. I don't know what would bother me more: the fact that you kept something very important from me and were putting me at risk OR the virus itself.

I hate to be mean here because it is obvious you have some regrets. But you should have been notifying everyone before sleeping with them. My only advice is to change your life and do the right thing from here on out. Learn from your mistake(s).

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