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I had unprotected oral sex with a week ago. Afterwards I noticed the girl had a cold sore on her lip.

Two days after exposure I developed a flu and fever. 7 days after exposure my lymph nodes in my groin have swollen up and are aching.

I have not had any noticable blisters, etc. However, I did notice these white bumps on the skin of my penis which I don't think were there before. They are kind of like the ones that appear at the bottom of a hair, but where they are there is no hair. They don't hurt or anything.

I have never had a cold sore before. I am scared to go get tested but suspect I have herpes.

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If she had a cold sore on her lip and gave you oral sex, it's a good chance that you were exposed to the virus. This doesn't mean that you definitely have it though. The flu symptoms and swollen lymph nodes can indicate that you have contracted the virus. Sometimes when you have exposure to something contagious, you go online and read about it and worry yourself sick that you have all the symptoms. For now, I would try not to worry about it because there is nothing you can do about your exposure now. I know that's easier to say than to do : )

You will have to go to the doctor and get a blood test since you don't have any open sores that can be cultured. I think you may have to wait a few months to get a reliable result though. Someone else on this forum will have a more specific time frame, but I believe that it can take up to 3 months until you can be correctly diagnosed by a blood test.

If you do end up having herpes, it's definitely not the end of the world. There's lots of us here and you're in good company. Have a look around our board and you'll see that this virus is very manageable.

Let us know what you decide to do and good luck!

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I am totally convinced that I have herpes and feel like it's the end of the world.

I am normally shy when it comes to meeting girls. However, now no girl will want me.

I have really stuffed up my life here.

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Try a Lysine supplement for cold sores

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    • Gems
      ANd eight hours is on a surface...on a towel who knows. The eight hours was a quote off a thread a long time ago of worst case senerio. Obviously it doesnt survive double touching unless its some weird arse almost immediate thing off a shedding site and this is all WORST case scenerio. HSV shouldnt be treated with stigma...but for everyones well being it should be treated as carefully as poss. It is a highly contagious condition and can be difficult to diagnose and GP's will let you walk away thinking you are clear when you are not if you do not do your due diligence.    

      I knew more about it than the specialists at the hospital I was refereed to. 

    • Gems
      I have seen your advise on a few threads and to be honest while I am over careful at times you are not careful enough. This can absolutely happen and people should be well aware of the fact to prevent it from happening. I supposedly have good immunity on labs too. You just cant tell who will pick it up. It can live on surfaces for up to eight hours and towels that are wet and warm and that make micro abrasions when rubbed on skin are ways that transmission that can occur. You will often find out more by spending many hours reading on threads than your doctors. SO no it doesn't always just involve a cut on the skin. How do you think people get it else where.

      So please DO NOT swear at me as this is a possibility and this person should careful tick all his bases before ruling it out, cos on the rare case it is I wouldnt want his life totally ruined. Cos if it gets everywhere your life kinda is.

      It's called caring.       
    • Gems
      it happened to me i think i should know.; someone caught it off me off a towel. it bloody well happens.
    • WilsoInAus
      This is total BS and scaremongering. Please study further on here and elsewhere to learn a few more facts. 
    • Dutchy
      What about the side effects?

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