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I am not too sure if I am posting this in the right section, so please forgive me if it is the wrong one!

I have recently met a new partner and I have told him I have hsvII. He asked me how that affects him giving me oral sex. Is there a way for him to protect himself from catching the virus?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.



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It does affect oral sex

Yes, your guy can get HSV II orally by performing oral sex on you. It's rare, but possible. Obviously, you should not have sexual contact during an outbreak. Other than that and the not so appealing option of using a dental dam for oral, I don't think there are other steps you can take to prevent transmission.

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i would get on antivirals like valtrex or something it would decrease the chances up to 50 %

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This may be a stupid question, but when he caught it from me, HSV2, it was genital, but he mentioned a blister on his tongue that quickly went away. Does that mean he will have OBs there too?

We're not together now, but I still have to wonder. Because both partners have the same strain, you cannot reinfect each other. I have read that the sex could cause an OB. Is this true? Also, if only the genitals are infected on both, what are the chances of oral sex spreading the HSV2 to the mouths of each? I have no idea when I am contagious. I am asymptomatic.

Also, what are the chances that I will have an OB is I do have sex with someone who is not asymptomatic?

One more stupid question, if you will....I did not know I had HSV2 until he had an OB. What are the chances that he was asymptomatic like me and this first OB for him was caused by having sex with another asymptomatic person? I seem to have read or heard that somewhere.

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

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