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This year is, thankfully, almost over. It's been a real humdinger, let me tell you, and not in a good way, either. I'm okay with that. Even if I did get knocked to my knees a time or two, I'm still standing.

Judging from some of the posts I've read on here over the past year, it's been a tough year for more than just me. And I'm not just talking about herpes. I've read stories from some of you that broke my heart... stories of betrayal, broken hearts, and flagrant injustice. But you're still standing, too. And the one thing we all have in common is hope... that tomorrow, next week, next year, will be better. I believe it will.

I've also read stories of joy, and triumph, and simple acceptance, which in itself, is a kind of victory. When I've felt sad, I borrowed a smile from your happiness. When I felt my battles were lost, I drew strength from your determination to persevere. When I fought against what is, you reminded me that sometimes we have to acquiesce. You've been my coaches, my mentors, and my friends, and I thank you all.

I expect better from the coming year. I suppose I've always been a bit of an optimist, or maybe simply a fool, but I have to believe that the winds of change are beginning to blow, and I intend to let myself be carried along with them. I've got a head start already... a brand new screen name. Writercll is no more. It's a start.. a small one, but a start.

So, what do you see ahead for yourself this coming year? I'm not talking about New Years resolutions, but how do you expect your lives to change? How do you want your lives to change?

For myself, I want to become more of my own person, and less dependent on what others think of me. I want to stop being so easily manipulated. I want to learn to say 'no' and mean it... or 'yes' and not feel guilty. And I want to stop wasting my talent because I'm more afraid of success than I am of failure. Wow, that was hard to say.

Okay, I started, and I was honest. Don't leave me flapping out here in the breeze like someone's laundry. I really want to know what you expect, and what you want to see change in your life in the year ahead. Maybe writing it down for everyone to see will help motivate you to make it happen. That's what I'm hoping for myself anyway... like making a pact with myself. Share your hopes with the rest of us. We could all use a little inspiration, right? I know I could.

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I won't leave you hanging.

I am not much onto resolutions but I am going to try to get off meth and heroine this year.

Just kiding. I would like to get in much better shape this year. I am not in horrid shape but I can do better than I have been doing. I figure dropping a few pounds and getting in better cardio shape is a good plan. I would also like to find the love of my life...but I think the working out thing is a more achievable goal :p

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Ultra Violet

SkiMan I wish you lived in Australia!

You crack me up!

I try not to have expectations.

Resolutions, I have a few.

*save for a holiday

*get my dive certificate

*run a marathon

*finish my current course of study and qualify

*decide where in the world I want to live and go there if I'm not there already

*enroll in more study (I'm a masochist)

*write one letter a week to family/friends overseas

*lose 7kg and keep it off

*improve my physical fitness

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I re-joined Curves the week fo Thanksgiving, but have not been yet to work out. U G H. Come the new year, I am going to lose the 30 pounds I have gained back, no ifs ands or buts about it. Back to healthy eating habits and dropping pounds and inches. Otherwise, I like myself!

I wish everybody and Happy, Healthy and Prosperous Year Ahead!!!!!

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For myself, I want to become more of my own person, and less dependent on what others think of me. I want to stop being so easily manipulated. I want to learn to say 'no' and mean it... or 'yes' and not feel guilty. And I want to stop wasting my talent because I'm more afraid of success than I am of failure. Wow, that was hard to say.

Wow if i read that correctly ..Your exactly like me a total people pleaser..

I also wanna wanna quit worrying about the one person that does not like me and focus on the people who enjoy me....

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I'm finding it gets easier as I get older, but I still have a way to go, and a lot to work on. Inside, I know the only person I need to please is myself, but sometimes that message gets lost in the circuitry. My partner always jokes that he doesn't think I'm wired to code. Maybe he's onto something... :rolleyes:

One other thing I expect of myself this year is to overcome my fear of water and start swimming... again. When I was a kid, I loved to swim and dive. I was like a fish. Then I had a diving accident, and since then, I haven't been able to make myself put my head under water. I have a friend, though, who's a diving instructor, and he said he'd help me. I just hope his way of 'helping' isn't to throw me into the middle of the pool and yell "Okay... SWIM!!" :shock:

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Happy New Year

Great posts, MsLucy. I know about people pleasing. I work for people who cannot be pleased because they spend all of their time putting blame on us teachers for their own mismanagement. It has made me ill trying to please them and feeling sad when they scold us. Recently I went to a meeting in which we teachers were told, in so many words, that although the administrators know we are not to blame for certain things, that in fact they realize that we have done all we could to fix the mistakes that were not our fault, they have decided to blame us for them anyway and to make things harder for us. I am not kidding--it was that crazy! These were pretty much their exact words leaving out the obscenities used at us at this meeting which the teachers on my faculty have come to refer to as the "FU meeting." As we adjourned the meeting there was a dead silence, no talk at all. I felt like I'd been hit with a brick. But later I thought it over and made my own New Year's vow:

To never again take these bozos seriously enough to endanger my physical or emotional health. That is my New Year's vow.

At the end of the meeting, the woman chairing the meeting, who claimed she was just relating to us what the higher ups required her to relate, said: "That's the way it is around here and if you don't like it, you can just quit your jobs. The Christmas party is on Thursday afternoon. End of meeting." That's an exact quote.

We all boycotted the Christmas party. We did not even discuss it.

New Year's Vow #2: To never again feel that I have to socialize with the administrators. They no longer own any of my social time. They have forfeited that right.

New Year's Vow #3: To work harder at figuring out a way I can retire earlier than I had originally planned. I, too, fear success at times. And failure as well. I am going to try and figure out a way to move ahead toward a faster retirement.

New Year's Vow #4: To do whatever I have to do to get back in better shape and lose the stress stomach and stress weight this job has put on me this year. If necessary, to take more time off from work. And to completely ignore any scolding or nastiness from the jerks who run my school and the hospital where I work. I no longer owe them any part of my health and well being. No more free overtime.

Thanks, Ms.Lucy. It felt good to state it all in so many words. Here's to a healthier, happier New Year for all of us here.

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