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This is a huge step for me since I was diagnosed almost 8 months to the date. I have been extremely devastated. I have let this condition/stigma consume me. I acquired HSV-1 from my then boyfriend through oral sex. We had been together for several months prior to my initial OB. I did not know he had cold sores, nor did he ever have a visible outbreak while we were dating. I had been tested at my annual check-up about eight months prior and was clear of any STD's. I am generally healthy, take precautions and we were monogamous. Therefore, it was a HUGE shock to find out I had this and how I got it. This basically ruined our relationship b/c he thought the best way to deal with it its to not think about it. On the other hand, I thought/still think about it ALL the time. I have a lot of hurt feelings about how he treated/slighted the circumstances/me and a lot of bitterness toward him for his lack of accountability. I don't point the finger at him for this. I just wished he had followed through with a little support he promised amidst him telling me he loves me no matter what. I know I sound whiny. Honestly, I realized early on he was full o empty promises and I have solely dealt with everything including numerous doctor visits and costs.

So thats my story...I just needed to get this off of my chest b/c I am tired of crying and feeling sorry for myself. If anyone had found themselves in similar situations, I would appreciate any advice on how to cope and move on. Thanks for reading.

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curecomingverysoon

Hi cupcake

Sounds like it's been a rough road for you. You and I contracted this right around the same time, it seems.

Can I ask how you know that you have it genitally? Have you had an genital outbreak? The good news is that because you have GHSV-1 you will have much fewer outbreaks than someone with GHSV-2.

Are you taking suppressive meds? Have you sought counseling? This board is great, I hope that you become an active participant!

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cupcake81

Hey,

Thanks for responding. I contracted HSV- genitally because that is the site of the first outbreak. The morning I saw those god forsaken sores, I immediately went to planned parenthood and had a culture test. Since I have had two blood tests, in which my antibody count for HSV 1 has been increasing.

I am not on medicine. I take lysine, eating as close to healthy as possible, and exercise and being as healthy as possible. I really don't want to rely on daily medication.

How have you dealt with your situation? Did you tell a lot of people?

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anna99

Me too...

I acquired HSV-1 from my then boyfriend through oral sex. We had been together for several months prior to my initial OB. I did not know he had cold sores, nor did he ever have a visible outbreak while we were dating. I had been tested at my annual check-up about eight months prior and was clear of any STD's. I am generally healthy, take precautions and we were monogamous.

Hi Cupcake,

I could have written this exact same post. This is my story as well and I am struggling, five weeks into having genital hsv1 now. My bf and i even had "the talk" about std testing and past sexual history prior to becoming intimate. He "did not think" to disclose his asymptomatic coldsores because he has had it whole life and never passed it to anyone. But he takes valtrex regularly so I think it was dishonest and unethical not to disclose it.

Now five weeks later my first ob is finally gone but i woke up yesterday with a coldsore. I was not aware that I would be getting obs genitally AND orally. Sigh.

Anyway, wanted to lend some support and say you are definitely not alone. Feel free to pm me any time you want to talk.

Hugs,

anna

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hillcountrygirl

I'm new here, but not new to HSV

Hi Cupcake, I'm new to this website, which I just found, but can really understand your frustration/devastation as I have had HSV for at least 30 years that I can remember. It can be so cruel that HSV outbreaks occur when you're under stress from something else (new job, new man, overworked, etc...) so keep yourself calm and remember that lots of other folks have it too, so intelligent friends don't let it get in the way of your friendship!

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curecomingverysoon

Welcome to you too hilltopgirl. We would love to hear your story and hear your perspective on 30 years of infection -- please share! :)

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hillcountrygirl

ok, here's my story

I'm 50+ and started having facial outbreaks at age 15-16. My dad had outbreaks occasionally, and my mom never did, so I don't know if I inherited the tendency, or got it from a friend. I am very fortunate that I don't get genital outbreaks, but I'm also very careful about not having sex during an ob. Been married twice, and happy to say neither one got infected. I got outbreaks most frequently from ages 20 - 32 (those hi-stress years) and they would cover my face from below my lower lip to inside my nose, but not inside my mouth. The frequency diminished to only about 4 x per year, and since menopause, they have become smaller clusters of fewer blisters, but still occur during stressful times like the Christmas holidays or if I get too much sun on vacation! I used to get really self-conscious about the blisters, but now I just put on bright colored clothes and more eye-makeup and go about my day! I love to SCUBA dive, so I won't give up being in the sun, but I do wear more sunscreen than when I was a teenager.

When I was in college, the campus clinic put me on an experimental trial where I was scratched with small-pox vaccine every week for 3 months, but it didn't seem to lessen the severity, and made me want to scratch my arm off at the shoulder!! I tried valtrex pills and acyclovir cream during outbreaks about 10 years ago, but I think the virus is too well rooted in me for these to make a difference. Now, when I get an outbreak I use a triple antibiotic ointment with benedryl, and that keeps me from scratching, but the blisters just have to run their course. I'm still aware that I could pass the blisters to my eyes, so I keep antiseptic hand-cleaner in my purse, kitchen, bathrooms, desk, etc...

I'm really hopeful that other posters will share their results with some of the new products on the market. I'm particularly interested in results with the hotkiss device, and with a transdermal patch I saw advertized, but can't find the name of.

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curecomingverysoon

hillcountrygirl, thanks for sharing. Always great to hear the stories about non-transmission.

I think that this product scheduled to hit the market for 2010 might be on some help for you, based on my readings. http://www.herpes-coldsores.com/messageforum/showthread.php?t=14631 Check out the Treatment/Trials folder for a lot more info about what's coming up on the market and what people have tried.

Some people don't have success with Valtrex but do with Famvir -- have you tried that at all?

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