Jump to content
World's Largest Herpes Support Group
Sign in to follow this  
whitedaisy

i dont know what to do

Recommended Posts

whitedaisy

im 16. i have a boyfriend who has genital herpes. im scared, confused, and dont know what to do. i dont even know what to say on here. im sorry.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
novagirl67

Do you care about him..more than sexually? Because that is the only thing that people trip about when they think of 'herpes' isn't it?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
Ultra Violet

Hi Whitedaisy

Welcome to the site! You'll find heaps of good information here and lots of support.

It would be very frightening to be so young and find out your boyfriend has herpes. It seems like you don't even know where to start, which is not uncommon when you are in shock. The best thing to do is get informed so if you decide you want to have a physical relationship with him you can both keep as safe as possible.

At the end of the day only you can decide what's best for you so get informed!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
whitedaisy

I love him to death!!! weve been dating for over a year....right before we started dating he slept with this girl when he was drunk and he just recently had an outbreak...well thats what he told me anyway...idk if you can go a year without an outbreak. idk. im just scared and confused. i assured him that im NOT leaving him over this. that would just be stupid. its just that is it kinda scary.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
KyraJ

have you considered just waiting to have sex... at your age what's the rush?

I know that when I was in high school I wasn't ready to deal with birth control, condoms, the gyno, etc. (All of the other things that come with being responsible enough to have sex)

To be frank you'll at some point, probably, want to move on and dating scene is much easier without herpes than with.

If you don't move on staying with this guy dispite not having sex would lay a great base for a long term relationship.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
bennismama

I know at 16, sex is a very dominant issue. I would agree that if you feel comfortable waiting, I would definately do so. If you do decide to go ahead with it, realize that while condoms reduce transmission greatly, they do not prevent it entirely. Also, read up on this site about GHSV and find out how to protect yourself.

Dating in the future is possible with HSV but still much more difficult, in addition to managing HSV with perscriptions and abstinence when having an Outbreak. So take time to weigh the desicion very carefully before proceeding.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
chooseyourbattles

Since you're 16, I am not entirely confident in your ability to make a well-thought out decision.

Yeah, dating with herpes is difficult. Anyone here will tell you that, otherwise they wouldn't be here. But you should also remember that it's more common than you think, and at least he is trying to protect you.

I think stigma is dying, and will continue to do so when the Simplirix vaccine comes out next year.

You should also get tested. You could have it and be asymptomatic.

I'm biased, whitedaisy, so I will tell you to go for it. But your doubts will either subside or continue, and then you will know what to do.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
Sign in to follow this  

  • The Hive is Thriving!

    • Total Topics
      69,347
    • Total Posts
      466,693
  • Posts

    • Toro
      I have the same symptoms as well and the only thing that worked out is Amenalief.I am taking 1 pill a day.
    • cowpoke02
      it happens ..  talking about few guys so i guessed ..  only take sone mess up or lie ..  experiment continues . i was doing great .  went backwards .. not eating is my friend ..  i get some supplies back and i will see if they working better than thing i was taking them with ...  order nuns hemp oil and products . they make best  out of california .   joint pain stuff and edible oil .  might work really well . experiment time ..  smoke real pot as well .  always hope // i know at worse i make my own oil dose up at night ..  eat clean .. i looking at it as a war and battle .. i was just healthy for while ..  so all gotta do is eat dried apricots or hemp oils ... or switch on off best products so body dint get used to it or damage from one thing to long ..  take care ..   you work in law offices ?  i could use a hand typing up simple retard few sentences  . make every thing short ..  i could pay back extra if i win ...     yes sex is reckless . i didn't a lot but made bad choices .. its reckless since it is your life . bible no joke . world history of truths of man . problem is figure it out after ya screwed . lol.  strict cause when you comet to play or entertain idea specially others they usual;ly using you or trickery bad things .  all good.  it's a war and i just enough and have few tricks all ready . get stocked up on the remedies so don't run out . lol.  live where have pot be god sent . 
    • cowpoke02
      that is a real pain and pelvic problem made worse by stress that changes chemicals in body /  then it inflames nerves ..   i got scar tissue to prove it ..   lol..  get some pot to get rid of it .   try  three sistersor sisters hemp oil .  helps aches pains through the skin in  joints  so goo chance go through help the H plus ingest it  and smoke it .  made by 2 nuns in  califorina .. best hemp product and more expensive ..  ordering today for shipment ..  life a bitch . had it in control again something went wrong . ra out of one thing i was taking . might f been working better than seeds alone .  we keep experimenting . lol.  
    • MikeHerp
      It's not clear.  The experiments in which they inactivated 2-4% latent HSV in mice, was definitely in living mice. The research paper is very clear about that.  It appears that in May 2018, they also reported nearly 20-30% inactivation of latent HSV in living mice. It's not clear what the 90% is referring to, whether in living mice or some artificial latency model using mice sells in vitro.  I really hope that it was in living mice.  That would make sense, since the earlier experiments were in living mice.  But in any case, as you mentioned, this research is progressing very well. Let's continue to try to raise money for it.  
    • blurneworder
      Did anything cause the tears or would you just getting tears out of nowhere?
×

Important Information

We have placed cookies on your device to help make this website better. You can adjust your cookie settings, otherwise we'll assume you're okay to continue.