Wherw did you get info to beleive 10-15 years away? Not being rude, just wanted to read it too. Although no one Really knows, miracles can happen. I could live with 5 yes, but 10-15
Also- what does abrasion administration mean?
I hope not that long, but lots of people here seem to quote that time frame from somewhere. I thought the CRISPR technology was moving pretty fast. Scientist in China are supposed to so a human trial for cancer, this month I thought. I don't know what to think anymore. I'm very very depressed. I try and be positive but this is the hardest thing ever. I pray daily something will break thru
I hear you, and it sounds easy, but I'm really not ready to deal with the stigma. IF I have it. I haven't totally accepted yet - since I did have very mild eye twitches and heart papiltations and maybe even a tiny bit of lower back soreness before the post-exposure explosion of nerve stuff. Also have had a colorful migraine aura (my first) post-exposure, which I've never heard of even from the PHN people. Could be a nervous system coincidence.
BUT let's get back to coping. That stigma is terrifying. Turning sex into something that must be observed and monitored and controlled and protected (even in a long term relationship) sounds like hell. It just does. I don't know how I'll manage. I have joined positivesingles.com just to see the faces and stories of women with HSV-2 who are looking to date in my area. But even that's depressing - the shrinking of one's dating pool in a world where it's hard enough to find your person. Settling is terrifying.
Part of me wants to not get my 22 week test and just date in good faith. Then when I find my woman tell her in a reasonable amount of time that all doctors say I don't have it and I've been cleared but that I'm suspicious and want another test. Explaining the disease and saying "you get tested" and "I'll get retested" and all the other stuff you alluded to. It's not like I'll totally trust a negative at 22 weeks anyway.
On a positive note... I know you have regret man, but stop it. Everything does happen for a reason and long term it will work out for you. Soon the regret will fade and if we're unlucky enough to have this we'll learn to navigate this world like everyone else. You still have a lot to offer, man.
I'm 33, right there with ya. Hard to accept it all since all my friends are married and I'm not. Now I've finally found someone only right after I make the stupid mistake. This is like a cruel joke (nightmare?). One of the worst parts is that I dragged my family into it not knowing what it was, asking them for help. Now I have to tell them the shameful truth. Ugh. Well, at some point I have to accept that I played with fire so I should've expected to get burnt I guess.
My advice on the women & dating: pick one you know you could trust, love, respect...and who will likely do the same in return. No more wasting time on anyone who doesn't possess marriage qualities, even if they're super hot. Get to know each other for a while and maybe when you start to notice potential, nonchalantly mention STDs and that you read somewhere about HSV being very common and usually going unnoticed, so you decided to get tested and turned up positive. Maybe suggest that she get tested and ask if she minds that you had HSV, even though you don't get sores and transmission is very preventable. I mean, think about it, hardly anyone knows what you and I have discovered about it. People would be racing in fear to the doctors to find out they also carry it. Nearly all of my friends have had unprotected sex before and especially BJs. Who knew you could get herp on your gens from a non-existent cold sore? I'm amazed I've gone this long without getting it. And remember that 1 of those girls you speak of likely has it, anyway.