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Hello, all. I'm a man in my mid-20s, sexually active but with few partners. After a short physical relationship with a female friend of mine, I recently noticed what appear to be the symptoms of HSV (lesions in the groin region, itching rash on the genitals). I'm going to get checked out, but I wonder how to broach the topic with the former partner. I'm curious, of course, whether she has herpes and, further, whether she knew she did before we had (protected) sex. I notice that she carries with her a bottle of prescription pills that are dark green/blue on one end of the capsule, and transparent, with dark green/blue and white pellets contained within, on the other half of the capsule. Does this sound like a herpes prescription anyone is familiar with? (If so, I'm still going to get checked at the doctor, but it would be a huge clue for me, because right now I'm a mite freaked out.) And beyond just knowing: How do I approach the topic with this girl? If I am positive, I don't want to be accusatory, and tell her I'd rather she gave me a concussion than herpes. At the same time, I think she ought to know if she's spreading the virus. Suggestions? Clues? Bueller?

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I was just diagnosed a few weeks ago after over 4 months of complete sexual inactivity. When/from whom did I get it? Who knows. I could have gotten it 4 months ago, 4 years ago, whenever, and just been asymptomatic the whole time.

I've informed my 2 most recent partners, which spans my last 4 years. Unfortunately I wasn't always so discreete (sp?) in the past. Luckily I'm friends with both and I just bluntly told them. I asked if either of them were H positive (and didn't tell me) and their answers were "no" and I have to take them at their word. I didn't acuse them, as that wouldn't change my situation even if (worst case scenario) they had given it to be on purpose (which I'm sure neither did). It's highly probable that whomever I got this from was/is walking around unknowing they have it. What if I picked this up 10 years ago & I've unknowingly exposed others? I told my 2 ex's that I (my conscience) had to tell them that I was just diagnosed with H and that they need to be tested and be careful in the future. When it comes to stuff like this, I don't see any choice besides total honesty.

Good luck with everything. Did you go to the doc?

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    • EssenceL25
      I’m going to force him to get tested ! Thanks for your help ! 
    • WilsoInAus
      @EssenceL25 there really isn't a question mark around the source, it's your latest partner. The median time from infection to an outbreak of lesions upon initial infection is 4 days.  The only thing that isn't certain is the type I suggest.
    • EssenceL25
      I asked if it was hsv 1 or 2 and the doctor said it was Hsv2. I’m not sure i just asked him when he was tested last he said this year I said I think we should go test together and he agreed . I’m going to bring it up again cause I really need to know if he gave this to me I wasn’t sure since it was so close to my previous relationship.
    • WilsoInAus
      @EssenceL25 then it is all beyond reasonable doubt that the current partner is the source. A 'perfect' fit in terms of timing, symptoms and swab. It may be though that the type is not technically known. Culture swabs are very often not typed and just assumed to be HSV-2 if taken from a genital location. If you received oral sex in the days leading into 7 March then it is 50/50 as to whether this is HSV-1 or HSV-2. You could contact your doctor and confirm if the swab was actually typed (which is a second test where fluorescent antibodies for HSV-1 and HSV-2 are added and see which one 'glows').  If that test wasn't done then you do not know type. If you have oral HSV-1 yourself (cold sores) then this will be HSV-2. Does your partner have oral HSV-1? It is somewhat strange for him not to rush and test - many people have a 'reaction' if they truly do not know their status and have concerns that you infected them etc. (not initially rational of course). This indicates he may know his status - or maybe he just isn't simply the sharpest tool in the shed!?
    • EssenceL25
      I had flu like symptoms and ulcers on my vagina . They did a culture and I tested positive for hsv2. I asked my partner to get tested he agreed but I’m not sure if he will cause he hasn’t said anything else about it. 
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