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My fiancee and I were planning to begin trying to have a baby when I was diagnosed. So far he isn't testing positive but he says since we're spending the rest of our lives together it doesn't matter if he gets it or not. So that isn't an issue with us about stopping the condoms to try and get pregnant but is it safe? Can I give this to my baby if I get pregnant and if so how likely is it?

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The only risk of the baby getting herpes is at the time of delivery, if you deliver vaginally and there are lesions at the time of delivery. During pregnancy the baby is protected by the amniotic sac and membranes, if you do have lesions at the time of delivery a c section will be done. :D

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is it safe? Can I give this to my baby if I get pregnant and if so how likely is it?

Yup. It is safe for you to get pregnant. Because your herpes infection is established prior to conceiving, your chances of passing on the infection is very very small. The greatest risk is to mothers who contract herpes during the last 2-3 months of their pregnancy.

There are things you can do to minimize the risk. Make sure your ob/gyn, midwife, or MFM knows you has herpes and is well-informed. Unfortunately, some aren't well versed in herpes. Physically point to the areas where you get outbreaks, so they will know where to look when it comes time to deliver. Talk to your physician about suppressive therapy during pregnancy, most are okay with any antiviral starting at 36wks. Decline internal fetal monitors during delivery unless there is a very compelling reason to do so. And talk to your physician about the risk of transmission when the membranes are ruputured for greater than 6 hrs. This increases the risk, but if other precautions are taken, then it's not a big issue.

Best of luck to you!

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You have to be careful

I was diagnosed several years ago and became pregnant in 2003. I was terrified of passing it to my son but my doctor assured me that the risk of transmission was very rare. If I'd had an outbreak during delivery I would have had a c-section, so I was careful to make sure I was all right. Since you already have it, the risk of you passing it to your baby is much lower than if you'd contract it AFTER you became pregnant. That can be very dangerous, according to my doc. Please just be careful. In the last few months of your pregnancy your doctor will probably put you on a suppressive therapy medication, to lessen the chance of you having an outbreak during delivery. My son is 100% healthy; no problems at all. Good luck!

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