people can be soo judgemental!

[veryunhappy]

I was speaking to a friend of mine and the subject of herpes came up. She was talking about how 'gross' and 'disgusting' it is. I mentioned that I had a couple of friends who contracted it from people who KNEW they were infected, but said nothing...and that I felt really sorry for them. (I am one of these infected people) This person has not spoken to me since. Won't return my emails or my phone calls. Isn't that crazy? She won't speak to me because she knows I have friends that have herpes?! Could you get any more closed minded?!!!

[cindylouwho]

wow, she's going to be a very lonely person some day. Kind of have to feel sorry for her, huh? and if only she knew, here's someone who's infected with Herpes and I'M feeling sorry for HER

[feelinalone]

you are so true! who wants a friend who will turn like that on a person just for "knowing" someone. you should be glad she is not your friend and you found this out now. i hope if anyone i know found out that they would not be so rude.

I was out with some friends the other day and i mentioned that i picked something up, i did't say what it was but she actually told me that she had an std once, thank goodness for her it was curable. I know that i didn't tell her the whole truth but i know that from the way she responded that i could. i hope you have some people that are the same.

And who knows, she may even find herself in the same position as we are one day,(and i hope she doesn't because i wouldn't wish it on anyone) and then she will know the hurt that is causes when people don't understand.

keep smiling there are good people out there!

[codecontra]

wow, that's insanely shallow. what a looooser.

[kjm]

Your Friend is wack and since 1 in five people in the US have the disease, she may be a carrier and not even know it.

Remember some folks are in your life for a moment, some for a while, and some for a lifetime. People let you know who they are. Be glad you know that your friend is a sometime friend.

I have been fortunate in friendships and sexual relationships post exposure. Always know who you are and be true to who you are.

[wee96]

Its amazing how people look at STD's and even herpes especially, they think of them as being so dirty and nasty. They dont even half the time know that herpes only comes and goes, its not like you have blisters all over you all the time (well, most people).

[nojoke]

i am not sure i have it yet but symtpoms point to H but i dont know how people can judge another like that i am already sad and depressed and think nothing diffrent of any of you with H tho i am very upset with myself

[newbie123]

similiar experience

I had a similar experience tonight. I just found out I have contracted this last Friday. Well I went to happy hour with some girlfriends tonight and everything seemed normal. Then my girlfriend with cold sores says how she has to hide her bottle of Valtrex whenever her parents or guys come over to her apt b/c they will think she has the "bad herpes." The reminder that people have the stereotype that there is a "good" or normal herpes vs. "bad" herpes just really hit me. I wondered if I hadn't been diagnosed with this a week ago would I have acted like my friends and joke about the "bad herpes." and I don't think so..maybe b/c I am jewish and many times people have made jewish jokes in front of me not knowing i was jewish. just goes to tell you--you never know who you may be offending! I hate shallow people!!

[Delilah]

That is very unfortunate.. I told my best friend when I had my most recent outbreak in January that I contracted it 5 years ago from my husbands cold sore and you know how she took it? SHE DIDNT CARE. In fact she told me her sister contracted it from some guy when she was in college. and she also told me that two other of her friends have it and got it the exact same way I did. I was kinda floored. Her and I are going into business together. We are putting up two large greenhouses and we are going to open a acupuncture and reflexology clinic and she swares that we will find a cure doing what we are dong. She has hsv on her lips and is aware that they are the exact same virus...hell she wants a solution just as bad as I do. She's very special to me and I dont know what i'd do without her.

Pick your friends wisely. We have dozens of friends throughout our lives but in the end there is usually only one true friend in that whole bunch....and when you find that person..keep them close and let the others go about their business.

Del.

[whyme]

For us who have herpes, its easy to call people judgemental and shallow... but i can easily picture myself in their position. I would FEAR herpes, its dreaded by people. No shit... Telling people is not an option, i do not WANT to be treated as a freak. After all, which girl would WANT kiss me if they knew i had herpes? Fully understandable.. i just shut up. The best option. I just wish it was gone, life would be so much easier then. But i still have full understanding for the so-called judgemental people. They are concerned of themselves, an egoistic act yes, but thats human.