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I found out I had H about a month or so ago. I still haven't "accepted" it yet with myself, which is probably going to take a while. But it gets better everyday I guess. But my question is this.. exactly how far can a person go that has H with a person who does not-sexually i mean?? I wasn't that sexually active before I got H but more than normal. Now I want to wait until I meet the right person before having sex with someone again ,because, if I am in a relationship then I tell my partner that I have H (with him accepting it or not) and then things don't work out.... he'll know. I don't want people to know. Just the person that I am going to spend the rest of my life with (who knows if that will ever happen). So now I am going to wait until I am married to have sex again. But back to my question... Can any one tell me how far a person can go -sexually -that has H with a person who does not.. oral?? is that ok?? any replies would help!!! thanks to all of you

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It does take a long time to accept...but you will eventually. I feel the same as you...I do not want poeple to know and I even avoid dating so I do not have to deal with telling. BUT in the same breath, I was with a man for over a year, and he was very accepting and it was never an issue in our relationship. I guess I have not been with anyone since because I have not felt like they were the 'right person'. And there is alot more to a relationship than sex. Really, sex is 1 hour out of a day and the 'right person' needs to make u happy for the other 23 hours too. H has made me much more selective over the people I date because I know if it goes anywhere I eventually have to tell the person.

My advice....things will work out. When you meet the person you feel like you can tell, and that can support you and help you deal with H. Not all non-H people have a negative attitude about it...there are understanding people out there. Take care :)

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