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janiebear

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as i am almost positive that i do have it, i would like some advice on how to tell my boyfriend when i get back...he is the sweetest thing...he has been waiting for the "right one" to lose his virginity too...not long ago we bought some contraceptives for that "special time"....we have been together five months...i am 21, he is 22, we go to a small university. we have not slept together, but fooled around. I have two previous sexual partners, one i was with for two years, the other for three...and had no"relations "for a year before i met my current boyfriend, though i was still with the last one...long story, has to do with long distance and not being attracted to him,..i have never noticed anything on either of them, it was always protected, and I have not had any symptoms until now. All the same, I do not think that my current boyfriend given it to me, and i am mortified by what his reaction may be. I have never cheated on him. I am terrified I have inadvertantly ruined his life, and he of all people does not deserve this. now that you have some background, let me know what you think...there is advice in the relating forum about telling those you have not yet exposed...what about those you have exposed on accident already? we fooled around about two days before my first symptoms, then again after the nurse said everything was okay before i got my next symptoms.....i'm so dumb...and so sorry.....

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