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Hi everyone :-D,

Over the past few months I have struggled as all do with being diagnosed with this disease. I was affraid in God's eyes that it has made me a bad or dirty person. I have lost alot of faith because of getting it the way I did and at the young age of 17. I hope in some retrospect there is some reason I got this because there is a reason for everything right? If anyone has some advice, support or aything to help regain some faith I would appreciate it.



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I'm not a devout Christian, although I once was. I was raised in the church, though, and the roots of faith are still alive, so maybe I can share with you what I believe.

You say you think that having herpes makes you "a bad or dirty person" in God's eyes. I don't think that could be further from the truth. If anything, I believe it makes you more precious. God doesn't desert us. He never turns his back. If you feel estranged from God, it's because you have lost sight of him, not the other way around.

I read a lot of posts by people questioning why God caused this to happen, or allowed it to happen. I don't believe he caused it at all, or even allowed it. We all have free will to make our own choices, but all of the choices we make have consequences... some good, some bad, but whichever, we have to accept them. We can be angry, shake our fist in God's face, and lay the blame for our frailties on him, or we can humble ourselves, admit our mistakes, and move forward with as much grace as we can muster. The former takes us further away from God. The latter moves us closer.

We are all flawed. If we held ourselves up to the light of perfection, we would all find ourselves sorely wanting. He knows that, and accepts that of us.. even expects it of us. We are far harsher in judging ourselves than he ever was, or will be. We can fail him, disappoint him, even reject him, but he sees us for who we really are, in spite of our flaws. I think, actually, our weaknesses endear us to him more than our strengths, for it is our weakness that causes us to turn to him, to seek him out, to embrace his power. When we're most lost, he is most willing to lead us back to safety.

Our mistakes are not an affront to God. We may find them loathsome, but he doesn't. I think, in God's eyes, our weaknesses light the way to him, our mistakes are the path to finding him, and our sorrows are his invitation for us to accept grace. To him, you are not "bad and dirty". You're just an errant child in need of compassion.

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Hey there,

I know how you're feeling. It seems as if people think "christian with herpes" is an oximoron...but that is so not true! God is not angry with you, He does not think you are dirty, and he didn't give this to you to punish you. God gave us free will, and in a world with free will sin and bad things do exist. If God took away all of the "bad stuff" or controlled "bad things happening to good people" it would be inhibiting free will.

No one is free from sin, and God doesn't look at you any differently than anyone else. He is full of mercy and grace and loves you know matter what happens. All you have to do is accept it.

Check out this website: http://SpecialUser1234.com/herpes/christian-testimony.html

There's a lot of encouraging things on there.

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