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highonlife

I'm 17, any advice would be helpful.

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highonlife

I was diagnosed in june this year, right before i turned 17, at first i was a mess. Finding this site gives me hope that i can live a normal life, but anything anyone has to tell me would be great to hear. I havent seen anyone else posting on here that they are this young, but i hope i can still be involved in conversation here..

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SeizeTheDay07

Hey highonlife, welcome to the site! :)

I'm 20 and was diagnosed when I was 19.. on the beginning of June, about a month or less before my 20th birthday. Yes, it sucks at times but all we can do is keep on going! There are people who are even born with HSV.

And of course you can be involved, I know there are older and wiser people here, but everyone is here to help and give advice. I can't go long without checking out what else is new on this website! It has really helped me a lot to share my feelings with people who truly understand my frustrations.

You can message me any time if you need or want someone to talk to.

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Butterfly of the Moment

Hello darling I was diagnosed in May and I'm 23. I've noticed a few people on here who are still in their teens so you definately aren't the only one. I've been having a hard time coping as well and I've used this site so much...I'm always looking for the right words someone on here will say that will suddenly shine light on my situation and give me perspective and then I can move on with my life and not look bad. This is just a pebble in the road for those of us who have mild or no symptoms at all...you are young but wiser for it and i know it's frustrating to learn about life the hard way but i imagine for some of us it's the only way including myself *sigh* The only thing we can do is hold our heads up high and focus on creating solid relationships with the people in our lives based on love and trust. I know the stigma of this std is powerful but we must learn to look past it and see ourselves for what we are...and not how other people may view us in ignorance. For starters I would start taking vitamins and get some exercise. Do something that makes you happy everyday. Then I would research everything I can about having herpes because someday, when you want to tell someone that you have it, it's good to be able to give them information...the risks of passing it on are low if you know your body, don't have sex during outbreaks, use condoms, and keep your immune system strong. Taking anti-viral meds like valtrex or acyclovir reduces transmission by about 50% as well...i know you're only 17 though so you may not be able to get these without your parents knowing but I'm not sure.

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lioness
I was diagnosed in june this year, right before i turned 17, at first i was a mess. Finding this site gives me hope that i can live a normal life, but anything anyone has to tell me would be great to hear. I havent seen anyone else posting on here that they are this young, but i hope i can still be involved in conversation here..

Here I am :D I'm 17 too, diagnosed when I was 16. It's hard for us to have this so young, but hey sh*t happens right. It's great to see that you can recognize you can live a normal life, because you can. Sometimes I go for days without even thinking about having herpes.

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gotitsowhat

Herpes is

an annoying little virus even for someone like me and I'm 64, had hsv2Gh for 14 years. It's something you get used to. Lots of people manage it very well, have decent love lives and good self-images. One great thing about being 17 and having herpes is that, assuming a typical lifespan, you will live to see the cure. That cure could take a while though; good news is that there will most likely be a vaccine before the cure and that should be here in a few years. When a person can prevent getting herpes just by taking a vaccine, telling someone about having herpes won't be such a big deal. Also, coming soon are much better medical management techniques--there will be some new drugs that will suppress outbreaks one of these days (or years).

Meanwhile, the main thing is to take good care of yourself physically and emotionally. You may very well be one of those people who never has another outbreak.

As for your parents....if you believe they could handle the information and can talk to them about it, that would be helpful. They may provide support for you. But if you really believe you cannot talk to them, you can still get a doctor to prescribe meds (Planned Parenthood?) for herpes. If your parents find the meds, you can say it is for cold sores if you don't feel you can level with them about this.

Hope you're feeling better and that you are getting used to living with what is, after all, basically a "downstairs cold sore."

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highonlife

ok thank you everyone this did make me feel better. sorry i dont get on here everyday but ill try to keep up. i am on valtrex by the way i am able to get it through my doctors without my parents knowing which is nice. this isnt something id like to share with anyone that it isnt nessicary to.. but anyways thank you for all the information, its comforting that theres somewhere to i can go and not be so ashamed.

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penderlal

Herpes is common today. You are not alone if you are unluckily to get herpes. It is reported that about 80% USA people get herpes, some of them do not know they are infected.

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Looney

I wrote you this long reply just to see that this thing sign me off the site when I clicked on submit post 15 mins ago..lol :rolleyes:

I have not been diagnose with herpes but I did have a oral breakout and some symptoms in the nether regions but nothing else..And if Im correct I would be infected since 3 years ago since I havent had a partner since then.Im going to be 19 in the coming months,and I found this site not long ago although I dont post alot I been reading around and must say this site has been very helpful and is helping me prepare myself if I ever have an outbreak again.

Im here if you need anyone to talk to since Im pretty new to this too :)

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gotitsowhat

Stats vary but

cold sore type herpes (hsv1) is about 80% in north America, higher in some other countries. And one in 5 men, one in 4 women carry hsv2GH. Most of these people do not know it.

Herpes is very common and it is passed around until someone unlucky gets it and, unlike most people who get it, actually has symptoms. That person goes to a doctor and is diagnosed and then that person has the responsibility of telling former sex partners and prospective new sex partners--very embarrassing. And very unfair. We know we have it so we have the responsibility while a whole lot of other people have it and do not know they have it.

So those who don't know they have it (or could have it) get to look down on, and make fun of, those of us who happened to experience symptoms and get diagnosed. Lots of times the kind of people who laugh about herpes and think they could never get it are the kind of people who play around a lot in their own sex lives but think they are above catching herpes. The ignorant and irresponsible get to rule over those of us who are responsible and aware. Is that crazy or what?

When we realize how crazy that is, we are starting to remove our own minds from the social stigma. When we can free ourselves from that, we remove a lot of the suffering of herpes. We have to decide that we are not bad people because we caught a common virus even though we can recognize that some ignorant mean spirited people will see us as bad. Even if a lot of people believe we are bad, we have to develop the insight and strength to realize that judging someone negatively because that person was unlucky and caught a common virus is ridiculous. Almost every human being has sex at some point. People are designed that way. We are unlucky, not bad. Believe that and you are past a lot of the crap this condition can hand you.

Down with the stigma!

I'm going out to wear a herpes tank top.

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highonlife

thanks. your reply was really interesting and true. everything you said makes sense. made me happy :)

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