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Hi I found out i had herpes four days ago, im very upset depressed and cant stop thinking about it every thought is about it, at least now i can say the word i couldnt till today. The only thing keeping me going is the suprisingly good reaction of my new boyfriend (3 months). He doesnt think any less of me because the fact is I may have gotten it from him neither of us are sure, he said he was tested 6-8months ago but doesnt know if they did a herpes test. He has been so supportive but i continue to obesess about it and worry if this relationship doesnt work how will i ever tell someone i have herpes, especially people my own age or younger. i can thank my partner enough for his support i felt totally awful, disgusting and gross to begin with but now i see that if he can accept it like he has then we have a good basis for a good relationship even though i have found this out. i do wanna know if there are forums for dating because i assume its easier to meet someone with the same issue????? i just dont know how i can socialise and meet guys like i used to.......i realise this changes alot for me. hopefully my current partner and i can make it work, we were going great and falling fast and then this......

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It's awesome that's he's supportitive.. I got lucky that mine was too... we're still talking also..

I didn't go the dating H website route.. I've heard that their aren't that many people on there...

And time will definitely help you when you're ready to talk to someone about H...

How old are you by the way?

I'm 26 and got H in June of this year..

(personally) b/c my guy didn't treat me any differently... I didn't change things either.. We still do everything like before we found out including sex and oral and whatever else we want... I don't really talk to him about it when i'm struggling... I get on this website and talk to others that can relate (I don't want to remind him of something bad) ...

that's just me. ... and everyone is different about handling things...

I'm here if you ever need to talk.. you can click on my name and send a private message (PM) and talk about anything going on...

WELCOME to the site.. we're here for you!

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    • valleynovascotia
      Any advice on on how i can change the way she thinks of her insecurities in the event I ever see her again or hang out with her or do you guys think that it's better too just walk away. The truth is though i never met another girl like her before and she was fine with me having herpes i could tell by the she reacted too it . How do you change the way someone views them self that has low self esteem. 
    • WilsoInAus
      Note @Asr624 that an IgM result does not confirm a herpes diagnosis. Was the rash swabbed as well?
    • LiveLife100
      Yes it's entirely possible that he didn't know and just now gave it to you. I've been with my husband almost 19 years and he was recently tested and is still negative. It's still possible of course that I could give it to him at any point. Sounds like you have a strong marriage and there is no reason this needs to be an issue other than a minor annoyance. I have 2 healthy children and have had no related medical issues due to HSV.
    • Hellothere123
      I have been with him and didn’t tell him and now I can’t tell him because I know it would ruin any chance of reconciliation. I don’t want to live with this and I don’t want to live without him 
    • Asr624
      I am so sorry that happened to you. No one deserves that. Praying for you. 

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