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I was diagnosed 2004 and was told it wasn't the bad kind. silly me for believing that. Rewind to 2006 met a guy never told him about my conditon we dated a yr and a half while having sex with no protection. Recently he came back into my life and wants to get back together I told him about it this time. He says he been tested and he doesn" t have it. he says we can work it out and he won't judge me . But this is what I dnt understand i met a guy in april we had sex with protection 3wks later he is infected. How can the first guy not get it but I gave to the second guy ? when i was first diagnosed i had it on my tongue never got it on my gentials so im confused what type is this? Since the first episode in 2004 I dnt believe i had another outbreak but can't be sure bcuz i always have a nasty taste in my mouth, and it feels weird but never hurts.

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it's crazy how this virus spreads and sheds... was the first guy specifically tested for herpes? b/c it's not included it standard STD screenings..

if he's willing to date you again is that what you're looking for?

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As with every other disease, some people are just more susceptible than others. And then there is also just plain luck: just 'cause the odds of getting it at any one time are low, doesn't mean you can't get it the very first time.

You don't know what is the situation is in this case (bf1 vs bf2), but it really doesn't matter.

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Well it sounds like you have HSV1 orally. And just because you have it does not automatically mean all your sexual partners will get it as well. So the first guy could have had sex with you and never got it.

Did you have unprotected oral sex with the second guy? That would explain how he got it.

There is not an exact science that can tell you when you are transmitting and when you are not.

Good luck!


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Try a Lysine supplement for cold sores

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    • Herpeguy562
      Give it a try and report back to us. It's pretty safe vaccine approved by the FDA.
    • Skye249
      Have you tried changing your GP surgery? A decent doctor must surely realise that having back to back outbreaks warrants long term suppressive medication.  Aciclovir is available at very low cost to the NHS. I'd be firm with your doctor in what you'd like to do and make it clear you are educated on the relevant issues.  Don't be ashamed to talk to your GP. It is confidential.  FYI - walk in sexual health clinics (separate health record) are only as allowed to dispense a limited amount on the basis of episodic treatments. 
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      I agree, herpes doesn’t show up as discrete little dots like your pic.
    • HereAndNowLater
      @Kurdt01Thank you! Very validating! And yes many doctors are so uninformed and misinformed it's incredibly frustrating.  ur right in multiple forums I've seen commenters invalidate someone's experience with herpes which is so weird. There's a wealth of experiences similar to both of ours but people put their hands to their ears and drill home "herpes is just a minor rash outbreak, nothing more."
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      I got the zinc acetate from an pharmacy in my town, they can't sell reagents but I know the pharmacist. I cost me about 10 € a 50 gr bottle, enough for a decade at the current rate of consumtion. Otherwise it is quite easy to get, you can buy it from a laboratory or even in ebay. I apply the treatment on my glans about 2-3 times a week, I've never had any problem or adverse effect so far.

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