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jazzy1

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jazzy1

I was diagnosed about 5 weeks ago now and my head is still realing from it. I am so confused and have so many questions, that I am not really sure where to begin. All I know is what the doctors have told me....that I have been "exposed" to herpes 1 and 2 in the past....and at this point there is no way of knowing how long I have had the virus.

This has been a shock to both my boyfriend of 7 years and I....to the point where I am not even sure if he can be with me any more.

I just feel ruined.

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Butterfly of the Moment

You are not ruined despite what this stigma is telling you...don't be poisoned by it. Stay strong woman. If you have been with your man for 7 years he most likely has it too...and if he doesn't here's the thing...if you take suppressive meds, use a condom, and don't have sex during outbreaks...you only have a 1% chance of giving him the virus...DO NOT LIVE IN A BUBBLE PLEASE. I don't see a problem unless you think he cheated on you or is not being supportive...if you love eachother and plan on remaining together longer...just live life the way you always did and get informed...research herpes and take care of yourselves.

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WarriorKing

"Exposed" is all that happened. I have had to fight off viruses of one sort or another my whole life. Those viruses were not me and they died and I am still me. This one does not have a "cure" yet but usually lessens in severity as time goes on. I have had this little irritant for 30 years now. Don't let the little bugger get into your mind or emotions. He isn't worth it. Or is a virus a she?

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jazzy1

Thanks

Thanks,

It's funny...everyone, even my doctor tells me not to beat myself up over this. I guess I just haven't figured out how to stop that yet.

In the mean time, I have started taking suppressive medications and researching. And despite the coronary I almost had when I learned that chocolate was on the "bad list", I am working on taking better care of myself.

I suppose I will get used to this whole thing...but sometimes it feels like I never will.

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dawnlw0418

You are not ruined. Have your boyfriend tested also, he could very well be positive and never had any symptoms. My fiance was tested after I found out and turns out he is positive too, never having any symptoms. So, I think it has made us a stronger couple actually. Good luck and it will get better!

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gotitsowhat

About chocolate...

I eat chocolate, peanut butter, nuts and all kinds of things that are on the list of foods that some say should be avoided if you have hsv. It doesn't seem to make any difference. Lots of people do not follow any particular dietary restrictions.

These dietary considerations are just foods that, for some people, seem to trigger outbreaks. The best thing to do is to learn what, if anything, seems to be the triggers for your outbreaks. We are all different. This is a list of foods to think about when you are thinking about what might trigger your outbreaks. In other words, if you have frequent outbreaks (and bear in mind that many people with herpes NEVER have more than one outbreak), you might want to try leaving certain types of foods out of your diet and see if that helps. For some people, this helps a lot. For others, like myself, it doesn't seem to make much difference, although I do take lysine when I feel an outbreak coming on.

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Awayday

I'm not used to it yet either, there are times when I sit back and think " why me" when my friends go out and have fun and do their thing and really I can't. I guess getting angry over it has got me nowhere and I think i'll always be confused, I don't even know how long I had it before I had outbreaks.

I guess the only way to deal with it is try and accept it, try and think that there are always people worse off than you with far worse life circumstances. We can still lead normal lives the only difference is that we have to be more careful and honest with other people doing it.

Try and keep smiling- you are definitely not ruined.

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