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My "personal" experience

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SkiMan

I am not the same. Never will be. Looking for the real thing but it is harder now. Keep on keeping on but it isn't always easy. The biggest difference is the confidence but that can come back. But it will take the right girl to bring that out. Eventually I willl find her. And we will smile together.

Does this belong on the poetic board? :mrgreen:

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GntiNh

I think you could put your thoughts in every section. All of us could have written your words.

My confidence did come back for a while, but it's been crushed. What do we do when we believe we have found that special person, only to find that they don't see us in the same way.

I wish I hadthe answer. I have looked and think would I have done it differently? But no I wouldn't. I let myself love someone, and however painful it is to accept, you can't make someone love you.

They have to feel the same. Their heart has to jump when they see you smile. Their hand has to reach out for yours, even when their pain is so great they can't speak. That yes you can enjoy the good things together but you can also feel their support and care when life is hard.

Why is it so difficult then to find a true partnership? I have so much to give and I was willing to give all, I did give, but they wanted more.

Is it better to have loved and lost? Is it better to know that you are capable of that magical feeling of happiness? To trust someone to dream of a future together.

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JBnATL

You don't need anyone to get your mojo back

Only you can make yourself happy. Relying on others to make you happy will most likely lead to disappointment.

JB

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lifesstillgood

skiman - it is hard to find the right person whether you have herpes or not. I do not think having herpes will hinder your progress. In fact I think having herpes will make finding the "right" person easier.

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