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I'm a bit lost, I am of Arabic decent / upbringing and on top of that, I'm Muslim. I was wondering if there are any Arabs on this board and even more specifically if there are any Muslims?

Obviously this kind of thing is very taboo in my culture. I don't know how I'll be able to connect to any woman from my background. There is no way in hell she will accept this.

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It is taboo in my culture too

Herpes is an indiscriminate disease. It has no cultural barriers.

And give your fellow Muslim women some credit. If they are intelligent and want to learn more about you and the disease they should see this as an insignificant virus.

Start the 'talk' out by asking them if they have ever had a cold sore. Chances are they will say 'yes'.

Good luck!

JB

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i'm same as you, arab and muslim and i know how difficult it would be to get married to arab and muslim lady if one got std

but it's not the end of thw world, i'm married but i can tell you that lots of married couples , muslims and arab are effected with this virus, and in my country around 30% of arab and muslim married couples do carry this virus, that's what i have been told by my doc...

it's a very common virus, patiance will get you what you want, keep well and hopefully you find what you want, and get married and have kids and live life with peace of mind

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in my country around 30% of arab and muslim married couples do carry this virus, that's what i have been told by my doc...

What country are you referring to? I presume you are talking about HSV-2?

I'm surprised by this 30% figure b/c we know that number of sex partners is a significant risk factor for genital herpes, and I would have guessed that promiscuity is considerably lower in Arab countries than in western countries.

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What country are you referring to? I presume you are talking about HSV-2?

I'm surprised by this 30% figure b/c we know that number of sex partners is a significant risk factor for genital herpes, and I would have guessed that promiscuity is considerably lower in Arab countries than in western countries.

You would be surprised. Most things that go on in the west go on in the Muslim world too, but its behind closed doors. Prostitution is rampant in Syria, the UAE is notorious for it too. I'm sure its probably prevalent in most middle east countries.

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well it was 30 % for both hsv 1 and 2 , and yes my doc told me that lots of people come with this infection than before, while he was speaking, for him it was really not dangerous, but just a normal disease

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well it was 30 % for both hsv 1 and 2 , and yes my doc told me that lots of people come with this infection than before, while he was speaking, for him it was really not dangerous, but just a normal disease

If you're saying that 70% does not have either 1 or 2, that's much better than the US, where probably only ~20% does not have either.

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I'm a bit lost, I am of Arabic decent / upbringing and on top of that, I'm Muslim. I was wondering if there are any Arabs on this board and even more specifically if there are any Muslims?

Obviously this kind of thing is very taboo in my culture. I don't know how I'll be able to connect to any woman from my background. There is no way in hell she will accept this.

i know how you feel. more than you know.

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well it was 30 % for both hsv 1 and 2 , and yes my doc told me that lots of people come with this infection than before, while he was speaking, for him it was really not dangerous, but just a normal disease

Herpes Wound, where are you from?

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hardtocope

I have a friend who is Arab (but not Muslim). A while back she dated a guy who told her he had HPV (genital warts). She freaked out for a second but then decided that she still wanted to date him and have sex with him. I know it's not the same virus but I thought maybe that would be encouraging.

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hardtocope

I have a friend who is Arab (but not Muslim). A while back she dated a guy who told her he had HPV (genital warts). She freaked out for a second but then decided that she still wanted to date him and have sex with him. I know it's not the same virus but I thought maybe that would be encouraging.

Hey that is encouraging, thanks for that. Maybe I have some hope after all. ;)

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im muslim and its more widespread than u might realise, its sooo common bt frowned upon greatly by ppl who dont have it and they dont have a clue how 'normal' it has become..especially if your muslim i guess ppl presume youve been insanely premiscuous! its not always the case! i knew a few muslims with herpes!

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salam alaykum you all!

I am muslim as well, though i am a convert, and not arabic. i study arabic though, and will soon be moving to syria. i was only recently diagnosed, and decided to be open with my friends and even the couple guys who have been asking to get engaged. everyone was surprisingly supportive, in fact more supportive than some of my american friends, you should give our fellow muslims more credit. sure there will be some who will be hateful, but many others i feel will understand the situation, especially if you explain it. it is not our place to judge anyone, only Allah can judge us, and a truly good muslim, and just good person will know that and accept you as you are. if youre still having problems, it seems there is a good number of us on this site :)

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This virus doesnt look for a resume , it hits all ages and cultures. If its 1 or 2. Stay Strong !! Dont let it make you forget who you are !!! Kick its ass!!! I believe the woman that wants to be your soulmate wouldnt care about a stupid skin condition. :) best of luck and asalam 3alikoum bro :)

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wow i did not expect to find any Muslims here. i was diagnosed last week with HSV2...and i am a single mom with 3 daughters. im sure you all can imagine how much depression i am going through right now. to top it all off, im not sure i can believe my partner if he "knew" he had the virus before or not... :(

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wow i did not expect to find any Muslims here. i was diagnosed last week with HSV2...and i am a single mom with 3 daughters. im sure you all can imagine how much depression i am going through right now. to top it all off, im not sure i can believe my partner if he "knew" he had the virus before or not... :(

Like others have posted, the virus doesn't discriminate, I'm a muslim from africa and i found out last year. Its tough living with it but I like to keep upbeat and focus on other things in life to take my mind away from it. Masalam

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Salam... I'm arab and muslim too. Syrian... I havent been diagnosed yet, but I'm sure I have it... If not I know I have something. This whole thing started 3 months ago and its been very tough. Life isnt the same, and sometimes I dont even want to get out of bed, I cry almost everyday, i dont know what to do.... but reading this has made me feel a little bit better. I thought I was the only muslim with an STD... happy to know I'm not...

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